ALN counselling & Wellbeing

09/11/2025

So many of us grew up learning how to be what others needed us to be quiet, strong, agreeable, productive.

Somewhere along the way, the version of us that was curious, playful, and unfiltered got pushed to the side.

This quote is an invitation to pause and look inward:

👉🏻Who were you before the world taught you to shrink or stretch to fit?

Your inner child still holds those early truths what lit you up, what felt safe, what felt unfair, what you longed for.

Reconnecting with that part of you isn’t about going backwards; it’s about remembering the pieces of yourself that were never meant to be abandoned.

Today, try asking: What did my younger self need that I can offer now?

A hug ? words of encouragement? A place to play? The opportunity to fail? Acceptance?

03/11/2025

In therapy, change doesn’t happen all at once.

It grows in layers.

Just like Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, clients move through stages in the therapeutic relationship. Not in a straight line, and not on a timer. More like a slow, steady unfolding when safety meets support.

I created this visual to show what clients often need from us as therapists and coaches in order to grow:

⭐️ Safety & Stabilization

A calm, consistent space where they feel seen and safe enough to breathe and arrive as they are.

⭐️ Trust & Attunement

Warmth, reliability, and genuine presence. The felt sense of “You’re with me, not analyzing me from a distance.”

⭐️ Validation & Understanding

Their inner world reflected back with clarity and compassion. Shame softens. Language forms. Things make sense.

⭐️ Skill Building & Agency

Tools, practice, curiosity. Less “What’s wrong with me?” and more “I can try, learn, and adjust.”

⭐️ Self-Leadership & Integration

Confidence, internal coherence, and the ability to navigate life with inner steadiness.

Not perfection. Not independence from support.

Just a solid “I can be with myself and lead myself.”

Healing isn’t only symptom relief.

It’s expanding capacity, voice, presence, and self-trust.

When the right conditions are present, people don’t just cope

they grow into who they’ve always been capable of becoming.

31/10/2025

🌱 At The Listening Rooms, we believe everyone deserves access to therapy and every counsellor deserves a safe place to learn and grow.
That’s why we’re offering:
💬 Low-cost counselling sessions with placement counsellors affordable support for those who need it most. ( Coming soon )
🎓 Training & development opportunities helping new counsellors build skills and confidence, guided by experienced practitioners. Corporate training provided to industry.
Behind The Listening Rooms are Carolyn and Anna two experienced professionals with years of knowledge, compassion, and dedication to counselling. Their vision is simple: create a community where support is accessible, and learning is nurtured.
Whether you’re seeking support or starting your counselling journey, The Listening Rooms is here for you.

30/10/2025

08/10/2025

So many of these are familiar from years gone by.

Breaking free from the sabotage and trying something new can be both terrifying but life changing !



But how many do you currently do?

07/10/2025

🌿Supervision is more than a tick-box it’s a space to expand your confidence, skills, and clinical intuition with the support of someone who’s walked the path.

🌿Clinical work can feel heavy having a collaborative space to process cases, doubts, and direction makes all the difference.

🌿My supervision approach balances challenge, reflection and space for you the person not just the practitioner.

🌿Supervision is where your professional identity takes shape let’s make sure it aligns with your values and strengths

🌿I’m currently welcoming new supervisees. If you’re seeking a supportive, reflective space to grow, get in touch and let’s see if we’re the right fit.

03/10/2025

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28/09/2025

Anxiety often shows up like an umbrella it wants to protect us. The problem is, if we hold it open all the time, it can block the sunshine, keep us on guard, and stop us from feeling present.

The work isn’t about throwing the umbrella away. It’s about learning when to carry it, when to close it, and how to trust that you’ll be okay without it sometimes.

Is it time to learn to dance in the rain ?💃🏻🕺

20/09/2025

09/09/2025

Derealization vs. Depersonalization

🧠Derealization → the world feels unreal (dreamlike, foggy, distant).

🧠Depersonalization → you feel unreal (disconnected from your body or thoughts).

Both are forms of dissociation your brain’s way of protecting you under stress.

They can feel uncomfortable but they’re not dangerous.

When we treat depersonalization and derealization as discomfort, not a danger the amygdala stops seing them as a threat.

They are a response to stress so let’s release the stress!

What one thing can you do to today to take something out of the stress bucket ?

07/09/2025

The beauty of the Rewind Technique?

You don’t have to retell your story. Healing without having to go through the details again.

Rewind helps you process trauma gently without needing to say what happened.

Your past doesn’t need to be re-lived to be released. The Rewind Technique allows healing in safety and privacy.

You can let go of the emotional charge of a memory without having to share the memory itself.

06/09/2025

🍂 Autumn & Self-Care 🍂

As the days grow shorter and the nights arrive earlier, many of us notice our energy dipping and our mood shifting. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is more common than you might think and it can feel like the autumn blues are weighing heavily on your shoulders.

If you’ve been feeling more tired, low, or withdrawn, you’re not alone. The change of season affects our bodies and minds in very real ways.

Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Slowing down is part of the rhythm of this season. 🍁

And if you notice your low mood lingering or becoming hard to manage, reaching out for support can make a huge difference. You don’t have to navigate this season alone

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