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Best Life Therapy, Stallingborough (2026)

11/03/2026

AI therapy apps are becoming increasingly popular.

But can AI truly understand human emotions?

In my latest blog, I explore the differences between AI therapy and human therapy, and why human connection remains such an important part of mental health support.

Read the full article here:
https://www.bestlife-therapy.uk/blog/ai-therapy-vs-human-therapy--which-is-better-for-your-mental-health-

Best Life Therapy
www.bestlife-therapy.uk
www.grimsby-counselling.co.uk
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01472 568906

03/03/2026

Mindfulness is not simply about calming the mind; it’s about learning to inhabit the present moment with clarity and willingness. Each small exercise, whether noticing sensations, pausing to breath, or scanning the body, helps clients shift from automatic, emotion-driven reactions into a more grounded state. I use these techniques regularly with clients because you cannot regulate what you cannot first notice.

The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, for example, is a practical expression of “Observe” and “Describe” skills. It anchors attention in sensory reality, interrupting spirals of anxiety or rumination. By naming what is actually here, the mind steps out of catastrophic predictions and back into safety of the present. This is mindfulness as a stabilising force, not an abstract concept.

Breathing practices serve a similar purpose. A paced breath inhale, hold, exhale activates the parasympathetic nervous system and creates space between trigger and response. In that space, clients can choose Wise Mind over Emotional Mind. It’s a physiological doorway into psychological flexibility, integrating body and mind rather than treating them as separate domains.

Mindful walking and body scans deepen interoceptive awareness, which is essential for emotion regulation. Many clients experience emotions as sudden and overwhelming because they miss early cues muscle tightening, posture sh*ts, and changes in breathing. Theses exercised help them recognise those cues earlier, giving them a chance to apply skills like Opposite Action or Check the Facts before emotions escalate.

Gratitude reflection, though often seen as a general wellness practice, focusses on building a life worth living. It strengthens the “Participate” skill by inviting clients to engage fully with moments of goodness, however small. Over time, this practice shifts attention from threat to possibility, supporting resilience and reinforcing the belief that meaningful change is achievable.

Many of my clients like to use the above techniques within their daily journaling practices, which may look like the following reflection prompts:

• What are 5 things I can see, 4 I can touch, 3 I can hear, 2 I can smell, and 1 I can taste right now?
• How does my body feel right now? (e.g., tense, relaxed, heavy, light).
• What is one small thing I accomplished today that I can feel proud of?
• What does my “safe space” (real or imaginary) look like today?
• What is my current anxiety level on a scale of 1-10, and what can I do to lower it by one point?

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rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397 / 01472 568906

13/02/2026

As a therapist, I see many clients who battle with self-judgement and believe these judgements to be personal flaws. At Best Life Therapy, I support my clients to realise something deeply important…these are learned responses. They are adaptations that your nervous system has developed to keep you safe, connected, or emotionally intact at some point in your life.

What once protected you may no longer be serving you, and that’s not failure. It’s an invitation for compassion, understanding, and choice.

Here are 9 common learned responses:
1. People-pleasing
What it often comes from: Learning that love, safety, or approval depended on keeping others happy.
Gentle support: Practice noticing your own needs without immediately acting on others’ expectations. Start small – pause before saying “yes.”

2. Avoiding Conflict
What it often comes from: Environments where conflict felt unsafe, unpredictable, or emotionally overwhelming.
Gentle support: Remind yourself that healthy conflict can be a bridge, not a threat. Ground your body before difficult conversations.

3. Over-Explaining
What it often comes from: Feeling misunderstood, dismissed, or emotionally unsafe in the past.
Gentle support: Experiment with giving less justification. You are allowed to be clear without convincing.

4. Emotional Numbing or Detachment
What it often comes from: Having emotions that were ignored, punished, or too painful to feel fully.
Gentle support: Reconnect slowly – notice sensations, music, nature, or moments of warmth without forcing emotional depth.

5. Hyper-Independence
What it often comes from: Learning that relying on others led to disappointment or harm.
Gentle support: Allow safe interdependence. Letting someone help does not erase your strength – it expands it.

6. Perfectionism
What it often comes from: Believing worth, love, or safety had to be earned through performance.
Gentle support: Practice “good enough.”. Notice how your body feels when you release unrealistic standards, even briefly.

7. Difficulty Trusting Others
What it often comes from: Betrayal, inconsistency, or emotional unpredictability.
Gentle support: Trust doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Build it gradually, with boundaries and self-trust leading the way.

8. Minimising Your Own Pain
What it often comes from: Being told others had it worse, or that your feelings were “too much.”
Gentle support: Your pain does not need comparison to be valid. Practice naming it without judgement.

9. Constant Self-Criticism
What it often comes from: Internalising external criticism as a way to stay ahead of rejection.
Gentle support: Replace the inner critic with curiosity. Ask, “What is this part of me trying to protect?”

