Clare Procter Life Coaching

30/03/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW: HOW TO DO THE WORK – BY DR NICOLE LEPERA 📚

📕OVERVIEW 📕

In How to Do the Work, psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera offers a holistic and empowering approach to healing and personal growth. The book explores how our childhood experiences, subconscious patterns, and daily habits shape the way we think, feel, and behave as adults.

Rather than focusing solely on traditional therapy models, LePera emphasises self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and the power of small daily choices. She encourages readers to reconnect with themselves, understand their conditioning, and take an active role in their own healing.

At its core, this book is about reclaiming personal agency — learning that while we may not be responsible for the wounds we carry, we are capable of creating change and building healthier patterns moving forward.

🔑 KEY LESSONS 🔑

1. Our childhood patterns shape our adult behaviours
Many of our emotional reactions and coping strategies originate from early experiences. Becoming aware of these patterns is the first step toward change.

2. Awareness is the foundation of healing
Healing begins when we start observing our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours without judgement.

3. The nervous system plays a central role in our wellbeing
Stress responses such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn can become chronic if our nervous system is dysregulated.

4. Small daily habits create lasting transformation
Change doesn’t happen overnight. Consistent daily practices—such as mindfulness, boundary setting, and self-reflection—gradually rewire our patterns.

5. Self-responsibility is empowering
While our past influences us, we have the power to choose how we respond and grow moving forward.

🦉MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE🦉

One of the most powerful themes in this book is the idea that healing is not about fixing something “broken,” but about becoming more aware of our patterns and learning new ways of responding.

Dr. LePera reminds us that growth often begins with gentle awareness and we pause to notice our triggers, emotional responses, and habits, we create space for change.

For many readers, this book can feel both validating and empowering — offering language for experiences they may have felt but never fully understood.

It also reinforces an important message: healing is not a quick process, but a journey of reconnecting with ourselves and building supportive daily practices. If you are interested in starting to do some guided inner healing work this is a great book to use.

✍️ Reflection & Journal Prompts ✍️

• What emotional patterns or reactions do I notice repeating in my life?
• When I feel triggered, what might my nervous system be responding to?
• What beliefs about myself did I learn earlier in life that may no longer serve me?
• What small daily habits could support my emotional wellbeing?
• How might I practice responding to myself with more compassion?

A Gentle Practice Inspired by the Book

Try a simple daily awareness check-in:

At the end of the day, pause and ask yourself:
• What moments today felt emotionally activating?
• How did my body respond?
• What did I need in that moment?

This practice builds awareness and gradually strengthens your ability to respond to yourself with understanding rather than judgement.

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04/03/2026

28/02/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW: THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE – DR BESSEL VAN DER KOLK 📚

📕OVERVIEW 📕

This month I have chosen The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk who explores how trauma is not just something that lives in our memories — it lives in our bodies. Drawing on decades of research and clinical work, he explains how trauma reshapes the brain, impacts relationships, and influences how safe we feel in the world.

This isn’t just a clinical book about Trauma it is a compassionate exploration of how early attachment wounds, chronic stress, neglect, and overwhelming experiences shape our nervous system — and most importantly, how healing is possible. It’s both science-based and deeply human.

🔑 KEY LESSONS 🔑

✨ 1. Trauma lives in the body

Trauma isn’t simply about what happened — it’s about what your nervous system had to do to survive. When experiences overwhelm our capacity to cope, the body holds onto the stress response long after the event has passed.

✨ 2. You cannot think your way out of trauma

Insight alone isn’t enough. Healing requires working with the body, the nervous system, and felt experience — not just talking about what happened.

✨ 3. Safety is the foundation of healing

Whether through therapy, relationships, movement, or mindfulness — healing begins when the body experiences safety again.

✨ 4. Regulation before reflection

Before we can process painful experiences, we must first learn how to regulate. Breath, grounding, movement, rhythm, and connection are powerful tools.

