03/02/2026
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This weekend I had the honour of giving the Keynote speech at the AECCโs Future Pathways event for this year's graduates.
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It was a sold out event, with over 100 students and almost 50 clinics attending.
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What I didnโt know was that Iโd be following the RCC President Stuart Smellie, and his very professional PowerPoint deck - not sure Iโd have gone with a cartoon character on my title slide if Iโd known that!
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Now, most people for this audience would have gone for something typically motivational:
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โ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถโ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ข ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐จ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ตโฆ ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถโ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ฆ๐ฅโฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆ!โ
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Typical clichรฉ hype.
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As many of you will know thoughโฆ thatโs not me.
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Donโt get me wrong, I could have pulled that off easily at this stage in my career, and Iโm sure theyโd have loved it.
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Instead though, I took a different approach - I talked about fear.
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I spelled out for them how overwhelming their first 12 months would be.
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How thereโs no safety net, theyโll be constantly second guessing themselves, and the stakes will be much higher than they are nowโฆ
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I could see eyebrows raising when I did - this was not the talk they were expecting.
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I laid it out for them, and didnโt sugar coat anything.
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โThe start of your career is going to be full of difficult situations, anxiety and overwhelm,โ I told them.
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โAnd when youโre in front of a patient, youโre going to be looking for any way to make things easierโฆโ
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This wasnโt scaremongering for its own sake though, there was a point to it all
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I wanted them to understand the reality of practice in the real world, so theyโd be able to accept the challenge, and see what lay on the other side.
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Because whether they end up working for someone, running a solo practice, or having a big multidisciplinary clinic one dayโฆ theyโre going to need to be a leader.
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A lot of newer DCโs donโt realise the responsibility that comes with being a clinician - and that it requires leadership.
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If you arenโt leading your patients, youโre failing the responsibility theyโve gifted you when they walk through your door.
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And most of all, thereโs one choice we all have to make as leaders:
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โ๐๐ฐ ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ฅโฆ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ?โ
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Choosing to be liked is tempting - telling patients what you think they want to hear, softening your recommendations, saying โitโs up to youโฆ see how you goโฆโ
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Longer term subscribers will know that one of my issues with the evidence based side of chiropractic is our tendency to under treat out of fear.
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(Yes, there are practitioners who over-treat, but they're not the majority)
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Undertreating is far more common, and - excluding the rare ones who hard sell the same big plan to everyone - a bigger problem for patients.
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Itโs an abdication of leadership, and itโs putting our own need to feel safe above the patients need for a clinical leader.
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And as I told them on Saturday, the irony is that in the long term, patients actually like useful practitionersโฆ and donโt like those who arenโt.
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So if you want patients to like you, you might as well just be useful.
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(Being liked for its own sake is overrated, anyway)
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Of course, most of the folks reading this arenโt students, and many are clinic owners themselves.
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So you might not need to hear that like they did - though some could likely use a reminder!
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Hereโs my real point: this concept goes way beyond just patients and treatment recommendations.
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It goes for being a mentor, an employer, even a colleague
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In fact, I was faced with the same choice when I was invited to give this keynote:
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Do I tell them what they want to hear, or what they actually need?
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Something warm, fuzzy and motivational, that strokes my ego?
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Or the truth, even if itโs tough to hear?
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And although it got some shocked expressions in the moment, ultimately the feedback was better than any clichรฉ, happy-clappy empowerment speech others might have given.
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In the last few days, Iโve had more grateful emails, messages and comments from students than I can count, sharing how much it make them think.
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In other words, they werenโt grateful because I made them feel good, but because someone treated them like adults and trusted them with the truth.
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And whether itโs a patient, an associate, or a new grad asking for guidance, the same choice will be showing up in your practice each day
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You can choose to โplay it safeโ and aim to be liked in the momentโฆ
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Or choose the braver path, to be truly useful.
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Being liked might feel safer, but being useful is what leadership actually looks like.
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Worth remembering the next time you feel the pull of pleasing someone in the moment.