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11/11/2025

🔥Learning to Set Healthy Boundaries

Most people don’t realize that poor boundaries aren’t a sign of weakness… they’re a sign of survival. Somewhere along the way, you learned that keeping the peace was safer than speaking your truth… that saying “yes” when you wanted to say “no” was easier than risking rejection… that taking care of others made you lovable, even if it meant abandoning yourself.

But here’s the truth... love without boundaries becomes self-sacrifice, and peace without honesty becomes resentment.

You might notice it showing up in quiet ways. You hate letting people down. You agree with others just to keep the peace. You feel burned out, taken advantage of, or responsible for everyone’s happiness. You feel guilty for taking time for yourself. You avoid speaking up when you’re hurt. And yet, deep down, there’s a quiet voice inside whispering that something has to change.

If this feels familiar, you’re not broken... you’ve simply been conditioned to believe that love means overextending yourself. But healing begins the moment you remember that your worth doesn’t depend on how much you give, how agreeable you are, or how much you can endure.

Setting boundaries is not about building walls… it’s about creating clarity. It’s saying, “This is where I end and where you begin.” It’s an act of self-respect that allows real love, trust, and peace to grow.

So how do we start?

First, pause before saying “yes.” You don’t owe anyone an instant answer. Give yourself time to check in with your heart before committing.

Second, start with small no’s. Practice declining things that drain your energy... it’s okay to disappoint others to stay true to yourself.

Third, notice resentment. It’s your body’s way of saying, “A boundary has been crossed.” Listen to that signal.

Fourth, separate love from obligation. You can care deeply about others and still protect your peace. Real love doesn’t demand self-abandonment.

Fifth, communicate clearly. Say, “I’m not available right now.” “That doesn’t work for me.” “I need time to recharge.” Boundaries don’t need to be justified... they just need to be honored.

And finally, forgive yourself for the old patterns. You were doing the best you could with the tools you had. Healing starts the moment you decide to choose yourself.

Remember… saying “no” to others is often saying “yes” to your peace, your growth, your health, and your truth.

You are allowed to exist freely without guilt. You are allowed to protect your energy. You are allowed to be kind and firm at the same time.

The people meant for you will honor the boundaries you set... because those boundaries make space for authentic connection, not conditional love.

💛 Protect your energy. Speak your truth. Choose yourself, again and again.

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09/11/2025

🌌 The True Spiritual Partner 🌌

A true spiritual partner doesn’t save you... they remind you who you are. They don’t try to change you or fix you... they walk beside you while you remember your own light.

Real love isn’t about finding someone to complete you... it’s about finding someone who sees your soul clearly enough that you begin to see it too. They hold space for your growth... not by controlling the path, but by honoring your freedom to walk it.

A true partner doesn’t feed your ego... they feed your evolution. They mirror your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable... and love you through every version of yourself you are still learning to embrace.

Because sacred union isn’t about ownership... it’s about reflection. It’s when two souls stand face to face... and the divine recognizes itself in both.

✨ ZF 🔥

08/11/2025

As the winter months roll in folks are more prone to illness. So here is 11 of the natural remedies I’ve always used for me and my sons, loved ones and clients…

🍃Peppermint or fennel tea for sore stomach.

🍎Teaspoon of Raw Apple cider in full glass of water for indigestion or heart burn or eat an apple.

🍂Clove oil for sore, inflamed gums one drop rubbed on for a few minutes then rinse mouth out with water.

🧡Camomile and mandarin essential oil 2% in grapeseed rubbed clockwise on stomach for stomach pain, endometriosis, IBS or period pain.

♥️Hibiscus and hawthorn berry tea for lowering blood pressure.

🫚Also beetroot, celery, ginger, apple and turmeric juice blends help lower blood pressure, thin blood and reduce inflammation and pain.

🖤Black seed oil and oil of oregano for helping prevent viruses, improving hair condition and has so many other benefits too.

🍋Manuka honey, lemon, cinnamon, clove warm orange drink with hibiscus tea or elderberry syrup helps ward off or recover from cold and flu.

🍍Pineapple juice to drink and manuka honey drizzled over throat for dry coughs.

🌲Pine needle tea for phlegm.

🪴Steam inhalation with a few drops of eucalyptus oil for clearing sinuses.

Remember to do your own research, be informed on what’s best for your unique medical status, in addition to consulting with your trusted health professional about any concerns.



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28/10/2025

ME 🔷💠Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME) Summarized💠🔷

🔷What is Myalgic Encephalomyelitis?
Myalgic Encephalomyelitis literally means “muscle pain with inflammation of the brain and spinal cord.” But the reality of ME goes far beyond its name.

ME is a serious, complex NEUROLOGICAL DISEASE that affects an estimated 30 million people globally. It causes widespread dysfunction across multiple systems in the body. It disrupts the nervous, immune, and endocrine systems, impairs cellular energy production and ion transport, and often causes significant cardiovascular abnormalities.