✨ 5. Healing is possible

From EMDR to yoga, neurofeedback to theatre, this book offers hope. The brain can change. The nervous system can relearn safety.

⭐️ Why This Book Matters

Many high-functioning, capable adults carry invisible trauma responses — perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, hyper-independence.

This book helps us understand that these are not character flaws. They are adaptive survival strategies.

And once we understand that… we can begin to gently shift them.

For anyone navigating burnout, relationship breakdown, emotional overwhelm, or chronic stress — this book offers language for what your body may already know.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS ✍️

Use these prompts as a personal learning exercise:

1. When do I feel most activated in my body? What tends to trigger that response?

2. What does safety feel like physically for me?

3. Where in my life am I still operating from survival rather than choice?

4. What small practices help me feel grounded and present?

5. If my body could speak, what would it say it needs right now?

⭐️ MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE ⭐️

This is an enlightening read as I believe it shifts our perspective to fully appreciate that our body is the first stage in our communication system with the outside world not our mind. It provides understanding around the shame we feel about our outdated survival strategies moving us from self-blame to self-compassion, from surviving to reconnecting. If healing means learning to listen inward, this book is a reminder that the body has been speaking all along and we just need to learn to listen to it.

17/02/2026

🔥 🐎 EMBRACE THE POWER OF THE FIRE HORSE 🔥 🐎

As we step into the Year of the Fire Horse in the Chinese zodiac, we enter a year of passion, bold movement, and fearless transformation.

The Horse already represents freedom, drive, courage, and forward momentum and this year it’s amplified by one of the 5 elements..Fire 🔥 so everything is intensified.

This is not a small year.
This is a breakthrough year.

🔥FIRE HORSE YEAR GUIDANCE🔥

1. Follow What Lights You Up

Your desires are not random — they are guidance. Notice what energises you rather than drains you.

2. Move at a Sustainable Pace

The Horse teaches endurance. This year isn’t about burnout; it’s about steady progress.

3. Reclaim Your Inner Power

Fire is your life force. Where have you been giving your energy away? This is a year to call it back.

4. Let Yourself Be Seen

Fire illuminates. You don’t have to be loud to shine. Simply being authentic is enough.

5. Embrace Your Independence

The Horse thrives when it runs free. Where in your life are you ready to break limiting beliefs, outdated roles, or expectations that no longer serve you?

6. Trust Your Inner Compass

The Horse is intuitive and instinctive. Reconnect with your inner wisdom. Your next step may not make sense to everyone — but it only needs to make sense to you.

7. Run With the Right Herd

Surround yourself with people who energize, support, and challenge you to grow.

Ask yourself:
👉 Where am I being called to move forward boldly?
👉 What dream have I kept tied up that’s ready to run free?

🔥 The Fire Horse year asks:
Where are you playing small when you were meant to blaze?
What would change if you trusted your power fully?

This is a year to embrace your fire within. To choose courage over comfort. To run toward your purpose — lit from within.

Let this be the year you stop dimming your light. You were never meant to smoulder. You were meant to shine bright 🌟

06/02/2026

The somatic hug.. a quick tool to calm your nervous system 🤗

01/02/2026

Happy February 💕

28/01/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW - EMOTIONAL AGILITY by SUSAN DAVID 📚

📕 OVERVIEW 📕

This month I have chosen the book Emotional Agility by Psychologist Susan David where she explores how our inner emotional world shapes the quality of our lives. She introduces the concept of emotional agility — the ability to experience thoughts and feelings fully, without being controlled by them, and to respond in ways that align with our values rather than our habits.

Rather than encouraging “positive thinking” or emotional suppression, this book teaches us how to face difficult emotions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. It’s about learning how to show up for our lives — even when it’s uncomfortable — and choosing growth over avoidance.

💡 KEY LESSONS 💡

✨ 1) Emotions are data, not directives
Feelings give us information, but they don’t have to dictate our actions.

✨ 2) Discomfort is part of growth
Avoiding difficult emotions keeps us stuck; leaning into them helps us move forward.

