10/12/2025
50 didn’t change my age, it changed my boundaries
For most of my life, I believed that being kind, flexible, and accommodating made the world better, and it does, until it comes at the cost of your self-respect.
50 taught me one thing very clearly:
👉 if you don’t protect your boundaries, people will write their own rules for your life.
Here are a few patterns I finally stopped ignoring:
• When you always say yes, people stop valuing your time.
• When you forgive too easily, people stop fearing the consequences of hurting you.
• When you constantly put others first, people assume you come last.
• When you avoid conflict, people assume you’ll accept anything.
• When you over-explain, people assume you owe them justification.
• Protect your energy-how you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.
These are lessons earned through experience, maturity, and a lot of unlearning, ans as a relationship and transformational coach, boundaries are one of the biggest conversations in my work.
If you’re reading this and learning to set boundaries, what’s one lesson age has taught you? I would love to hear your wisdom.
If you’re navigating relationships, people-pleasing, or redefining your identity in midlife, my online sessions are open worldwide.
Just send me a message. 💛
Kajal Kaj Kajal's Wellness Tree - Relationship Coach
