Clare Procter Life Coaching

12/11/2025

04/11/2025

Have you heard Brene Brown’s Marble Jar theory about TRUST?

31/10/2025

📚 SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW - WHY HAS NOBODY TOLD ME THIS BEFORE? by DR JULIE SMITH 📚

🌟 OVERVIEW 🌟

This month I have chosen this book because it is a powerful and practical guide to understanding our emotions and building emotional resilience. Drawing from her experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Smith offers accessible tools to help us manage life’s inevitable challenges — from low mood and anxiety to motivation and self-doubt.

What stands out most about this book is its warmth and simplicity. Dr. Smith translates psychological insights into relatable, everyday language, helping readers feel both understood and equipped to take meaningful action toward better mental wellbeing.

💡 KEY LESSONS 💡

1. Emotions Are Messengers – Our emotions aren’t problems to be solved but signals guiding us toward what needs attention or care.
2. Progress Comes From Small, Consistent Steps – Real growth happens through steady, intentional actions rather than big leaps.
3. Our Thoughts Influence Our Reality – By learning to observe and reframe unhelpful thoughts, we can shift how we experience the world.
4. Self-Compassion Is Strength – Treating ourselves with kindness fuels resilience and creates space for genuine transformation.
5. Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional strength is a skill we build through awareness, practice, and patience.

🌟 REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS 🌟

• What emotions have I been avoiding, and what might they be asking me to notice?

• What small, consistent action could I take this week to move toward a goal or value that matters to me?

• How do I speak to myself in moments of difficulty, and what would it sound like if I responded with compassion instead?

• Which thought patterns tend to hold me back, and how could I reframe them in a more supportive way?

These prompts can help you develop a deeper self-awareness and help you connect with your emotions from a place of curiosity rather than judgment.

⭐️ MY COACHING PERPECTIVE ⭐️

As a coach, I deeply value how Dr. Smith bridges psychological insight with practical self-management strategies. This book reinforces what I often share with clients: that emotional wellbeing is not about eliminating difficult feelings, but about learning to navigate them with understanding and courage.

In coaching, we focus on empowering individuals to take small, aligned steps toward change — exactly the approach Dr. Smith encourages. Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? is a wonderful resource for anyone ready to strengthen their emotional toolkit and lead life from a place of awareness, compassion, and intentional action.

30/09/2025

📚 SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW ⭐️ FAWNING ⭐️

📖 OVERVIEW

This month’s book I have chosen is fighting, fleeing, freezing, FAWNING by Dr. Clayton — an exploration of the fawn stress response. While most of us have heard of fight, flight, and freeze, fawning is often overlooked. It’s the instinct to please, appease, or sacrifice our own needs in order to stay safe, connected, or accepted. Dr. Clayton’s work shines a light on how this response shows up in our lives, why it develops, and—most importantly—how we can begin to heal from it.

🌟 KEY LESSONS

• Fawning is a survival strategy, not a flaw in character.
• People-pleasing can create a sense of safety in the short term, but it keeps us from living authentically.
• Healing comes from awareness, slowing down, and tuning into your own needs.
• Boundaries are an act of self-respect, not selfishness.
• Reconnecting with your inner voice is the pathway to reclaiming balance and confidence.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS

If you’d like to explore your own relationship with fawning, here are a few prompts to guide you:
1. When do I notice myself saying “yes” when I really want to say “no”?
2. What emotions come up for me when I think about setting a boundary?
3. In what situations do I feel most authentic, and most myself?
4. How can I offer compassion to the parts of me that learned fawning as a way to stay safe?

🌱 MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE

As a coach, I often meet people who feel stuck in cycles of over-giving and people-pleasing, leaving their own needs last. What stands out in Fawning is its gentle reminder that this response is rooted in safety and survival—it’s not something to be ashamed of. This is something we often learned in childhood to keep the peace and protect ourselves. With the right support, awareness, and practice, it’s possible to shift from living in fawn mode to living in alignment with your values and inner truth.

This book is a compassionate guide for anyone who has ever felt they need to earn love or peace by abandoning themselves. It’s a step toward reclaiming your voice, your space, and your wholeness.

💭 Have you heard of the fawn response before? Do you recognise it in yourself? I’d love to hear your reflections in the comments.

19/09/2025

⭐️ Fully embrace the journey ⭐️

15/09/2025

📢 Just over a week to go! 📢

We are really looking forward to welcoming unpaid carers to our first session at Booth Hall, Catterick on Wed 24th September! 🌟

The first session has Tara, our Income Maximisation Adviser attending to help explain eligibility for benefits, services and much more.. We find so often people miss out as aren't always aware of what's out there - an amazing start! 😃

Thanks to funding from the Armed Forces Covenant the sessions are totally free of charge!

