Eve's Counselling

31/01/2026

Eve’s Counselling is currently not taking on clients. Please just use this page as a reference for any advice or information.

12/01/2026

Life can be hard. There are times when we don’t feel ourselves when we get hijacked by emotions or hormones that can stop us functioning, we withdraw, feel frozen by day to day activities and unable to work, we stop connecting with others. It won’t always be like this. Go slow, take each day as it comes. Hold hope. Be honest about what’s happening with people.

05/12/2025

We’re so happy to share our very first themed Shared Journeys gathering… A warm, festive Christmas Coffee Gathering for adult women in Dorset ☕️.

There are moments when life feels busy, pressured, or a little overwhelming. Our December gathering is an invitation to slow down, step away from the noise, and simply breathe again.

This space is for women seeking a moment of calm, connection, and warmth. A chance to settle with a hot drink, ease the weight on your shoulders, and be around others who understand the demands of life.

There’s no pressure to share, no group introductions, and no expectations. Just a cosy room, comfortable seating, gentle conversation if you want it. We’re creating an atmosphere that feels calm, welcoming, and unhurried. A space to just be, whether you feel like chatting or resting quietly... the simple comfort of pausing for a while.

As therapists who care deeply about comfort, safety, and genuine connection, we’ll be there to welcome you, hold the space gently, and offer support in a way that feels natural and unforced.

If you’d like to join us for this first festive gathering, you’re warmly invited.

📩 Message us privately to register your interest.

Full details, including dates, times, and locations, will be shared privately with those who reach out.

More themed coffee meet-ups will be announced soon…
and we can’t wait to welcome you.

With love,
Mel & Eve 🤍

21/11/2025

14/11/2025

You are not "broken" you are just hurting. And need someone to listen with compassion and care.

05/11/2025

What are your needs? Take time to figure this out. It really helps.

It allows us to meet our own needs in a gentle way, with care, compassion and communicate them to others. Giving ourself what we need is the most powerful thing we can do, it can have a ripple effect on people around us.

Don't assume people know what you need (or use 'should') as this can cause further problems. People are not mind readers. We have to tell people how we feel, what we need, the reasons why and be willing to admit whats ours.

When our needs are not met we feel fear, hurt, anxious and angry. We can hold onto these feelings and get stuck in a mind body loop, playing out what has happened over and over, our body reacting with stress and tension. When these feelings and physical sensations show up, use them to figure what needs are not being met.

Do you need trust, respect, honesty and loyalty?
Do you need to feel significant, valued, appreciated and acknowledged?
Do you need to feel seen for who you are, understood or heard?
Do you need to be supported, encouraged and treated fairly or equally?
Do you need to feel useful, loved or cared for?
Do you need to belong?

24/10/2025

Early warning signs in a relationship from a Hampshire Domestic Violence Service for teenagers, young people and adults of all ages.

💔Many of the signs that people may interpret as being attentive, caring and romantic ARE actually WARNING SIGNS of future abuse:

1. Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are with, when will you be back. This may start off being attractive because someone is concerned about you and your whereabouts. But can become intrusive and oppressive.
2. Wants to spend as much time as possible together, wants you all to him/herself. Has negative opinions about family and friends, and tries to convince you not to spend time with them. Encourages you to drop out of any outside activities and not to engage with external agencies and services.
3. Gets serious very quickly and wants to settle down together, get married, have children etc after only a few months. Puts pressure on you to accept these arrangements.
4. Come on really strong, is extremely charming and an overly smooth talker.

🚩 Other signs may reveal an underlying lack of respect for you, your wishes and needs:

5. Blames others for his/her feelings or problems. Fails to take responsibility for the consequences of his/her own actions.
6. Has unrealistic expectations and expects partner to be able to meet all his/her needs.
7. Makes all the decisions and doesn’t take into account your needs or wishes. It may take some time to notice that you are not making any decisions, as at first you may just be whisked away on dates. However, if you mention that you do not want to do what your partner has planned - they become angry or upset. This is a sign that they have no awareness of your needs.
8. Gets very upset or acts hurt if things don’t go his/her way, takes offense when others disagree with an opinion, gets very upset at the normal inconveniences of life.
9. Gets angry if their wishes are not fulfilled, or what they want to do is not anticipated.
10. Refers to people of your s*x with negative remarks, shows a lack of respect towards all women/men.
11. Unable to handle emotional or s*xual frustrations without becoming angry, sulky or withdrawing.

🗣️There may be clues in the way your partner talks about your or their past:

12. Secretive about past relationships or talks about how they were treated terribly by the ‘evil ex’.
13. Not allowed to see their children from a previous relationship, blames the ‘evil ex’ For this.
14. Accuses you of flirting with other men, does not like you talking about previous relationships or spending time with other male friends, becomes jealous easily. Although this may be presented as a sign of his/her love for you. It is not, it is a sign of possessiveness and lack of trust.

National Domestic Abuse Helpline. Call for free and in confidence, 24 hours a day: 0808 2000 247.Use our chatbot to chat to us and find information.

PARAGON is part of The YOU Trust and is their domestic abuse, s*xual violence and stalking team.
https://paragonteam.org.uk/

Paragon Dorset
0800 032 5204
ParagonDorset@theyoutrust.org.uk

16/10/2025

A new video - a brief moment to meet me.

Southbourne, Bournemouth.

15/10/2025

Our identity is shaped and influenced by others throughout our life. Our beliefs about ourselves have often been imposed by those around us, our environment, the culture and society we live in. We are affected by what people say, how they behave and how they react and respond to us. It is so easy to compare ourselves with others and feel less than. The impact of this is we can feel stressed, anxious, depressed, isolated, hopeless and stuck.

You can choose to challenge other people’s negative or critical beliefs and actions, as they are not accurate and do not reflect who you are. We have all made mistakes and won't always get it right. This is what makes us human. You can have a different relationship with yourself which is gentle, forgiving and understanding.

You have courage and can be assertive. You are valuable and worthy of respect. You are wise, resilient and capable. You are organised and responsible. You are different and interesting. You have something to offer. You can connect with others. You don’t deserve to have experienced what you did and you are not to blame.

Imagine being in control, creating an identity and way of being based on your own beliefs and what you might learn about yourself in the process.

28/09/2025

As a counsellor I am here to support you with what you are experiencing in your current relationship or past relationships. The following post is not relevant to relationships where there is abuse, violence, stalking or a dynamic of power, control and coercion.

Relationships can have conflict or rupture. Whether it’s a plutonic relationship such as non - romantic companionship, intimate and romantic, or physical. There are a variety of relationships from acquaintances to family, friends and work. We are biologically wired for connection, deep research focusing on the evolution of our brain and body supports this.

With rupture comes the opportunity for repair, but repair is a skill and not easy. Do you initiate repair? How open are you to receiving repair? Even when its clumsily or imperfect? Many people don’t know how to repair as conflict wasn’t modelled in a healthy way. Our ability to repair can be influenced by the blueprint for relationships we internalised from those around us when we were born and developing.

The important thing is we can make changes. There is a direct link to wellbeing and repair. If you want to learn more about how we relate to others, the origins of our automatic responses and explore rupture and repair in relationships. Contact me.

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