East Durham Counselling

East Durham Counselling An inclusive counselling service based in Peterlee, offering in person, telephone and online sessions

03/11/2025

No need to try and sugar coat it, trust me I know from experience that no matter if you acknowledge it or downplay it the person will always be Autistic...

Understanding our own Neurotypes is absolutely an essential step on us living a happier healthier life...

It's why I'll always educate and try to empower my children on their own personal Neurotypes, because honestly trying to live life not understanding why your brain and body works the way it does is fu***ng hard...

The earlier we learn how to self manage and regulate our brains and bodies to the best of our abilities the better it will be for us in the long run...

31/10/2025
30/10/2025

Cut yourself some slack đź’ś

28/10/2025

ADHD Isn't Always Loud - Sometimes, It's Invisible

When most people think of ADHD, they picture high energy, impulsivity, or visible restlessness in the classroom. But for many students, especially those with inattentive or combined-type ADHD, the struggle looks very different.

These students may appear quiet, hardworking, or even “model” pupils. They often go unnoticed because they spend so much energy trying to meet expectations, follow the rules, and avoid making mistakes. But behind the scenes, they’re masking enormous internal effort and anxiety.

While these students may not disrupt lessons or call attention to themselves, their ADHD is still very real. Their fast-paced thoughts, difficulties with focus, and fear of failure can create overwhelming anxiety that builds up throughout the school day, often only becoming visible at home, when they feel safe to release it.

This can lead to meltdowns, emotional exhaustion, or even shutdowns, similar to the experience of sensory overload in autistic individuals.

Hidden ADHD Can Look Like

•Arriving Extremely Early - Driven by a fear of being late or breaking a rule

•High Anxiety Levels - Many live with constant worry, especially about how they’re perceived by teachers or peers.

•Struggling to Focus at School - They may work well at home but find it hard to concentrate in busy, noisy classrooms.

•Occasional Misbehaviour with Big Emotions - One small mistake or moment of disruption can trigger intense guilt or shame, even if the teacher barely noticed it.

•Volunteering for Extra Tasks - Some will put themselves forward for jobs or errands just to move around with permission. It's a way of managing their internal energy without drawing attention.

•Appearing Like a “Model Student” While Falling Apart at Home - They might never miss homework, always say please and thank you, and never raise a hand in anger, but inside, they’re overwhelmed and exhausted from trying to keep up.

But just because a student isn’t disruptive doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling. ADHD presents in many different ways, and quieter presentations are just as valid and just as deserving of understanding and support

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06/10/2025

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I am NOT shaming or blaming men. I love all the men here, too. Just noticing a pattern.

Just want to be clear, that I see so many women daily who are the default parent, with ADHD (which she has just been diagnosed with), with ADHD kiddos, and ADHD husbands for whom they often become the quiet “manager”

This doesn’t mean the men don’t show up. It just still seems to somehow “fall” on the female to run the household (in heteronormative coupling).

I’m not sharing my scientific perspective, rather, anecdotal, but after years of doing this work, ENOUGH of a sample size to mention.

This isn’t a hater post in any way. Just observation 🙏. I wonder if there’s an enablement piece, a societal bias piece, etc.

Would LOVE your thoughts.

➡️Dr Jen TIP: COMMUNICATION is everything. Gentle, kind, “I’m not putting you on the defensive” communication. Example: “Hey babe, things are feeling very overwhelming for me, and I’d like to talk it out with you…”

Love you, all of you, all genders, I just have to call it like I’ve been seeing it, XO, Dr. Jen

16/09/2025

Support doesn’t have to mean full-time school. Some children need less, not more. At The Hub, we offer part-time provision (up to 15 hrs/week) for children who need time to recover, reconnect and rebuild at their own pace.

⏳ Short-term or longer-term support
🔄 Ideal for reintegration, transition, or stabilisation
đź’¬ Message us or email đź“© admin@sensesupport.org if this sounds like what your child needs

01/09/2025

Something I value deeply in my work is being there for my clients and supporting them through difficult times. My working hours are generally between 9am–3pm, Monday to Friday, but I try to make accommodations for those who can’t make sessions during the day where I am able. However, I simply don’t have that much free time that doesn’t require compromising my own or my family’s wellbeing.

Most of my clients know they are always welcome to reach out to me by text or email if you need to – but a reply may not come straight away.

Most clients understand and respect this, and are wonderfully accommodating when life gets in the way. I always aim to offer the same understanding in return.

Setting and keeping boundaries is part of healthy therapeutic work. It models self-care, respect, and balance – the very things we often talk about in sessions.

Thank you for respecting that when I’m not working, I’m giving my time and attention to my own family. This helps me to bring my best, most present self into our sessions.

31/08/2025
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Novus Business Centre, Judson Road, Northwest Industrial Estate
Peterlee
SR82QJ

Opening Hours

Monday 9am - 3pm
Tuesday 9am - 3pm
Wednesday 9am - 3pm
Thursday 9am - 3pm
Friday 9am - 3pm

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