18/03/2026
When your child says, “I don’t get it,” it can be tempting to step in straight away and explain or give them the answer. However, one of the most powerful things you can do as a parent(or teacher) is to pause and guide them to think it through themselves.
In the classroom, I often respond by asking a few simple questions:
• Which part don’t you understand?
• Are you adding or subtracting?
• Do you know how to set it out?
• Can you show me how you would start the question?
These prompts gently encourage children to reflect on their thinking rather than feeling stuck or overwhelmed. More often than not, they do know something about the problem—they just need help finishing it.
By asking questions instead of giving answers, you are helping your child build confidence, develop problem-solving skills, and take ownership of their learning. Over time, this approach helps them become more independent and resilient when faced with challenges.
It is not about getting everything right immediately. It is about helping children learn how to approach a problem, make a start, and keep going.
A small change in how we respond can make a big difference in how children see themselves as learners.