22/12/2025
🎄 A calm Christmas support kit (no perfection required)
Sending warm Christmas wishes your way — hoping it’s filled with warmth, joy, love, kindness, and above all, peace.
For many people, this time of year brings extra pressure and overwhelm —
food everywhere, complex family moments, high expectations, very little space to rest, and an unspoken pressure to hold it all together, stay cheerful, and keep everything moving.
If that sounds familiar, here are a few simple supports to keep up your sleeve:
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🧺 1. Prep what you can (external calm)
• Do a little organising early where possible — set the table, chop veg, jot a loose plan.
• Prep food the night before to ease pressure on the day.
• Share the load — involve family where you can.
• Let “good enough” be good enough.
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🧠 2. Pre-plan for triggers (internal calm)
Think ahead — not to worry, but to protect your peace.
If comments are directed at you
You might choose a calm, low-energy response like:
• “I’m focusing on enjoying the day.”
• “I’m giving myself a break today.”
• “I’m listening to my body just now.”
• “I’m keeping things simple today.”
• “I’m alright, thanks.”
If you want to gently redirect without engaging:
• “Let’s enjoy this time together.”
• “I’m just glad to be here.”
And if needed, an exit is always allowed:
• “I’m just going to grab a drink.”
• “Excuse me — I’ll be back in a minute.”
• “I need the loo — catch you later.”
Sometimes the kindest option is simply to smile, change the subject, or step away.
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If people comment on others’ bodies or food
• Remind yourself: this is about them — not a truth about you.
• You’re allowed to disengage, mentally or physically.
• If you do choose to say something, a neutral line can help:
“Bodies change for lots of reasons — we never know what someone’s dealing with.”
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If thinner people criticise their own bodies or eating
• That sting is real — and understandable.
• You don’t have to educate, agree, or absorb it.
• A quiet boundary counts: look away, breathe, leave the room.
If you can, letting one safe person know in advance what might help on the day can make a big difference.
🌿 A gentle reframe (not a rule)
You don’t owe explanations, clarity, or education.
Short, calm responses protect your energy — and that’s enough.
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🫁 3. Pause before you react
• Try the three-breath rule before responding.
• A few slow breaths can soften the urge to defend, explain, or escape into food.
• If things feel tense, slip away to the bathroom or another quiet space – tap through the EFT points or breathe slowly until the emotion settles.
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🍽️ 4. Give the food police a rest (inside and out)
• Regular meals and snacks help keep your nervous system steadier.
• If emotional eating ramps up, get curious — what’s being stirred?
• If guilt shows up about what or how much you’ve eaten, pause and tap.
• No words needed — just tap, breathe, and let the intensity ease.
Relief first. Understanding can come later.
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🛑 5. Release the pressure to be perfect
• You don’t need to enjoy every moment.
• You don’t need to feel calm all day.
• Showing up as you are is enough.
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🚪 6. Schedule mini disappearances
• Step outside.
• Sit quietly.
• Tap away frustration, annoyance, or upset.
• A few minutes counts — regulation doesn’t need a long window.
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🪑 7. Choose your proximity wisely
• Sit near people who feel safe and neutral.
• Create distance from food- and weight-focused conversations where possible.
• You’re allowed to protect your nervous system without explanation.
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⏰ 8. Keep familiar rhythms where you can
• Similar wake-up times.
• Regular meals.
• A consistent bedtime wind-down.
Routine can be deeply calming when everything else feels different.
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🌱 9. Be present, not perfect
• Christmas isn’t a performance.
• Your worth isn’t measured by hosting, restraint, or cheerfulness.
• “Good enough” really is enough.
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✨ 10. Look for small moments of ease
• A warm drink.
• A quiet song.
• A shared laugh.
• You don’t need to feel festive all day to be doing this “right.”
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💛 A gentle reminder
You’re not doing Christmas wrong if you need pauses, boundaries, or support.
This season asks a lot — and it makes sense to meet it with care rather than pressure.
Wishing you moments of ease, softness, and quiet relief wherever you can find them 🤍