20/04/2026
This is the kind of truth that asks something of all of us.
Not just to read it, but to rise into it.
To become the ones who teach through embodiment. Who create safety through boundaries. Who choose integrity when it would be easier to look away.
This is how new worlds are formed, through the courage of those willing to speak, and those willing to live differently.
I honour you deeply Amanda Jane for your voice, your truth, and your courage. I am so proud of you sister 🙏✨💜💜💜
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This is a long read, a painful one. I talk from my heart and experience and for everyone.
On Children, Contradiction, and the Culture We Are Wiring into the Next Generation.
We put it on classroom walls. We build it into PSHE lessons. We send it home in newsletters. Be kind. Respect others. Your body belongs to you. Consent matters. Then we hand children a screen and within minutes they can access cruelty, s*xualised behaviour, and po*******hy that depicts brutal s*xual violence as entertainment.
Children can find platforms that algorithmically serve them content teaching them that buying and selling s*x is a rite of passage, that dominance is the measure of a man and submission the measure of a woman. The s*x industry recruits in plain sight, dressed as empowerment and lifestyle. On certain platforms, children are actively encouraging one another to sell s*xual access to their bodies.
This is not a mystery. This is what happens when a society teaches contradictory things simultaneously and calls it normal.
Childhood Trauma
Gabor Maté has spent decades demonstrating how early experience shapes the developing brain — how trauma, attachment wounds, and environment wire children for the rest of their lives. Children do not choose their conditioning. They absorb it.
The nervous system of a child is in constant relationship with everything around it, learning what the world is, what is safe, what they are worth. Maté draws a direct line between childhood trauma and adult compulsion, addiction, and relational dysfunction — not dramatic trauma alone, but the chronic, low-level messages that tell a child they are not safe, not valued, not whole. That their body exists for someone else's use. Those messages are no longer whispered in corners. They are broadcast at full volume, twenty-four hours a day, through the most powerful delivery systems human beings have ever built.
Connecting the Dots
Child s*xual abuse, domestic abuse, and entry into the s*x industry are not separate phenomena with separate causes. They are connected. They share root systems. A child who is s*xually abused is far more likely to be exploited as an adolescent. A woman in a domestically abusive relationship experiences the same entrapment as a woman or man in prostitution, buying or selling— the same erosion of self, the same loss of options.
And yet our policies treat these as distinct silos. Domestic abuse services over here. Child protection over there. Sexual exploitation somewhere else. Each with its own funding stream, its own language, its own threshold for intervention. And in the gaps between them, children fall.
A Values Problem. A Courage Problem. A Political Will Problem.
We have s*xualised everything, children's clothing, advertising, music videos, social media — and then acted surprised when children internalise that s*xualisation as normal. We have allowed an industry built on s*xual exploitation to stream directly into children's bedrooms and called it free speech.
This is not a technology problem. It is a values and moral problem. Technology is the delivery mechanism. The content being delivered, the normalisation of violence, the commodification of human beings, the framing of dominance as desire — is a choice. It is what our culture has decided to permit, to profit from, and to call entertainment.
You cannot teach a child that their body is sacred on Tuesday and then immerse them in a culture that treats bodies as commodities for the other six days of the week.
What Love Actually Looks Like.
Maté speaks about the fundamental human need for attachment, to be seen, held, and known. When that need is met, children develop a secure base. When it is not, disrupted by trauma, absence, or a culture that teaches disconnection, children adapt. They learn to get their needs met in whatever way the environment makes available.
The s*x industry does not create the need for connection. It exploits a need that was never properly met, offering a counterfeit intimacy that costs the buyer nothing and those who are sold everything.
If we want to truly protect children, we need adults who model healthy relationships. Boys taught that strength is not dominance. Girls taught that their worth is not located in their body or their compliance. Adults willing to stop sending contradictory messages — and to have the courage to choose differently.
The children being harmed today are not a separate problem from the adults who were harmed yesterday. They are the same story, moving through time. The cycle does not break itself.
The question is not whether we know enough to act. We know enough.
The question is whether we love ourselves, each other and our children enough to be uncomfortable. We need to start talking and boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
