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Wellness cooking and natural foods have been a part of my life for decades. That is where 'Kajal's Healthy Kitchen' was born!

As a relationship expert, I combine coaching, energy work, and somatic practices to help you release emotional blocks, heal connections, and create lasting transformation. My mother's personal struggle with health and wellbeing led me to pursue my passion for cooking and make a difference in the world around me. Over the last 28 years, I've learned that we are deeply rooted in mother nature, which provides and heals if we stop and listen to the body.

Having experienced firsthand the power of nutrition and a balanced lifestyle in bringing back my mother from stage 4 cancer, I embarked on a journey of becoming a wellness chef and nutritional expert.

I started by creating my own recipes using ancient healing ingredients, some of which are now known as superfoods, and brought them to a plate as a piece of art. It was my mission to change the idea that healthy eating was boring, bland, and uninspiring! I am a well-being coach and see clients online. I run online wellbeing programs, workshops, supper clubs, and wellbeing retreats. Get in touch with me by PM or by visiting my website www.kajalskitchen.com https://www.kajalskitchen.com/

04/02/2026

Where salt sits, unwanted energies cannot stay.

When I was little, my mother had a ritual that shaped how I work today.

On nights she felt the energy was heavy, she’d place a small bowl of salt on our bedside table. Then she’d guide us through our prayers and remind us, “The salt will do its work while you sleep.”

I never questioned it, I just trusted her ancient knowing.

Now, as a trauma-informed relationship therapist, I understand exactly what she was doing. Salt, born of sun and sea, is one of nature’s most powerful purifiers. It absorbs what we cannot see, the tension we picked up during the day, the energies we absorbed from others, the emotional residue we didn’t realise we were still carrying.

Our bodies are 70% water. That water carries salt. We are literally made of the ocean, and just like the tides, we need to release what no longer serves us.

This is the kind of soul work I do with my clients addressing all five bodies: mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual. Because healing a relationship means healing the whole person, and sometimes, the most profound shifts come from the simplest rituals.

That humble bowl beside the bed sits vigil through the night, drawing out what you don’t need to carry into tomorrow. Creating space for rest that actually restores. For nervous systems to settle. For good intentions to take root.

This salt ritual is one of the practices we integrate during my retreats and in my work with couples and individuals navigating disconnection and transition.

So I’m curious to know, if any of you have you ever tried placing salt by your bedside?

Drop a 🧂 below if this resonates, or let me know if you’d like to learn more about this kind of soul-level healing work. fans

01/02/2026

This is my breakfast, and yes, it’s a relationship.

Not with the food on the plate, but with myself, and that distinction matters more than most people realise.

I notice something shift the moment I sit down, slow down, and actually be with what I’m eating. The radish I’m holding, I grew it. The greens, the egg, the avocado, each one chosen with something close to care, and that care, that small act of showing up for myself first thing in the morning, it changes everything that follows.

We talk endlessly about what to eat! Protein counts, blood sugar, gut health, all important, but nobody is asking the deeper question 🙋‍♀️ what is your relationship with your morning meal actually telling you about how you show up for the rest of your life?

I work with couples and individuals every day who are disconnected, from each other, from themselves, from the small rituals that used to hold them together, and breakfast, of all things, is often where I start looking. Because how you feed yourself in the morning is a mirror. It reveals whether you’re in your body or running from it, whether you’re nourishing or just surviving, whether there’s still space in your life for something as quiet and necessary as sitting down.

The food world is catching up to this. Morgan Zabaneh at Nutrition Stripped writes about food as calm. Michelle May, a physician, asks “Am I hungry?” and means it emotionally, not just physically. Camille Styles is noticing that the people who skip breakfast aren’t just busy, they’ve lost their relationship with the morning entirely.

I haven’t lost mine!
So tell me, what does your breakfast tell you about where you are right now?

Kajal Kaj

16/01/2026

This isn’t just pranayam. This is our daily promise to each other.

After Paul’s thrombosis diagnosis post-COVID, doctors said medication for life. But we chose a different path together.

Every morning, no matter where we are in the world. We sit. We breathe. We heal.
Paul trained as a breath master and worked on himself with fierce dedication. I held the space as his partner and practitioner. We made changes, not just individually, but as a unit.

Five months ago, he was cleared of all medications. The man beside me? He’s fully himself again.

