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12/11/2025

The invitation here is to let go of preconceived timelines, and narrow imaginings of a perfect life.

What is most important now is the sense that not only will things turn out, they can be better than you thought possible. For now, appreciate the tiny glimmers. We may not have all the details, but life is a flow, not a destination.

And, look for the best: in people, in situations, in pinpricks of light amidst a shadowy screen.

Yes, life can be hard, and it is certainly unpredictable, but the good stuff wants to find you. You just need to remember that it is possible… (or you will not see opportunities even if they are right in front of your face.)

The magic here is to cultivate both trust and patience, and stay open… You don’t have to chase it; the good will find you…

Build the muscle by appreciating special moments around you NOW…

12/11/2025

Op COURAGE is a mental health and wellbeing service developed by veterans, for veterans. It doesn’t matter how long you served for or when you left.

If you find life difficult after leaving the UK Armed Forces, face struggles with mental health, and live in England, Op COURAGE is here to help.

Find out more information, visit www.nhs.uk/opcourage

12/11/2025

Boundaries are self-respect in action.

11/11/2025

When I am sitting at the bedside as someone is nearing their last breath, I am often asked the question, “how much longer?” In the early days of my work, I would answer as I was taught: hours to days. But over time, I have learned that the body holds its own wisdom, one that does not always follow our timelines or textbooks.

Sometimes, even when a person has made complete peace with their life and is leaning gently toward what comes next, their body still isn’t ready to let go. And other times, when it seems the heart is strong and the body should hold on, it releases sooner than we expect. The truth is, we cannot predict it. What I say now is that all we can be absolutely certain of is this moment, today. And if tomorrow comes, that is a bonus day, a gift of a little more time.

We can’t rush that final breath. It asks of us patience, presence, and trust. Our role is to ensure comfort, to ease pain and suffering, and to offer support so that no one feels alone in the waiting. After that, all we can do is be still. To sit in that sacred space and whisper, “I’m here, however long this might take.” Because this moment is not about us, it’s about surrendering to the deep knowing that the body always knows what to do, in its own time, and in its own way.

xo
Gabby

From my book: End of Life Tips
https://www.amazon.com/Life-Tips-Gabrielle-Elise-Jimenez/dp/B0C9G8PZZ5/ref=pd_aw_sim_m_sccl_2_4/130-2232800-4346236?

05/10/2025

Life is so very precious—fragile, fleeting, and beautiful. 🌿 Don’t wait for tomorrow to appreciate what you have today. Cherish the laughter, the small moments, and the simple presence of those who matter most. ✨

Gratitude turns ordinary time into extraordinary memories. 💫

04/10/2025

So much of our suffering doesn’t come from the problem itself—it comes from our endless worrying about the problem. We play “what if” in our minds, lose sleep, and drain our energy, forgetting that worry does not heal, it only hurts.

If there is something you can do, then act with clarity and calm.

If there is nothing you can do, then let go and accept.

Either way, worry changes nothing. It only robs you of peace in the present moment.

✨ Worrying about tomorrow steals today’s joy.
✨ Worrying about the past keeps you chained to what’s already gone.
✨ The present is the only place where healing, peace, and solutions can exist.

Instead of worrying, practice mindful action and compassionate acceptance. Do what you can, release what you can’t, and trust the flow of life.

💡 Peace is not found in control—it is found in surrender.

01/10/2025

When you worry, you give your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind to the very thing that is hurting you. Worry doesn’t solve tomorrow’s challenges—it only steals today’s calm.

Think of worry as pouring water on weeds. The more you feed it, the more it grows, until it takes over your entire garden of life.

Instead of worrying, shift your focus:
✨ Breathe deeply — remind yourself you are still here, still capable.
✨ Take action where you can — even small steps create movement.
✨ Trust the process — some things need patience, not panic.
✨ Surrender the rest — life has a way of unfolding in its own time.

When you stop worshipping the problem and start cultivating faith, resilience, and presence, you’ll discover that most of your fears are far weaker than they seemed.

🕊️ Protect your peace, because peace—not worry—is the true prayer for a better tomorrow.

26/09/2025

Feelings are like waves — they rise, they fall, and they pass. Anger flares up, sadness weighs heavy, excitement overflows… but none of them last forever. Yet how often do we allow a fleeting storm in the heart to dictate choices that shape the rest of our life?

One moment of rage can destroy a relationship.
One moment of fear can stop a dream.
One moment of despair can push us to give up.

The Buddha taught that all emotions are impermanent — they come and go like clouds passing across the sky. Attaching ourselves to them, or making life-changing decisions in the heat of them, leads only to regret.

💡 Instead, pause. Breathe. Observe.
Notice your feelings without clinging to them, without pushing them away. When you see that they are temporary visitors, you gain the wisdom not to hand them the keys to your future.

🪷 True strength lies in stillness. Let the storm pass, and then act from clarity, not from chaos.

Because when the mind is calm, decisions are wise. And when decisions are wise, peace follows.

12/09/2025

What is the difference between
"I like you" and "I love you"?
Beautifully answered by Buddha:
When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.
One who understand this, understands life.
© FB/BuddhismPageFB

06/09/2025

There are people you meet once and never forget, not because they were loud, flashy, or trying too hard, but because something about them lingers. Maybe it was the way they listened without rushing you. Maybe it was the calm confidence they carried. Or maybe it was how they made you feel valued in a world where people are often too distracted to notice.

Reading Make Yourself Unforgettable felt like peeling back the curtain on why certain people leave that kind of lasting mark. What I loved is that it doesn’t reduce “being unforgettable” to tricks, catchphrases, or rehearsed gestures. Instead, it’s about building an inner foundation of respect, integrity, warmth, and empathy. This isn’t about acting a part, it’s about becoming a person worth remembering.

The book challenged me to think less about how I present myself and more about how I make others feel. It’s a quiet but powerful shift: instead of trying to impress, you learn to express genuine care, attention, and character. And the exercises sprinkled throughout make you stop and reflect, who am I in conversations? Do I truly listen? Am I living in a way that’s consistent with my values?

Dale Carnegie Training has always been about timeless human skills, and this book carries that legacy well. It’s not about being the life of the party; it’s about being the kind of person people trust, respect, and remember long after the first handshake.

Lessons from the Book:

1. People remember how you made them feel more than what you said.
• Influence comes less from words and more from the emotions you leave behind.

2. Authenticity beats performance.
• Pretending impresses for a moment, but genuine sincerity lasts for years.

3. Attention is rare and unforgettable.
• Giving someone your full presence is one of the most powerful gifts.

4. Respect every person, no matter their role.
• The way you treat those who “can’t give you anything” says more about you than your résumé ever will.

5. Consistency is your reputation.
• It’s not one big action that defines you, but the hundreds of small ones lived daily.

6. Gratitude is magnetic.
• Expressing thanks, sincerely and often, creates a bond people don’t easily forget.

7. Your legacy is built one interaction at a time.
• Every encounter leaves an imprint. The question is: what kind?

BOOK: https://amzn.to/3V00I2g

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