19/12/2025
This is a terrible latch, shallow, likely ineffective, this baby is compensating a lot with that upper lip for a tongue tie his mother won’t divide
I know this because this is my son and my latch and I never did divide his tongue tie. Looking back there’s a lot of things I might change (including possibly dealing with that tie) but overall, well he’s fine, I’m fine and it doesn’t matter now and this is just what I wanted to talk about; it’s ok to do nothing.
I could have had his tie divided (I was surrounded by lactation consultants and tongue tie practitioners), I could have actually gone to see one of them and they’d probably have told me how utterly terrible his latch was, but I didn’t. I had lots of reasons for that but ultimately for me at that time, the balance swayed in favour of keeping doing just fine. I didn’t chase perfection.
Do I have regrets? well some maybe but only because mum guilt is a very real thing, but significant regrets? No none.
My colleague has similar, children with ties she never treated, they had some tricky times with feeding but overall it was fine and it’s still fine. No big regrets .
When we talk to you about options and things you could try, it’s ok not to chase perfection too.
It’s ok to hear our suggestions and say no actually that’s just not going to work for us’ . To understand that yes there are things we could do , that might improve things and choose not to do them. Chances are good it will all work out.
Sometimes you might decide just to muddle through. The baby’s gaining weight, even if it’s with a bit of extra milk, it’s bearable for you, they’re fussy but it’s doable.
Doable is ok! Many problems, well they solve themselves or we all learn to live with fine.
And if it’s not fine, if you want to do something, we’re here to help.