🔷What is the main symptom of ME?
ME has more than 60 symptoms. Post-exertional malaise (PEM) is the hallmark symptom of ME. It refers to the worsening of symptoms following even minor physical, mental or emotional exertion, with symptoms typically worsening 12 to 72 hours after activity and lasting for days, weeks, months or even years.

🔷How sick are people with ME?
The spectrum of ME ranges from mild to very severe, with patients experiencing fluctuations in symptoms and severity over time:

💠Mild: Even mild ME patients are gravely ill. Only 25% of ME patients can work with great difficulty. Mild patients have lost at least 50% of their functionality

💠Moderate: Moderate ME patients are mostly housebound and often require a wheelchair outside of their homes. Daily tasks like bathing and cooking are a struggle

💠Severe: 25% of ME patients are severe or very severe. Severe patients are completely housebound and often bedridden. Most are extremely sensitive to sound, chemicals and light

💠Very severe: Very severe patients are completely bedridden, experience extreme pain, are often tube-fed, and many suffer from periodic paralysis and/or seizures.

Tragically, ME can be fatal. Some very severe patients die from complications of the disease. In countries where it's legal, some have even chosen euthanasia due to unbearable suffering.

ME deserves awareness, research, and compassionate understanding. It’s time the world takes this disease seriously.

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26/10/2025

Hence why the term ‘middle aged’ and ‘menopausal’ was introduced.

So you ‘accept’ the dying average age and you begin to manifest your death in your second half of your life.

Soon as you hit the magic 40 you start to manifest dying at 80, but you’ll get a few years of your pension and retirement before it after working all your life to pay for your mortgage, tax on everything and slaving to the systems.

Just another program to manipulate the mind.

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21/10/2025

Delicious savoury muffins perfect easy, quick, protein packed deliciousness for breakfast, quick lunch or packed lunches.

04/10/2025

Unveiling the Spectrum: A Vibrant Look Under the Neurodivergent Umbrella

The human mind is a vast and intricate universe, and for many, its unique wiring leads to experiences that fall outside typical neurological patterns. This beautiful illustration serves as a powerful visual representation of the Neurodivergent Umbrella 🧠, a crucial concept that helps us understand and embrace the rich diversity of human cognition. It's an invitation to recognize that difference isn't a deficit, but rather another way of being, perceiving, and interacting with the world.

At its core, neurodiversity posits that variations in brain function are natural and valuable. Just as biodiversity enriches ecosystems, neurodiversity enriches our society. Underneath this symbolic umbrella, we find a wide array of conditions and traits, each bringing its own set of strengths, challenges, and unique perspectives. From the rapid-fire thoughts and intense focus of ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) to the intricate social processing and deep interests often associated with Autism Spectrum Disorder, the spectrum is broad and varied.

The umbrella shelters conditions that affect learning and processing, such as Dyslexia, which impacts reading; Dyscalculia, affecting mathematical abilities; and Dysgraphia, which relates to writing difficulties. These are not signs of intelligence deficiencies, but rather different ways the brain processes information, often leading to alternative strengths in creativity, problem-solving, or spatial reasoning.

We also see conditions related to mental health and emotional regulation, including Bipolar Disorder, characterized by shifts in mood, energy, and activity levels; Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD); and Complex PTSD (CPTSD), which arises from prolonged trauma. These conditions, while often challenging, are integral parts of the neurodivergent landscape, highlighting the complex interplay between neurological function and lived experience.

Other conditions like Sensory Processing Disorder shed light on how individuals perceive and react to sensory input differently, while Tourette's Syndrome (TIC Disorders) involves involuntary movements and vocalizations. Rare conditions like Synesthesia, where senses intertwine (e.g., seeing sounds or tasting colors), further emphasize the extraordinary ways our brains can be wired.

It's vital to remember the asterisk next to "Neurodivergent Umbrella," signifying a "NON-EXHAUSTIVE LIST." This emphasizes that the umbrella is ever-expanding, a living concept that continues to grow as our understanding of neurological diversity deepens. There are countless nuances and individual experiences that cannot be fully captured in any single illustration. This image serves as a starting point for dialogue, education, and empathy.

By visually grouping these conditions, the illustration promotes a sense of community and shared understanding among neurodivergent individuals. It helps to destigmatize conditions that have historically been misunderstood or pathologized. When we view these traits through a neurodiversity lens, we shift from asking "What's wrong with you?" to "What are your unique strengths and needs?" This shift is crucial for fostering inclusive environments in schools, workplaces, and society at large. The vibrant colors and clear layout make this complex topic accessible and inviting, encouraging everyone to look closer and learn more about the beautiful diversity that exists within the human brain. 🌈

29/09/2025

I get triggered sometimes.

My wife says something that hurts or, more likely, I interpret it as something that hurts.

And that familiar rush floods my body as my insides turn to ice and I find myself spiralling inwards, collapsing into myself, shrinking… as reality starts feeling so far away I can't touch it anymore.

I tend to freeze first.

In my mind freeze is this benign reactive response.
I'm not doing anything, I'm silent, withdrawn… but I'm not saying anything.

