The Empower Coach

13/02/2026

If you’ve always felt like you don’t fit into fitness or dieting… this might be why.👇 #

Not all health advice is made for you.

Maybe you’ve tried every plan going.
Downloaded the apps.
Followed the meal plans.
Hired the PT.

And when it didn’t stick?

You were told you don’t want it enough.
You lack discipline.
You need more willpower.

No. It’s not you.

That advice just wasn’t built for your brain, your life, or your nervous system.

A lot of “health” advice ignores real life.

Your stress.
Your job.
Your kids.
Your neurodivergent brain.
Your history with food.
Your burnout.

So you do well for a few weeks…
Then you can’t sustain it.

You swing between all-in and completely off.
The meal plans don’t understand your food fears.
There’s no support when you forget to eat all day and then overeat at night.
You’re told to push through exhaustion instead of listen to it.

Of course it hasn’t worked.

It was never designed around you.

And that doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It means you haven’t had the right support yet.

The kind that looks at your mindset.
Your patterns.
Your lifestyle.
And builds something that fits.

It is not you.

You just haven’t had someone help you figure out what actually works for you.

Before starting another plan, write down:
– What stresses me weekly?
– When do I usually spiral?
– What support do I actually need?

Start there.

You’re not broken. You just need a different approach.
DM me “EMPOWER” if you’re ready to build one that actually fits your life. 🙌🏻

12/02/2026

I will not be staying quiet.

We can’t shrink and stay small.

We need to rise and find our strength.

What is actually happening in the world right now? I look around and I feel, more than ever, that we are being called to support one another in reclaiming the power that’s been dimmed for too long.

I’ll be honest: my sense of injustice is at an all-time high. Everything I feel strongly about is coming to a head, and the last thing I’m going to do is sit here and be quiet about it.

For decades, women’s bodies have been treated like seasonal trends. Low-rise jeans, "he**in chic," the constant pressure to shrink. But why? Because a woman preoccupied with her size is a woman distracted from her power.

They wanted us small so we would lose our voices, because we are an absolute force when we finally speak out.

I coach women on empowerment and finding their voice every single day. I can’t advocate for that and then stay "palatable" when our rights and our peace are on the line.

The distraction ends today.

Do not let the world hush you into submission any longer. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to take up space. You deserve your rights. And you deserve your peace.

Are you with me?

12/02/2026

11/02/2026

Dieting was the trend. Healing is the rebellion.

if you grew up in the 90s and 00s, like I did, then it felt like dieting was a trend.

But do you know what? I have learned that healing is the rebellion.

And I love to rebel against the norm!

There was a time when dieting felt… normal though.
Like it was expected.
Almost required. Like if you weren’t watching what you ate, or talking about it, then what were you even doing?
Being skinny was praised.

Eating less was applauded. You know like when you put more on your plate comments were made.

Women have been conditioned this way!

And at the time?

We didn’t question it.

We thought we were the problem.
So we tried harder.
Restricted more.
Promised ourselves that we will be good!
But behind the scenes it felt messy.
Exhausting.
Lonely.
Miserable.
Binge. Restrict. Guilt. Shame.
Compare yourself to everyone else.

Watch your confidence slowly erode.

You didn’t feel powerful.
You felt trapped.
Like your worth was tied to how well you could control your body.
And the worst part?
It wasn’t even your fault.
Diet culture taught us to conform to impossible standards just to feel accepted.
Successful.
Enough.

But our bodies are not a trend.
And your worth was never up for debate.
Healing is choosing to step out of the system that keeps you distracted, disconnected, and doubting yourself.
Healing is learning to listen instead of punish.
Healing is rebuilding trust with your body after years of being told it was wrong.

And yes, that is rebellious.
That’s the work I do with my clients.
Helping them break the cycles.
Helping them reconnect.
Helping them feel empowered in their bodies again, not at war with them.

Because this doesn’t have to be your forever.
So today, try this:
When the negative thought pops up, challenge it.
Say something kinder.
Something grounding.
Something true.
That moment matters more than you think.
This is what I’m here for.
This is the work.
This is the rebellion.
Let’s fu***ng go. 🔥

What part of this are you unlearning right now?

If you want more help breaking diet culture comment “rebel” and I will send you my podcast to help.

