26/11/2025
The Anti-Regret Guide to Horses, Hormones and Hard Days ❤
There is something wonderfully ridiculous about wanting horses. You imagine partnership and beach gallops. Life gives you mud, rain, flies, wind that rearranges your face, repetition, setbacks, near-death moments and farriers who ghost you. Then your hormones crash the party. Your brain turns to cotton wool, your joints protest and your to-do list becomes a horror film.
So when someone says they are too overwhelmed to work with their horse, I get it. But here is what people forget. The most inspiring horsewomen are not the ones with tidy lives. They are the ones life tried to break. Women who lost loved ones and came back sharper. People who survived cancer or live with it daily and say it taught them how to live. People who crawled out of trauma, chronic disease and hardship and still decided life is worth fighting for. People who woke up after a heart attack and whispered, “I wish I had made different choices.”
They are not superhuman. They just stopped pretending time is infinite. If I am lucky, I have maybe a thousand weeks left with horses. A thousand weeks to be conscious. A thousand weeks to stop letting comfort make the decisions. A thousand weeks is not many.
This is why conscious living matters. Not floating. Planning. Conscious rest is saying, “I am wrecked today. I rest and return Thursday.” Collapse is what happens when you pretend you are fine. Conscious push is the same. Do not wait to feel motivated. Hormones have made motivation unreliable. Use the Mel Robbins five second rule. Five seconds between “I should” and “nah.” Stand up, boots on, walk to the paddock before your brain invents the excuse. Not glamorous. But it works.
You fix your life bit by bit. Not by adding more horses, more clinics or more fantasy goals. Reality is kinder. Look at your time. Look at your energy. Pick one horse. One goal. One impossible task. Do it. Then do the next and clear your chaos.
And now for the uncomfortable part. Check your screen time. If it is creeping toward three hours, you are not too busy. You are quietly donating your life to algorithms that do not care whether you touch your horse again. Meanwhile your horse is in the paddock desperately needing movement and leadership.
Horses do not need perfection. They need try. They need you showing up messy and determined. They need you choosing yourself in small but consistent ways.
No one is coming to save your schedule. You earn confidence. You earn strength. You earn your life with horses by choosing it deliberately. Rest when needed. Push when needed. Plan both. Fight for both. You will never feel ready. Energy comes from effort. Momentum comes from action.
Rise, you glorious creature. Bit by bit. Choice by choice. Boot by boot. Your weeks are limited, and your horse is waiting ❤.
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IMAGE📸: Beautiful photograph by Lynn Jenkin
