Lisa Whyte Hypnotherapy

24/10/2025

You know when someone makes a comment, or their behavior feels “off,” or they ask you to do something you really don’t want to do and you agree (or whatever the “pinch” may be), and it’s a little annoying but you don’t want to make a big deal out of “nothing,” so you don’t say anything.

It feels like a pinch.
It’s uncomfortable, but tolerable.
And as long as it doesn’t happen again, it’s fine.
Or so you tell yourself.

But then the behavior continues. And after the 7th or 8th pinch, you’re starting to have big feelings about this little pinchy behavior.
And by the time you address it, the pinch feels like a punch to the gut, and your reaction to the behavior is just as big.
You’re downright angry, defensive, or you might even be ready to throw in the towel on the whole relationship/job/dynamic.

But is that really fair to the other side? They didn’t know. You played it off like everything was fine, so how would they know to stop?

It’s so important to listen to our bodies when they feel “pinched.” To get curious about what it is that isn’t working for us, and to be willing to share this with the other party.

Because the truth is, you DO know your limits. Your body is telling you all the time where the line is. The problem is that we don’t tend to listen because we’re afraid of what might happen if we speak up for ourselves.

But you can’t pretend forever. The pinches will start to hurt more and your body will be telling you when you’ve gone beyond your limit, and when you’re far beyond your limit, when you move into protection or survival mode, it feels a lot harder to have conversations around these little pinches.

AND while it’s not true for everyone, healthier people DO care. They don’t want to hurt or pinch you. They want to show up in ways that make you feel supported - but you have to be willing to tell them how!

If you're working on developing your communication skills in your relationships (which can be hard if you didn't have great models), the Relationship Management Workshop begins October 23.
6 weeks, small group, interactive work in a compassionate space filled with likeminded folks who are also doing the work.
Don't miss out - this is the last workshop of 2025! There are 5 spots left.
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

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This is a perspective shift for many people, and it’s also a sign of improving emotional maturity when we can begin to hold space for these complex and often conflicting feelings and truths.

People aren’t simply “good” or “bad.”
We’re all complex, multi-layered, with complicated histories, deeply ingrained patterns, and, for the most part, I believe we’re all trying to do the best we can.

Which means good people can do bad things sometimes.
But seeing the good in someone doesn’t mean you have to stay in harmful patterns or unsafe dynamics.
It means that we can still see and love them and understand how they came to a behavior, AND not be willing to tolerate that behavior.

Learning to separate out the person from the behavior is a sign of your own growth and maturity.
It means growing to trust yourself to maintain boundaries without needing hate, anger, or judgment.
You’re allowed to have boundaries simply because what you need is what you need.

Remember, boundaries ARE kind.
Boundaries are letting people see you; boundaries are part of how we co-create relationships together, through sharing our limits and needs with one another.
They’re how we build real trust because we can see how people respond when we show them parts of ourselves in naming what we need.

If you’re new to creating the types of boundaries that welcome people in, there is a lot of emotion in this process. The Relationship Management Workshop begins October 23rd. Come learn new ways to navigate conflict, communication, intimacy, repair, and more as you work on deepening your ability to relate more securely in your relationships.
Last workshop of 2025! Just a few spots left.
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

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Survivor 💜