Cleft & Becoming

Cleft & Becoming Real life, day-to-day experiences, alongside confidence, identity, and emotional well-being.

A space for honesty, visibility, and the parts that don’t always get talked about. Connection, understanding, and support without judgment, fixing, or pressure.

30/04/2026

Some of the hardest parts of a cleft journey are the parts nobody really sees.

The appointments.
The waiting.
The worry before surgeries.
The overthinking afterwards.
Trying to stay strong for your child while carrying so much yourself.

And for those living with a cleft - sometimes it’s smiling confidently one day… and struggling quietly the next.

That’s why spaces built on real understanding matter so much 🤍

No judgement.
No “just be positive.”
Just support, honesty, and people who genuinely get it.

Whether you’re a parent navigating the journey, or someone living with a cleft yourself - you are not alone in this 💙

✨ Support
✨ Understanding
✨ Community
✨ Real conversations

And honestly? Sometimes just being able to talk things through with someone who understands can make all the difference.

28/04/2026

Hi everyone 🤍

I run Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing, alongside supporting the cleft community - and I’ve opened a few spaces this week for anyone who might need a bit of extra support.

This is especially for:
those living with a cleft (at any stage of the journey)
parents navigating appointments, emotions, and the day-to-day reality
anyone feeling overwhelmed, overthinking, or not quite themselves

Because behind the appointments, the strength, and the “getting on with it”… there’s often a lot that goes unspoken.

And sometimes, you don’t need advice - you just need space to talk, feel understood, and process things properly.

What I offer isn’t therapy - it’s real, down-to-earth wellbeing support and guidance to help you feel calmer, clearer, and more in control again.

✨ 1:1 wellbeing support (online & local)
✨ Walk & talk sessions
✨ Support with confidence, identity & emotional balance
✨ Space to talk things through - without judgement
✨ Group sessions coming soon

I’m qualified in coaching (including grief coaching), Mental Health First Aid trained, and currently training in hypnotherapy and counselling skills. Everything I offer is built around real understanding - both personal and professional.

👉 Intro sessions available this week:

Walk & talk £15 (local)
Online £15

I’m keeping it limited so I can give proper time and support - if this feels like something you might need, you’re always welcome to message 🤍

Even if you’re not sure, you can reach out for a chat first.




Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing

27/04/2026

Not everything you carry is visible.

Some of it looks like:
– overthinking every little thing
– feeling drained even when you’ve “done nothing”
– putting everyone else first, then wondering why you feel lost
– holding it together on the outside but struggling underneath

And the hardest part?
Most people don’t even realise you’re carrying it.

But you do.

And you’re allowed to say:
this is heavy

You’re allowed to want calm
You’re allowed to want clarity
You’re allowed to feel like yourself again

That’s where I come in.
Not to “fix” you - because you’re not broken.
But to support you, guide you, and help you find your way back to you.

✨ 1:1 support
✨ Walk & talk sessions
✨ Online & local
✨ Real, understanding, no judgement

If this hit home, message me or have a look at my page.
You don’t have to keep doing this on your own.

26/04/2026

I’ve finally launched something that feels really close to me 🤍

Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing

This has come from real life - from understanding what it feels like to carry everything on your own, overthink constantly, and still try to hold it all together on the outside.

I’m a qualified wellbeing coach, and I offer a range of support including 1:1 sessions, walk & talk sessions, and small supportive group spaces.

Everything I offer is centred around creating a calm, safe space where you can talk openly, feel heard, and start to make sense of what’s going on - at your own pace.

Sessions are available face to face locally (Swansea) and online.

I’m also currently training in counselling and hypnotherapy, which gently informs the way I support people, while staying within a non-clinical, supportive approach.

If this resonates with you, or you know someone who might need it, feel free to message me 🤍

Even just sharing this would mean a lot.🤍

14/04/2026

A few random facts about me:

I’ll re-read a message 5 times before sending it.
I hate hearing my own voice back.
I pick the same side in photos without thinking.
I notice lighting more than most people.
I’m always aware of where I’m standing in a room.

Oh… and I was born with a cleft.

Not everything revolves around it.
But it’s in the background of things you’d never even think about.

But here’s the powerful part…

None of that stopped me becoming who I am.

“My smile didn’t hold me back - it built me.”

01/04/2026

“Funny how something others hated… once gave me peace.”

When everyone complained about wearing masks…
I quietly felt relief.

For once, the part of my face I’d spent years explaining…
was just… covered.