10/02/2026

You don’t need more willpower. You need a new relationship with food.🔥

You don’t need more willpower.
You need a new relationship with food.
And I know that might annoy you a bit… because you’ve spent YEARS telling yourself

“I just need to be more disciplined.”

I’ve said it too.
On a Monday.
After a weekend.
After another “why can’t I just get my s**t together?” moment.
You try harder.

You push more.
You promise yourself this time will be different.
And then you’re exhausted.
Fed up.
Wondering why nothing ever sticks.
So here it is, willpower is bulls**t.
Not because you’re lazy.
Not because you don’t care enough.
But because willpower runs out.

It works when life is calm, you’re well-rested, not stressed, not emotional…
and when does that actually happen?
Most of the time, “discipline” is just fear in disguise.
Fear of failing.
Fear of gaining weight.
Fear of losing control.

That kind of motivation burns hot and fast.
And when it crashes?

Hello binge. Hello guilt. Hello “I’ve ruined it.”
And here’s the bit no one says out loud…
Relying on discipline is often a way to avoid the real stuff.
The stress.
The emotions.
The environment you’re trying to survive in.

The fact that food has become the only place you switch off.
That’s why forcing yourself never works long-term.
Real change doesn’t come from trying harder.

It comes from understanding why this feels hard in the first place.
That’s what we do inside EMPOWER.
No white-knuckling.
No “just be more disciplined”.

No pushing yourself into another cycle.
We look at the root and that’s where everything finally shifts.
That’s the real power behind life-changing results.

DM ‘EMPOWER’ if you want to work on the root, not the rules.🚀

09/02/2026

If you’re over 30 and still training to get smaller… we need to talk
I know the belief.

Everything will be better when I hit that number on the scale.
But how long have you been chasing it?
Years? Decades?

How long have you felt uncomfortable in your skin, waiting to feel “good enough”?
And honestly… how many more years do you want to give to that goal?

Chasing the thin ideal keeps you stuck.
All-or-nothing cycles.
Jumping from one diet to the next.

Slogging it out in endless cardio and HIIT, believing the more you sweat, the more worthy you are.
That food has to be earned.
That “bad” food needs to be burned off.
That’s not health.
That’s survival mode.
And at some point, your body gets tired of being punished.

So here’s the question, what if you trained for something else?
Strength.
Confidence.
Energy.
A body that supports your life instead of controlling it.
That’s what I train for now.
Not to stay small and quiet.
But to take up space.
To feel capable.
To become the badass old lady who doesn’t shrink herself for anyone.

And to be a role model.
For my niece.
For the women watching.
For the next generation who deserve to know they don’t need to shrink to be worthy.
You can be that too.

So tell me, what’s one small shift you could make today to step away from diet culture?

Ready to stop training from self-hate? Let me know below

08/02/2026

Women aren’t meant to shrink.

I get angry about how women have been made to feel like they need to shrink.

For far too long, unrealistic beauty standards have been shoved down our throats.
Be smaller.
Be quieter.
Don’t take up space.

For a long time, I thought I had to meet the thin ideal to be accepted.
To be wanted.
To be successful.
I didn’t have a voice.
I was scared of being judged.
Scared of being seen.

My confidence didn’t come from becoming smaller.
It came from the work I did on myself.
From working on my mind and my body.
From unlearning everything diet culture taught me and stepping into my power.

Finding my voice changed everything.
And now I use it to help other women break free from diet culture’s grip and become confident in who they are.

Because in a world where women are still being controlled, silenced, and stripped of choice…it’s time for us to stand up and rise.

And you cannot do that on an empty stomach.
Stop shrinking yourself.

Rise into your power.
Are you with me?

08/02/2026

You don’t have to hate your body into change.

For years, I thought change had to come from punishment.
From hating what I saw in the mirror.

From pushing harder.
From sweating more.
From resting less.
From being stricter.
From being “better.”

Diet culture taught us that if we weren’t exhausted, we weren’t doing enough.
That if we weren’t smaller, we weren’t worthy.
That rest was lazy.
That softness was failure.
That guilt was motivation.

So we tried to hate ourselves into becoming someone else.
And maybe you saw some results…
But at what cost?
Because hating your body into change doesn’t create confidence.
It creates fear.
Burnout.
Obsession.
And a constant feeling of never being enough.
And thats exactly where I was and how I felt.