This is what happens when two nervous systems learn to regulate together. When commitment meets conscious practice. When ancient wisdom meets modern crisis.

Your relationship is either your greatest healing ground or your biggest trigger. We chose healing.

They said medication for life. We said, watch us breathe!

The breath you take together can save the life you’re building together. Kajal Kaj MyRecovery - MindfullyPauli

15/01/2026

When Gossip Comes Knocking, Bake a Cake Instead 🍑

A client asked me today, “What do I do about this friend who keeps pulling me into toxic gossip, then tells me not to tell anyone?”

My answer? “Bake a cake, and eat it.”
She laughed, but I was serious!

Here’s what I meant: You cannot control what others choose to do with their energy and time. You cannot stop someone from gossiping, stirring drama, or trying to pull you into their emotional chaos, but you CAN choose what YOU do with YOUR energy.

You can spend your afternoon trapped in someone else’s mess, carrying secrets that poison your peace…Or you can spend it creating something beautiful. Something nourishing that makes you feel happy and loved. Something that fills your home with warmth instead of toxicity.

This almond and peach cake? It took the same hour that gossip would have stolen from my client! Instead of feeling drained, baking or any other creative activity makes one feel restored. Your energy is yours to protect. Your time is yours to reclaim.

So the next time someone tries to hand you their drama? Smile. Decline, and go bake yourself a cake, because you deserve sweetness, not secrets! And I would rather drown in eating a freshly baked cake than drowning in some gossip that I can’t s**t out.

What will YOU create with your energy today?

15/01/2026

When They Start Leaving, Don’t Give Them Your Power

Close your eyes and visualise this moment with me.

You see them changing. Distancing. The phone calls get shorter. The texts take longer. The warmth you once felt starts to fade. They stop investing in what once made you feel loved and connected, and as they pull away, something devastating happens inside you.

The pain doesn’t just hurt, it completely drains you. Your energy disappears. You drown in emotions you can’t control. Some of you eat and eat, trying to numb the feeling, your body expanding with the weight of heartbreak. Others can’t eat at all, your body shrinking along with your hope.

You’re not sleeping. You’re not thinking clearly. Your mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual bodies all collapsing at once, and here’s the real tragedy, the mistake I see again and again in my work. Without even realising it, you hand ALL your power to the person who is already gone. You’re basically saying:

“You’ve taken my happiness, my joy, my health, my sleep - here, take whatever power I have left too and leave me on empty. Take everything.”

My darling, listen to me carefully.
When someone leaves, they are actually giving you a GIFT.

Yes, they’ve changed. Yes, it hurts like hell. But in that moment, you have a choice. Will you break yourself and give them your power, or will you take it back?

I’ve witnessed this pattern thousands of times in marriages, in heartbreak, in people losing jobs or friendships. They shatter themselves, then hand that shattered power straight to the source of their pain.

Here’s what you need to understand:
When they were with you, they filled the space with THEIR needs, THEIR wounds, THEIR agenda. They quietly occupied your inner world. You adjusted, believing they were your only source of light, your only power station keeping you alive. But you were wrong!

They were there for themselves, and now they’re leaving taking all the energy you gave them, draining the electricity from your inner house, your inner home. So when they go, I want you to say this: “Thank you. Go.” Because all that power they were consuming? It’s yours now, every single bit of it.

At first, it feels like terrifying emptiness. A silence that scares you. A gap you desperately want to fill with someone, anyone, but listen, that space? That space is SACRED.

Space is where clarity is born.
Space is where truth begins to speak.
Space is where YOU start creating something beautiful and NEW.
A new home within yourself.
A new version of you.
A new kind of happiness that doesn’t need someone else’s presence to exist.

This is the work I do with my clients helping you see the gift in the leaving, reclaim your power in the emptiness, and rebuild your inner world on YOUR OWN foundation.

When you stop giving your power away, you discover something magical!
You were never powerless to begin with.
You just forgot, and I’m here to help you remember. Kajal Kaj

11/01/2026

Is your mind still being occupied by someone who no longer deserves space there?

Let’s be honest about something first.

Not everyone who lives in our memory is meant to leave.Some people rest there like warm light - parents, partners, loved ones, souls who shaped us with kindness.
They don’t drain us.
They don’t disturb us.
They strengthen us.