We have a couple of spaces available if you would like to come along - If you look after someone due to their ill health or disability and have military links within your family do get in touch! 🇬🇧

More info 👇

07/09/2025

❤️ WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A CARER? ❤️

A carer is anyone who looks after a family member, friend, or loved one who cannot manage fully on their own because of illness, disability, age, or mental health needs.

Caring often isn’t something we choose — it’s something that grows out of love, duty, or circumstance. We may suddenly find ourselves in this role after a health crisis, or gradually as someone’s needs increase over time.

Being a carer can mean:
✨Putting another person’s wellbeing at the heart of your daily life
✨ Providing practical help — cooking, cleaning, appointments, medication
✨ Giving emotional support, encouragement, and reassurance
✨ Often juggling work, family, and personal life alongside caring

Why do we take on this role? Because we care deeply. Because we love. Because we feel responsibility. Sometimes because there’s no one else to do it.

But while caring can be a profound expression of compassion, it can also come with hidden costs to our own energy, health, and identity. That’s why recognising yourself as a carer is powerful — it opens the door to seeking support, setting boundaries, and remembering that you matter too. 🌿 Here are a few tips in the image below 👇

29/08/2025

⭐️ ⭐️ GRATITUDE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER ⭐️ ⭐️

what 3 things are you grateful for today?

19/08/2025

⭐️ SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW ⭐️ THE MAGIC ⭐️

As a life coach I regularly read self development books so thought it may be beneficial to share a book with you every month. For my first book I have chosen The Magic by Rhonda Byrne because it explores how gratitude can transform the way we see and experience life. Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for shifting perspective, finding joy in the present, and creating more positive energy in our lives and I love this book.

⭐️ Overview

✨This book guides you through a 28-day practice of gratitude.
✨ Each day introduces a new way to apply gratitude in your life — from appreciating relationships, health, and work, to transforming challenges into opportunities.
✨ It’s simple, practical, and deeply impactful when you commit to it.

⭐️ Key Lessons

✨ Gratitude multiplies what you focus on. The more you appreciate, the more abundance flows into your life.
✨ Daily practice is the secret. Gratitude grows stronger when you use it consistently.
✨ Gratitude changes your inner world first. It shifts your energy, emotions, and mindset before you even see external results.
✨ Gratitude heals relationships. By appreciating people instead of criticising, connections naturally improve.

⭐️ Reflection & Journal Prompts

✨ What three things am I most grateful for today, and why?
✨ Who in my life do I need to express more gratitude toward?
✨ How would my life feel different if I started each day with a gratitude practice?
✨ Where can I find gratitude even in something I currently see as a challenge?

⭐️ My Coaching Perspective

Gratitude is more than just saying “thank you.” It’s a practice that shifts your energy, opens your heart, and reconnects you to your inner wisdom. This book shows how even small, consistent steps can create life-changing ripple effects.

👉 If you’d like support in building your own gratitude practice and applying these principles to your life, connect with me at Facebook: ClareProcterLifeCoaching.

24/07/2025

🚂 It’s Never Too Late to Change Direction 🚦

Ever realise you’re on the wrong train—literally or metaphorically?

Maybe it felt right when you boarded. Maybe it was the only train you thought was available. Or maybe you didn’t even notice until the scenery stopped making sense.

Here’s the truth: just because you’ve been on a certain track doesn’t mean you have to stay on it.

You are allowed to get off. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to say, “This isn’t where I want to go anymore.”

Whether it’s a career, a relationship, a habit, or even a mindset—you can choose a new direction at any time.

Changing trains might feel scary. But staying on the wrong one won’t get you where you truly want to be.

Where are you headed?
And is it time for a transfer?

09/07/2025

🎶 THE POWER OF MUSIC– ESPECIALLY LIVE MUSIC 🕺🎶

I have just been to a live concert and it reminded me of the power it has..Have you ever noticed how a song can instantly shift your mood, bring back a memory, or even inspire a breakthrough moment?

Now imagine the power of live music—where rhythm, energy, and emotion fill the space around you, syncing hearts and minds in real time.

✨ Live music is more than entertainment. It’s therapy.

✨ It lifts your energy, calms your nervous system, and releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin.

✨ It connects us—to ourselves, to each other, and to something bigger.

✨ It creates space for healing, joy, presence, and creativity.

As a coach, I often encourage clients to use music as a tool—whether it’s dancing it out to let go of stress, attending a live gig to reconnect with joy, or even just finding that one song that speaks to your soul when words can’t.

So here’s your invitation today: Go to a concert. Dance in your living room. Sing like nobody’s listening.
Let music move you—literally and emotionally. You might be surprised by what it shifts.

🎧 What’s a song or live music moment that’s changed your life?
Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear it. 👇