What changed everything for me, was when I stopped trying to hate myself into change and started taking care of myself.
When movement became something I did for my body, not to it.
To feel strong and capable.

When food became nourishment, not a moral decision.
When rest became essential, not something I had to earn.
That’s when things actually shifted.
Not from control.
Not from shame.
But from love and respect.
You don’t need to hate yourself into change.
You deserve better than that.

If this resonated with you tell me in the comments 🤍
And if you’re ready to unlearn this for good, you know where to find me.

07/02/2026

No one talks about the voice in your head at the gym.

I used to HATE wearing shorts in the gym.

Not because of my body…
But because of the thoughts that came with it.
Comparing myself.

Telling myself I didn’t belong.
Catching my reflection and letting it ruin my entire session.
the negative thoughts that just spun around my head
But do you know what?
That voice felt automatic.
Because when you’ve spent years putting yourself down, those neural pathways in your brain are strong.

So I didn’t “fake confidence.”
I challenged the thoughts.
Over.
And over.
And over again.

I shifted the focus:
👉 from how I looked
👉 to how I felt
👉 to how strong I was
👉 to the fact I was even there

That’s where confidence came from.
Not changing my body.
Changing the conversation.
Don’t let those thoughts live rent-free in your head.
Challenge them.
And then challenge them again.
That’s how they lose power.

Have you noticed your self-talk in the gym?

06/02/2026

Shrinking yourself promised happiness… where is it?

How many years have you spent trying to make yourself smaller in the hope that then life would feel better?
I know I did.

For far too long I chased skinny.
I honestly believed that once I got “there” I’d be happy.
Accepted.
Successful.
That the constant worry in my head would finally quieten.
But it never did.
Instead, I became miserable.

Obsessed with food.
Counting every calorie.
Labelling food as good or bad.
Avoiding carbs like they were the enemy.
Believing some foods had to be earned or worked off.

And that’s when it hit me…
This is the real cost of dieting.
Not the plan you paid for.
Not the shake or the app.

The cost of missing moments with people you love because you’re too busy worrying about how you look.

Being half-present in conversations because your head is somewhere else.
Holidays ruined by food guilt.
Life paused with the promise of “I’ll be happy when I reach that weight.”

That cost shows up in your mental health.
Your energy.
Your relationship with food.
Your confidence.

And research backs this up.
Exposure to the “thin ideal” is strongly linked to poor body image and years of yo-yo dieting.

So no… dieting didn’t just try to change your body.
It stole you living.

This is exactly what I help my clients break free from.
You don’t need another plan.
Another reset.
Another “this time I’ll be stricter.”
That’s the cycle that’s already taken enough from you.
This is about freedom.
From food rules.
From guilt.
From shrinking yourself to feel worthy.

And finally feeling confident in your body as it is, while building a healthy life that actually supports you.

If part of you is thinking “this is exactly me”… you’re not alone. Comment ❤️

05/02/2026

You think healthy eating means…

For the longest time, I thought “doing it right” meant control.
Rules.
Good foods. Bad foods.
And that quiet voice in my head keeping score.

If your idea of “healthy eating” leaves no room for joy, connection, or real life…
it’s not health.
It’s control dressed up as wellness.

I’ve lived the version where food wasn’t just food.
Where meals came with maths.
Where enjoyment came with consequences.
And where being “disciplined” meant ignoring what I actually needed.

Food isn’t just fuel.
It’s birthdays.
It’s shared meals.
It’s sitting at the table and actually being there, not mentally replaying what you ate earlier or promising yourself you’ll “be better tomorrow”.

And yes, sometimes food just feels good.
That’s allowed.

What isn’t helpful?
Needing a side of shame with your favourite chocolate bar.
Feeling guilty for cake at a kid’s birthday.
Believing you’ve failed because you enjoyed yourself.

Food shouldn’t be the only way you cope.
But it also shouldn’t be something you fear, earn, or apologise for.

I learned this the hard way.
By doing all the “right” things… and still feeling miserable, disconnected, and stuck in my own head.

You don’t need to suffer to be healthy.
You don’t need to remove joy to prove discipline.
And you don’t need to hate your relationship with food to take care of yourself.

If this made you feel called out (in a good way)…
tell me — what food were you taught to feel guilty about? 🍫🎂