✨ 3) Unhook from unhelpful stories
We often get trapped in rigid narratives (“I’m not good enough,” “This always happens to me”). Emotional agility helps us notice these stories without letting them define us.

✨ 4) Values over goals
Goals can change, but values guide how we live daily. Acting from values creates lasting fulfillment.

✨ 5) Self-compassion builds resilience
Being kind to ourselves during struggle isn’t weakness — it’s a strength.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS ✍️

Use these prompts as a personal learning exercise:

📝 1) What emotions do I tend to avoid or suppress? What do I fear might happen if I allowed myself to feel them?

📝 2) What recurring inner story do I notice when I’m stressed or challenged?

📝 3) When I pause instead of reacting, what choices become available to me?

📝 4) What are three core values I want my decisions to reflect — even during difficult moments?

📝 5) How can I practice responding rather than reacting this week?

⭐️ MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE ⭐️

As a life coach, I see Emotional Agility as a powerful reminder that personal growth is about understanding yourself.

So many people believe they need to feel confident, calm, or “ready” before taking action. Susan David flips this idea on its head. You don’t need to eliminate fear, self-doubt, or sadness you need to learn how to move forward with them.

Emotional agility is a skill we can all practice daily:
• Pausing instead of reacting
• Listening instead of judging
• Choosing values instead of habits

When we stop fighting our emotions and start learning from them, real transformation begins.

14/01/2026

Love this advice ⭐️

03/01/2026

Have you tried EFT tapping? ❤️

01/01/2026

HAPPY NEW YEAR to all my wonderful followers…I hope 2026 fills your cup with Peace Joy Hope and Love ❤️

25/12/2025

Merry Christmas 🎄 Wishing all my wonderful followers peace, love and joy ❤️

22/12/2025

📚 MONTHLY SELF-DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW 📚

📖 OVERVIEW 📕

This month’s book I have chosen is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey — a classic in personal development. Rather than focusing on quick fixes or surface-level success, Covey’s work is rooted in character, values, and long-term inner alignment. The book invites us to take responsibility for our lives and move from reacting to life, to consciously creating it.

🌟 KEY LESSONS 🌟

THE 7 HABITS:

1. Be Proactive
Take responsibility for your life by focusing on what you can control and choosing your response, rather than reacting to circumstances.

2. Begin with the End in Mind
Get clear on your values and vision so your daily actions align with the life and person you want to become.

3. Put First Things First
Prioritise what truly matters, not just what feels urgent, by organising your time around your values.

4. Think Win–Win
Approach relationships and challenges with the mindset that solutions can benefit everyone, not just one side.

5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Practice deep, empathetic listening before expressing your own perspective.

6. Synergise
Value differences and collaborate openly, knowing that shared solutions are often better than individual ones.

7. Sharpen the Saw
Invest regularly in renewing yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to sustain long-term effectiveness.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS ✍️

1. Be Proactive
Where in my life can I take back ownership instead of waiting for things to change?

2. Begin with the End in Mind
What values do I want my decisions to reflect, and how do I want my life to feel?

3. Put First Things First
What am I saying “yes” to that pulls me away from what truly matters?

4. Think Win–Win
How can I honour both my needs and the needs of others in my relationships?

5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Where could I listen more deeply before responding or explaining myself?

6. Synergise
What strengths or perspectives could I welcome from others to create better outcomes?

7. Sharpen the Saw
How am I currently caring for my energy, wellbeing, and inner balance?

🦉 MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE 🦉

In my coaching work, I often see how life-changing it is when people move from feeling overwhelmed or out of control to feeling grounded and empowered. What makes The 7 Habits so impactful is its focus on alignment — between values, actions, and relationships. This book isn’t about doing more; it’s about living more intentionally, with integrity and balance at the centre.

If you’re seeking sustainable change rather than short-term motivation, this book offers a solid foundation to return to again and again. It’s an all time classic for anyone who is interested in self development.

💭 Have you read this book before? Which habit resonates most with you right now?