Remember that these behaviours are not signs of weakness – they are evidence of resilience. They tell the story of how intelligently your mind and body adapted to survive.

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
https://www.grimsby-counselling.co.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

04/02/2026

As a therapist, I want to talk about the ADHD “monsters” no one really names.

Not the quirky stuff.
Not the hyperfocus superpowers.
The quiet ones that live in the corners.

• ‘The shame monster’ that shows up every time someone says, “Why can’t you just…?”
• ‘The grief monster’ that mourns how capable you know you are, and how inconsistent the world thinks you are instead.
• ‘The exhaustion monster’ that comes from spending your whole life translating your brain for other people.
• ‘The invisible effort monster’ - doing 10x the work just to look like you’re doing the minimum.
• ‘The identity monster’ that whispers, “If I fixed this, who would I even be?”
• ‘The self-doubt monster’ that makes you question your intelligence, your reliability, your worth.

These aren’t character flaws.
They’re survival responses.

ADHD isn’t just about attention - it’s about emotion, nervous system overload, rejection sensitivity, time blindness, and carrying a lifetime of being misunderstood.

If you’re living with ADHD and feel tired in a way sleep doesn’t touch, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Your system has been working overtime for a very long time.
And healing doesn’t mean slaying these monsters.
It means finally meeting them with compassion instead of blame.

This is the kind of work I do every day at Best Life Therapy - helping people unlearn shame, understand their nervous systems, and build lives that actually work with their brains instead of against them.

✨ Best Life Therapy is now accepting new clients.
If you’re ready for support that understands ADHD beyond the stereotypes, you can reach out via WhatsApp, email or give me a call.

You’re not lazy.
You’re not broken.
You’re not “too much.”

You’re a human who learned to survive in a world that wasn’t built for your brain - and that deserves way more gentleness than you’ve been given. 💛

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

28/01/2026

A gentle mid-week reminder from Best Life Therapy:
Rest is not a reward you earn after burning yourself out...It’s a basic human need.

If you’ve been telling yourself “I’ll rest once things calm down” or “I just need to push a little harder,” I want you to hear this clearly: your nervous system doesn’t need more pressure - it needs safety, softness, and pause.

At Best Life Therapy, I often remind clients that self-care isn’t always bubble baths or vacations. Sometimes it looks like:

• saying no without explaining
• taking the long way home in silence
• going to bed earlier than feels “productive”
• letting yourself be unfinished today

You don’t have to justify rest.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to deserve care.
And you don’t have to do it all alone.

If this message resonates, support is available...

✨ Book a free 15 minute telephone consultation to begin prioritizing your mental health and create space for the rest you deserve.

Be as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else.
Your body and mind are always listening. 🤍

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

23/01/2026

At Best Life Therapy, I sometimes use the idea of the “narcissistic iceberg” to explain why narcissistic patterns can feel so confusing and draining. Often, what hurts most isn’t just what’s obvious - it’s what’s happening underneath the surface.

Above the waterline (what people tend to notice):
• charm, confidence, a “big presence”
• needing admiration or to be the centre of attention
• entitlement (“rules don’t apply to me”)
• dismissiveness, criticism, superiority
• controlling conversations and outcomes

But that’s only the visible part.

Below the waterline (what often drives the pattern):
• fragile self-worth that relies on validation
• deep shame and fear of being “not enough”
• intense sensitivity to feedback or perceived rejection
• a strong need for control to feel emotionally safe
• defensiveness: blame-shifting, denial, projection
• low empathy in the moment when self-image feels threatened
• cycles that can look like: idealising → devaluing → distancing

This isn’t an excuse for harmful behaviour - it’s a framework that can help you make sense of why you might feel like you’re walking on eggshells, why conversations go in circles, or why you leave interactions feeling anxious and unsure of yourself.

A question I often invite clients to consider is:
“How do I feel after contact - grounded and clear, or uneasy and confused?”
Your nervous system usually notices what your mind tries to talk you out of.

If you’re healing from a relationship like this, or still in one, you don’t have to work it out alone. At Best Life Therapy, I support people to:
✅ rebuild trust in their own perception
✅ strengthen boundaries without guilt
✅ recover from gaslighting and emotional manipulation
✅ restore confidence and a sense of safety in themselves

Note: This is about patterns, not labels - only a qualified clinician can diagnose.

Based in Northeast Lincolnshire, with online sessions available so support can fit around real life.

If this resonates, you’re welcome to message to enquire or book.

You deserve a best life that feels calm, steady, and yours. 💛

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

21/01/2026

Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, involuntary thoughts, images, or urges that pop into your mind and feel upsetting. They can be about harm, s*x, religion, relationships, contamination, health anxiety, or “what if” scenarios - often the very things you care about most.

You’re going about your day and -out of nowhere - your mind hits you with something alarming:

• “What if I hurt someone?”
• “What if I shout something inappropriate?”
• “What if I lose control?”
• “What if having this thought means something awful about me?"

