Katie B Counselling

Katie B Counselling I am a fully trained, qualified and insured counsellor. Face to face counselling offered within Northamptonshire and Cambridgeshire.

On line or telephone counselling offered nationwide. You may be looking for a Counsellor because you have noticed you are feeling anxious, down or depressed. You may have experienced a bereavement which you are struggling to come to terms with or you are facing a dilemma in your personal life and you don't know where to turn. May be you are looking for someone to talk to and be heard without any judgement. If any of this sounds familiar I can help. Talking to someone and being heard can be a very powerful experience and this is something I provide for you. I work with individuals aged 13 years and over on a variety of issues. I am experienced of working with people who have suffered bereavement or a loss as well as with other problems that may be having an impact on your mental health. My aim is to give my clients the choice as to how we work together. I offer face to face, on line or telephone counselling to give you the choice that is best for you. The first step is to make contact with me and I will arrange a telephone appointment with you where you can explore with me the type of help I can provide.

This Christmas I am finishing work on Friday 19 December and having a two week break. It’s always a tricky one to choose...
10/12/2025

This Christmas I am finishing work on Friday 19 December and having a two week break. It’s always a tricky one to choose to do - we know we need the break but we are also very aware of how important sessions are to our lovely clients who may be finding this particular year difficult.

As someone in therapy you might feel very wobbly, overwhelmed or having very familiar feelings come over you.

Now is a really good time to make some plans about how you will cope during this period. The first step is to have a chat with your counsellor. Let them know your worries. They know you and can help you with some ideas of how to get through this.

Thinking about activities you can do and people you can reach out to is really important. Knowing you have something to rely on when things are feeling particularly hard.

This break can be an opportunity for self reflection (not critical talk) on how your journey is going. You might be able to notice small changes that reassure you things are improving.

Your sessions will be back to normal soon. Until then kindness to yourself is so important ❤️❤️❤️

We all enjoy lazy days but sometimes we use the word lazy to describe in a not so nice way. It comes up again and again ...
10/12/2025

We all enjoy lazy days but sometimes we use the word lazy to describe in a not so nice way.

It comes up again and again in the counselling room - the belief that not doing a thing must meat you are lazy. It takes me back to being at school and being told I was lazy - when actually I was very unhappy which was the reasons I wasn’t doing the work.

You hear is talk about our inner critic and this is a perfect example of if. We don’t recognise what is actually going on and instead keep telling ourselves we are lazy - until it suddenly becomes a character trait.

So next time you are describing yourself as lazy - have a think about what else might be going on.

December when you struggle with social anxiety can feel like a lot. It’s the month of socialising - office parties, drin...
09/12/2025

December when you struggle with social anxiety can feel like a lot. It’s the month of socialising - office parties, drinks with friends and family gatherings - it can feel like one party after another. Each one getting more and more difficult to attend as your social battery winds do

Every time I work with a client who has been bereaved I hear new things they have had to deal with as part of their grie...
08/12/2025

Every time I work with a client who has been bereaved I hear new things they have had to deal with as part of their grieving process.

There is no rule book on how to grieve for someone and the grieving process is unique. But there are some themes which impact all of us.

Have a read of my blog https://www.ktbcounselling.co.uk/the-things-people-dont-tell-you-about-grief/

Is there anything you would like to add about your experience with grief❓❓❓

This week I have spoken to a few people who have experienced or are going through grief. A common thing they have spoken...
06/12/2025

This week I have spoken to a few people who have experienced or are going through grief. A common thing they have spoken about is how some friends and family members have withdrawn from them since their bereavement. Some have even experienced people they know crossing the road to avoid them. I never used to believe this could happen but I saw it happen for my mum after my dad died.

Sometimes it can be hard to know what to say or do for someone who is grieving. But it really doesn’t have to be that complicated. Simple acts of compassion, care and thoughtfulness go a long way.

If you can think of other suggestions please do let me know below.

Grief can show up in so many different places in our lives. Often we can be having all those grief feelings but struggle...
05/12/2025

Grief can show up in so many different places in our lives.

Often we can be having all those grief feelings but struggle to recognise it because we have not had a bereavement. But loss can show up anywhere - from the death of someone we love to the loss of ideas, beliefs and versions of ourselves.

Recognising and validating those feelings is so important. It’s the first step to being able to start the healing process. So if you noticed that you are not yourself and that your feelings are all over the place - just have a think and see if there has been a significant change in your life.