This is not about them.

This is about the ones who left you feeling small.Confused.Emotionally bruised.
The ones who walked away but somehow stayed behind… inside your head.

You know the feeling.

You’re making tea, answering emails, trying to be present in your own life…
And suddenly, there they are.

Their voice.
Their criticism.
That one argument that never got resolved.

You didn’t invite them back,
but they keep showing up anyway.

You may have left the relationship…
but the relationship didn’t leave you.

And here’s what most people don’t realise:

When a toxic or emotionally unsafe person keeps replaying in your mind, they are not just in your thoughts,
they are in your nervous system.
Your energy.
Your body.
Your self‑worth.

All five bodies are still in relationship with them.

That invisible pull?
That ache in the chest?
That urge to explain yourself to someone who isn’t even there anymore?

That is an energetic tether.

And it shows up as:
• Why do I still think about them?
• Did I imagine the pain?
• Was it really that bad?
• Should I reach out just to get closure?

This isn’t weakness, It’s attachment that was never safely released.

And here’s the truth no one teaches us:

You cannot think your way out of trauma‑bonding. You cannot logic yourself out of emotional imprinting, because this is not happening only in your mind, it is happening in every layer of your being.

Even the ancient Stoics understood this.
Marcus Aurelius spoke of the invisible forces that pull us like puppets - fear, longing, desire, attachment, and he also knew we carry something stronger:

Sovereign consciousness.

So today, I invite you into something simple… and powerful.

Close your eyes, see the energetic string between you and that person, the one who brought confusion instead of peace.

Now see yourself holding golden scissors.

With one slow breath, cut it.

And softly say:
“You no longer get to live here.”

Not in anger.
Not in bitterness.
But in self‑respect.

This is where healing begins, in the mental body and when the mind is no longer occupied by what harmed you,
the heart and the body finally get to rest.

You were never the puppet.

You were always the one holding the scissors.

✨ Who is ready to release the wrong energy today? Wellness With Kajal

09/01/2026

The Day Everything Changed.

Eight years ago, I was at home, moving through my day, when suddenly something inside me shook. I sat down in shock. My husband rushed over, asking if I was okay. “I don’t know,” I said, “but I think something’s not right with my sister.” He tried to reassure me. “You’re just worried. Everything is fine.” Then the phone rang. My niece’s voice came through: “Kajal Masi, Mum’s gone.”

Gone. That word! We use it so casually. Gone to the shops. Gone on holiday. Gone to work. We always know they’ll return, that we’ll see them again, hold them again. But this gone was different. This was gone forever.

My husband drove me to the hospital. When I walked into that room and held my sister, she was cold, so cold. But she looked peaceful, like she was sleeping, and some part of me still hoped she would wake up. I had never seen her sleep before. She was always awake, always active, always doing.

I held her, I cried. I kissed her forehead, knowing these were the last kisses I would ever give her. My human heart needed those moments. But her soul had already left. For her, none of it mattered anymore.

“What you seek is seeking you.” Rumi

Grief teaches us the most important lessons of this life. It shows us what truly matters. Grief comes in many forms! We lose people even when they’re still alive, through distance, through conflict, through silence, through pride. But the grief of death, when someone you truly love is gone forever, that grief changes you.

In these eight years, I have learned this: if you really love someone, if you truly care for them, don’t let your ego stand in the way. Don’t wait, and don’t assume there will be more time.
We are all so busy striving, achieving, worrying about bills and jobs and the future we’re building. But we miss what’s right beside us. The people who quietly love us. Who show up for us. Who would do anything for us.

My sister was that person for me, and I wish I had made more time for her. I wish I had put her before work, before busyness, before everything that felt urgent but wasn’t.

“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” Rumi

She left a mark on this world that walks with me every day. Her voice still guides me. Her children have children now, and she would have been the most extraordinary grandmother. In every celebration, every sorrow, her absence is a presence we all feel.

So I speak to you now, the people who love you deserve your presence.
Your time.
Your attention.
Not someday.
Not when things slow down. Now.

Forgive freely, love openly, look into the eyes of those you cherish and really see them while you still can, because the day you can’t, the day you hold them cold and still, you’ll understand with a clarity that breaks you what you had all along.
Life is fragile. Love is everything. And time, once gone, never returns.

