06/11/2025
Perfectionism, the high standards, the “fancy clothing” — it’s all a disguise to hide the truth: you are full of self-doubt, and you’re terrified of letting people see it.
Your worst fear? That people might think you’re not doing well in life. Why? Because it would reinforce what you already secretly believe about yourself.
I can’t tell you exactly what that belief is here, because perfectionism hides different fears for different people. But I can tell you this: you wouldn’t be a perfectionist if you didn’t have a negative view of yourself.
Perfectionism is a safety behaviour. It’s your brain’s way of protecting you from something painful. And until that something is addressed, the pressure of being a perfectionist won’t go away.
👉 Whether you’re a perfectionist yourself, or you work with clients stuck in this pattern, check out the CBT Hub (CPD-certified course). Link in bio.