04/12/2025

A bit of personal sharing about my own grief after the death of my parents. Sorry it is a bit long so thank you for sticking with it ❤️

Personally I was struck by the different experience I had after the death of my mum compared with when my dad died 5 years previously. I assumed that I would deal with it the same way - but I didn’t. The journey was different in so many ways. That’s why I am sharing my own experience because I know how much it helped me to know that everything I felt was normal - that I wasn’t doing it wrong.

Grief can be very a confusing time due to the conflicting emotions we have to deal with. I had sadness, pain, relief, guilt, anger (lots of anger) as well as some happiness and joy when talking about my parents after the loss with my family. Waves of emotions would come over me and they were out of my control.

There are so many places you can get support for your grief - charities, helplines, social media groups or counselling if you need something more than family or friend support. Asking for help is always a good thing. I spoke to my own counsellor and it really helped me understand and process the losses I had.

If you would like to know about any of the support that is out there - not just counselling please reach out and send me a message. You don’t have to do it on your own.

It’s questions I get asked a lot. What should my grief look like? How should I cope after a loss? Do you think I grieved...
03/12/2025

It’s questions I get asked a lot. What should my grief look like? How should I cope after a loss?
Do you think I grieved properly?

The simple answer to these questions are:
Your grief will be unique to you
There are practical ways to help you cope but until you are going through the bereavement it’s difficult to say how you should cope
Only you will know if you have grieved properly

Grief really doesn’t follow rules. There’s no correct way to do it. There are so many different factors that can impact the way we grieve - the support we have around us, how we process emotions normally, the relationship we had with the person who has died etc etc.

It’s hard because we might often compare our grief to people around us who are also grieving and we might worry if it looks different. We might also judge if their grief doesn’t look as difficult as yours. These comparison really won’t help you.

Grief is not linear - people will experience it differently and at different times. Your grief journey will be unique to you and usually there is not a wrong way to do it.

If you are worried about what your grief should look like please do drop me a message.


December can bring up so many different emotions. For many people it’s the season of happiness, joy and family. But for ...
01/12/2025

December can bring up so many different emotions. For many people it’s the season of happiness, joy and family. But for others it can be an incredibly difficult time of year.

I so wish there could be a magic wand for everyone who needs it this month - giving them what they need the most.

This month we will see social media lit up with posts about everyone’s perfect Christmas, we will be coaxed into spending loads of money convinced this will give us the perfect day or we will have reminders everyday that our Christmas is not the way we want it.

So on the first day of this difficult month take a deep breath. Validate the feelings you are having. Understanding your emotions will help you handle them in a more gentle empathic way.

This is a difficult time for you. So pace yourself. Think about asking for help if it feels impossible.

Psst - spoiler alert. The new characters take a while to bed in and it all feels a bit overwhelming for a while but then...
28/11/2025

Psst - spoiler alert. The new characters take a while to bed in and it all feels a bit overwhelming for a while but then….. wow! It’s amazing.

If December was a movie with you starring in it - what would it look like? Chilled out and peaceful or would it look a lot different.

Now is the time to think about how you want this December to go. We can make different choices and these can carry us through.

What do you fancy this year - the feel good version or the living on an edge thriller or maybe a horror movie?

Ok I do know it’s not as easy as this sounds especially when we are with more challenging emotions. When we are feeling ...
26/11/2025

Ok I do know it’s not as easy as this sounds especially when we are with more challenging emotions. When we are feeling scared or sad it can be really hard to just sit with that feeling. But it is a good idea to be interested in what emotion is trying to tell you and to be able to react to it with compassion.

Sometimes when we ignore our emotions this can lead to bigger issues like anxiety or persistent low mood. Becoming more aware of our emotions can be really helpful to our mental health.

On another note any guesses on the special appearance? Guesses below 👇👇👇👇😀😀

It’s the answer we give without thinking. The one that answers a question and stops a conversation. It might be because ...
24/11/2025

It’s the answer we give without thinking. The one that answers a question and stops a conversation.

It might be because we don’t want to tell someone we are not ok, it might be because we don’t trust the person answering or it might be because we just don’t know the person well enough to share with them.

As long as we are telling someone somewhere we are not ok so we can get some emotional support & not doing it on our own. The problem is we may not be telling anyone and that that’s hard.
Emotional support when things are aren’t great is important.

So today why not check in to see how many times you might say fine. Then have a little pause & ask yourself how fine you really are. If it’s not that great it might be time to ask for some help.

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