No questions.
No second glances.
No trying to read people before they spoke.

Just me.

But now?

If I wear a mask, people look anyway.
Sometimes even more.

And I can’t help but think how ironic that is…

The one thing that once helped me blend in,
now makes me stand out.

So I stopped choosing based on them.

Because whether I cover my face or not…
people will always look.

And that’s when it clicked:

It was never really about the scar.
It was about the world’s reaction to it.

I don’t need the mask anymore.
But I’ll be honest…

Sometimes, I miss it.

27/03/2026

Things I’m tired of hearing as someone with a cleft:

“I didn’t even notice it”
(You did… you just didn’t know what to say)

“At least it’s not that bad”
(Compared to what exactly?)

“You’re still pretty though”
(Though?? 🤨)

“They can fix that, can’t they?”
(It’s not a broken toy)

Sometimes it’s not bullying that gets to you…
it’s the comments people think are kind.

So here’s a reminder:

You don’t need to be
“pretty despite it”
“confident considering it”
or
“fixed to be accepted”

You just get to be you.
Full stop.

Say it how it is.

We’re not fragile - we’re just done filtering it.

No one talks about this part.

Not the staring.
Not the obvious stuff.

The quiet comments.
The ones wrapped up as compliments.
The ones you’re supposed to just… accept.

But here’s the truth:

We hear everything.
We carry more than people realise.
And we’re allowed to say:
that didn’t feel okay.

Awareness isn’t just seeing us.
It’s understanding how you speak to us too.

I’ve shared these before, but I wanted to actually show them properly.Each of these books was written from real life - n...
25/03/2026

I’ve shared these before, but I wanted to actually show them properly.

Each of these books was written from real life - not just to tell a story, but to help people feel understood.

✨ Parenting a Cleft Warrior
For the parents holding it together when everything feels overwhelming.
Because no one hands you a guide for this journey… but you deserve one.
Because people don’t see the small things - like how even something as simple as a yawn can hurt.

🌿 Navigating Through the Journey of Mental Health
For the days when your mind feels heavy and you don’t know where to start.
For the moments you’re struggling but still showing up.

🌈 The Smile That Changed the World
For children learning to feel proud of who they are.
Because every smile deserves to feel seen and celebrated.

They’re all different, but they come from the same place - real life, real emotion, and wanting people to feel less alone.

If one of these speaks to you or someone you know, I’ll pop the links in the comments 🤍

17/03/2026

❤️A letter your scar would write to you ❤️

Hi you,

I know you’ve had moments where you’ve wished I wasn’t here.
Where you’ve looked in the mirror and wondered what life would be like without me.

I’ve seen the stares with you.
Felt the questions land.
Heard the silence when you didn’t know what to say.

But I need you to understand something…

I was never placed here to take anything away from you.
I was placed here to show the world a different kind of strength.

Every time you smiled anyway - I was there.
Every time you walked into a room unsure, but did it anyway - was there.
Every time you chose to keep going - I was part of that story.

I am not something broken.
I am proof of everything you’ve overcome.

And one day…
you won’t wish me away.

You’ll realise -
I helped shape someone who is deeper, kinder, and stronger than they ever knew they could be.

And that person?

Is you.

Love,
Your scar 🤍

What would your scar say to you? 👇

12/03/2026

Something I’ve thought about a lot over the years…

If I could change one thing about how the world understands cleft lip and palate, it would be this:

It’s not “just cosmetic.”

Behind a cleft there are surgeries, hospital appointments, speech therapy, feeding struggles, questions, stares, and moments where confidence has to be built again and again.

But there is also resilience.
There is courage.
There are families who become incredibly strong.
And there are children who grow up learning that their differences don’t define their worth.

Living with a cleft shapes you in ways people don’t always see, but it can also shape incredible strength and compassion.

I’d love to know from others on this journey…

If you could change one thing about how people understand cleft lip and palate, what would it be?

Your words might help someone else feel seen today 🤍










09/03/2026

Sometimes I wonder what I would say to the younger version of me.

The little girl sitting in hospital waiting rooms.
The one who didn’t understand why she had to go through so many surgeries.
The one who worried about how people saw her.

I think I’d tell her this:

One day, your story will help someone else feel less alone.
One day, the thing that felt so heavy will become part of your strength.

And one day, you’ll realise your smile was never something that needed fixing it was always something that carried courage.

If you could say something to your younger self on this journey… what would it be? 🤍


















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