Yet for her, my freeze is terrifying.
Suddenly I'm gone, no longer available… left the building.

This is the wild thing about reactive patterns and partners
We tend to complement each other just as beautifully in our wounds
As we do in our love.

In the earlier parts of our relationship, that delicate period between the honeymoon ending and real stability landing… these moments would turn into conflict.

This is where every couple faces the same choice.

I have come to believe that this period of time is critical.
I call it the "winter" of relationship.

It's when the fun in the sun has come to an end
And the skeletons begin dancing their way out of the closet.

Suddenly you start to know this person at a whole other level
Warts and all.

Because we've spent all that time loving each other
The attachment system is now very much online.

We are bonded
But don't yet know how to stabilise that bond.

Every relationship is going to be confronted with this 'test' at some point:

Can you work through your stuff together?
Can you be resilient enough to find your way back to love when things get difficult?

Because they will be difficult sometimes.

The single choice that makes all the difference:
The choice between feeding connection, or feeding resentment.

In those moments of conflict we aren't always 'ourselves'.
We say s**t we don't mean
And that s**t hurts.

Will we take those moments of hurt and feed our resentment?
Will we start to develop an inner narrative about our partner that sees them in a bad light?

Or will we turn towards compassion… forgiveness… seeking to understand… focusing on repair and the deepening of intimacy?

In the moment this choice might seem minor.

Yet in 5, 10, 20 years time…

It's the difference between a couple that laughs, smiles, holds hands and kisses each other in public.
And one that you cringe when you hear them take subtle jabs and stabs at each other.

The couples who make it through winter understand that conflict isn't the enemy - choosing disconnection is.

Because actually, conflict is part of learning about each other.
We learn about our wounds and triggers
We learn the things that hurt, and what we value.

An evolving relationship takes those lessons
And weaves them into more trust, intimacy and devotion.
As they heal together.

This is how Spring returns
And the smell of new blossoms and hope
Fills the air.

~ Damien Bohler
(written by a human)

28/09/2025

Personal sovereignty is a heart coherence navigation system where autonomy thrives, enriching synchronicities align and our life experiences flourish. ♥️♥️♥️

It’s never been more important than it is now to stand in your own sovereignty.

🦉Standing strong in your own sovereignty means recognising your inner authority, living by your truth, values and beliefs, whilst taking responsibility for your choices, welfare and well-being.

🦉It involves claiming self-ownership over your thoughts, feelings, life and decisions.

🦉Trusting your instincts and following your inner compass.

🦉Not giving your personal power away to external pressures, fears or others' expectations.

🦉You achieve it by cultivating self-awareness, making conscious choices and holding yourself accountable for your actions and the reality you create.

🦉Knowing your personal values, desires and inner landscape is the foundation of sovereignty.

🦉Making conscious choices aligned with your heart and soul is fundamental, rather than being driven by external pressures of the “should” variety.

🦉Owning the consequences of your choice whether negative or positive and being accountable for the impact.

🦉Trusting your own inner wisdom and subjective experiences as a valuable source of truth, guidance and insight.

How to Practice Sovereignty:

⭐️Identify areas where you give your power away. Notice when you look to others for validation or make decisions based on external expectations rather than your own truth.

⭐️Connect to your inner truth by spending time in self-reflection to understand your own core values, beliefs and desires.

⭐️Practice mindful decision making moving from the autopilot of conditioning to making conscious, deliberate choices that reflect your self-awareness and inner compass.

⭐️Embrace your subjective (not influenced by personal feelings) perspective by acknowledging and trusting the validity of your own experience, even if it's not objectively (being influenced by personal feelings and opinions) true.

⭐️Take ownership of your reality by understanding that your beliefs, thoughts and actions create your reality and act accordingly.

⭐️Cultivate self-trust by developing the confidence to make your own decisions and act on them without seeking constant external approval.

🕊️If you’ve been living your life based on dysfunctional conditioning, that isn’t your true identity, becoming fully authentic can feel very uncomfortable at first. Perseverance is purposeful, commitment is enriching and sustainability is life enhancing.

🕊️Stepping fully into your own sovereignty is a sacred, unique, powerful journey, which can often mean letting go of people that try to control you, take advantage of you, or stifle your growth. Usually your circle of friends and soul family becomes a different tribe, as you gravitate towards kindred spirits that value your authenticity, align with your core values and support your soul growth.

🕊️Meaningful relationships that accept us for who we are, encourage us to be the best version of ourselves and support us when we are struggling is what helps us all to master the art of FLOURISHING in every area of life.

Have a beautiful day!

💜💙💚🧡💛♥️🤍💗

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21/09/2025

Important information about J&J and they were still using it in Perth College class when I added to my qualifications and studied reflexology in 2014. I refused to use the talc and told them why, brought in my own homemade balm while training and thereafter. You wonder how they got away with that for so many decades, considering there is such strict guidelines when I get my Butterflybees organic skincare products assessed and approved.
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