In loving memory 🤍
Gone eight years, but teaching me still 🫶

08/01/2026

Be ruthless with the things that don’t matter.

So much of a woman’s life is quietly given away. Not in big moments, but in small yeses we never question.

Yes to family expectations.
Yes to keeping the peace.
Yes to carrying responsibilities that were never meant to be carried alone.

Many of us were raised to adjust, to serve, to put everyone else first. Over time, this constant giving turns into exhaustion, resentment, and emotional distance, especially in our closest relationships.

Saying no can feel impossible. No to constant work demands that blur all boundaries. No to the mental load of managing home, family, and expectations without pause. No to financial pressures that keep your mind racing even when your body is exhausted. No to being emotionally available to everyone while silently neglecting your own needs. And sometimes, no to guilt, fear, overthinking, and the need to keep everyone else comfortable at your own expense

None of these feel harmful on their own. But slowly, they take away your energy, your joy, and your sense of self.

If you ever feel drained but unappreciated, busy but emotionally empty, or present for everyone except yourself, start here.

Learn the power of no.

No, I can’t manage that right now.
No, I need rest too.
No, this doesn’t work for me today.

It may feel uncomfortable.
It may upset others.
But the more you say no to what is costing you your health and peace, the more space you create for what truly matters.

Your wellbeing.
Your relationships.
Your life.

Choosing yourself is not selfish. It is necessary.

What’s one boundary you need to honour today? Kajal Kaj

10/12/2025

50 didn’t change my age, it changed my boundaries

For most of my life, I believed that being kind, flexible, and accommodating made the world better, and it does, until it comes at the cost of your self-respect.

50 taught me one thing very clearly:
👉 if you don’t protect your boundaries, people will write their own rules for your life.

Here are a few patterns I finally stopped ignoring:
• When you always say yes, people stop valuing your time.
• When you forgive too easily, people stop fearing the consequences of hurting you.
• When you constantly put others first, people assume you come last.
• When you avoid conflict, people assume you’ll accept anything.
• When you over-explain, people assume you owe them justification.
• Protect your energy-how you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.

These are lessons earned through experience, maturity, and a lot of unlearning, ans as a relationship and transformational coach, boundaries are one of the biggest conversations in my work.

If you’re reading this and learning to set boundaries, what’s one lesson age has taught you? I would love to hear your wisdom.

If you’re navigating relationships, people-pleasing, or redefining your identity in midlife, my online sessions are open worldwide.

Just send me a message. 💛
Kajal Kaj Kajal's Wellness Tree - Relationship Coach

06/10/2025

Happy Birthday my darling daughter Henna 💖

Watching you grow into this strong, confident, luxury-loving woman who truly gets things done has been such a joy. Keep shining bright,and keep chasing your dreams, your sparkles, and your five-star moments ✨

Love you always 💕

30/09/2025

Chakri Recipe this is shared on my website. Please follow the link here https://www.kajalskitchen.com/post/chakri-by-kajal-s-healthy-kitchen

09/09/2025

”‘Mum, you wanted to get rid of this dress, but look, everybody at the party loved it!’ 💕”

This message from my daughter last night made my heart overflow with joy. There she was, absolutely radiant in my silver party dress from decades ago, the same one I thought had outlived its purpose.

I remember wearing this dress when I was young and slim, feeling beautiful and confident as the silver fabric caught the light. Years passed, and like many mothers, I started seeing it as just another piece taking up closet space. ‘Maybe it’s time to donate this,’ I thought.

But my daughter saw something I had forgotten, she saw magic.

She claimed it before I could even think of letting it go, and last night she proved why our instincts about what to keep and what matters are sometimes beautifully wrong.

She didn’t just wear the dress; she brought it back to life, made it relevant, made it stunning all over again.
This moment taught me something profound about relationships: we often underestimate the value others see in us.

Just like I was ready to discard this dress, we sometimes doubt our own worth, our experiences, our ‘old stories.’ But the people who truly love us? They see the treasure we’ve forgotten we are.

From grandmother’s 90-year-old saris that my daughter adores, to this silver dress that stole the show at last night’s party - love has a way of preserving what matters, of finding beauty in what we’re ready to release.

Sometimes the greatest gift isn’t something new, it’s helping someone rediscover the magic that was always there.

What ‘old treasures’ in your life might actually be waiting for their moment to shine again? ✨

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