23/10/2025
Staying 'regulated' is a bit of a buzzword in the health and wellness industry.
This seems to have become interpreted as staying calm and centred no matter what. But humans are simply not designed that way.
Constant stability and calmness is more like apathy from a disregulated nervous system.
Regulation is about aliveness, not perfection. Healing isn't about becoming calm, it's about becoming honest, and recognising that sometimes the most 'regulating' thing we can do is weep, shake, rage, laugh, sing, or even talk out loud to yourself.
We are taught and expected to shut ourselves down and to remain in control of ourselves constantly. But it is allowing ourselves to feel that leads to feeling more regulated. Your nervous system does not need more politeness, it needs truth. ❤️