If you’ve experienced intrusive thoughts like these, you’re not alone - and you’re not “going mad.” At Best Life Therapy, I support people who feel frightened, ashamed, or stuck in their own heads because of intrusive thoughts.

Here’s the most important thing to know:

Intrusive thoughts are common. They’re treatable. And they don’t define you.

What it’s like to work with me at Best Life Therapy...When we work together, you can expect:

• A compassionate, non-judgemental space (intrusive thoughts can feel taboo - this is a place you don’t have to hide).
• A clear plan based on your specific triggers and patterns
• Practical tools from the start you can use in real moments
• Structured progress toward feeling calmer, freer, and more like yourself

Many clients tell me their biggest shift is learning:
“I don’t need certainty about this thought to live my life.”

Start getting your life back - less fear, less mental checking, less avoidance, and more confidence in yourself.

If you’re ready, contact Best Life Therapy today to book your first appointment.

Intrusive thoughts can feel isolating - but with the right approach, they don’t have to run your life.

You can also read more about intrusive thoughts and how Best Life Therapy could be the therapy you've been looking for in my recent blog:
https://www.bestlife-therapy.uk/blog/intrusive-thoughts--why-they-feel-so-scary--and-how-cbt-can-help-

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
01472 568906

15/01/2026

✨ Now Accepting New Clients ✨

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or just not like yourself lately? You don’t have to navigate it alone.

I’m a qualified therapist in private practice, offering a warm, confidential, and non-judgmental space to help you work through life’s challenges and feel more grounded, clear and in control again.

Therapy can be a powerful step toward feeling more balanced and supported.

💬 Individual therapy
🧠 Evidence-based, compassionate care
📍 In-person / Online sessions available

If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy or find yourself wondering ‘is therapy right for me?’, this might be your sign. Feel free to message me directly or visit my website to learn more and book a free 15-minute telephone consultation – ask questions, see if we’re a good fit, and take the first step – no pressure.

You deserve support. 💙

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

12/01/2026

Monday is often the hardest day of the week for people, especially in what feels like the most challenging month of the year.

Try to remember that chasing perfection is a little bit like chasing a rainbow, and actually progress comes in many forms, with the everyday small wins being the most impacting if we allow ourselves time to celebrate them.

My little win for this Monday is getting myself and my toddler out of the door, on time, and with everything we need for the day. I am taking this win today, whilst also recognising that tomorrow is a new day and there's no pressure for this win to now be embedded as perfection every day.

I wonder what your win will be for this Monday?

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk
07497455397
01472 568906

31/12/2025

As a therapist, I remind myself as well as my clients that the New Year isn’t about becoming a brand-new version of yourself. 🌱

It’s about noticing what you’ve survived, what you’ve learned, and what you’re still carrying.

This time of year can bring hope and pressure. Excitement and exhaustion. All of that is normal.

Growth doesn’t happen on January 1st—it happens in small, quiet moments of honesty and self-compassion.

As we step into a new year, my wish is this:
✨ Fewer “shoulds”
✨ More curiosity
✨ Gentler goals
✨ Permission to go at your own pace

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to keep showing up, one step at a time.

Here’s to a year of progress over perfection, healing over hustling, and kindness toward ourselves and each other.

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk

16/12/2025

ADHD and Overwhelm...What's Really Going On in My Brain?🧠

I have lots of clients who come to me asking this very question, along with: is this just my ADHD and I have no control over it? Do I just have to put up with this...is this my life forever?

My answer to both of those questions is ABSOLUTELY NOT!

In therapy, we look at better understanding your ADHD and ultimately yourself, so we can create coping strategies, grounding strategies and a brighter, happier YOU!

Here's the 'sciencey bit'🩻
Why it happens: The ADHD brain processes more sensory, emotional, and cognitive input, which can overwhelm the salience network - the system that decides what to focus on.

When stress hormones rise, the prefrontal cortex (planning and focus) goes offline, and amygdala (emotional alarm system) becomes overactive.

Result: difficulty prioritising, emotional flooding, or shutting down.

The Brain in Overload Mode:
* Too much input - executive functions overload.
* Amygdala triggers fight, flight, or freeze.
* Working memory collapses under pressure.
* The brain struggles to switch tasks or make decisions.

Regulate: hydration, slow exhale, nature time🌳

How to Rebalance⚖️
Ground first: deep breathing, cold water, or gentle movement

Remember, overwhelm isn’t failure – it’s feedback.

When the ADHD brain feels safe and regulated, focus and creativity return💫

www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk

10/12/2025

Sometimes healing isn’t about “getting over it,”
it’s about understanding it.

Therapy gives us space to learn from the past —
to unpack what shaped us, rewrite old patterns,
and move forward with clarity instead of carrying old wounds.

You’re not weak for seeking help.

You’re wise for choosing growth. 🌿

Best Life Therapy
www.bestlife-therapy.uk
rebecca@bestlife-therapy.uk

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