23/03/2026
š¶š¼ I look at this photo and over 12 years have now passed, I remember just how scary everything felt. It looks peaceful right?!
The truth - I had come close to not making it, I felt weak, overwhelmed, and completely unsure of myself. Everyone else seemed to know what they were doing with a babies, it came naturally and everyone assumed I would bounce into motherhood⦠I didnāt.
People wanted to visit straight away. I didnāt feel ready, but I didnāt know how to say no. I would cry so much needing help, but unsure of what help I needed. ā¤ļøāš©¹
Looking back, I wish Iād given myself more time. Just me, my husband, and our baby. Space to breathe. Space to heal. Space for self care. Space to gently find my way into motherhood.
If I could go back, Iād remind myself:
ā¤ļø you donāt have to rush this.
ā¤ļø youāre allowed to take your time.
ā¤ļø youāre allowed to set boundaries and protect your peace.
And itās not just in this situation either. We need that same care when weāre overwhelmed, starting something new, going through a breakup, healing, or simply trying to find our rhythm in life. We need to remember to give others space and thoughtful care too.
We found our way eventually and have a happy, healthy 12 year old. But it wasnāt without its worries, hurt, damage or long term effects.
Know your boundaries - where you can be flexible, and where you need to stand firm.
Those who canāt respect them donāt get to stay close.