The Healing Space

The Healing Space Hi, I’m Gemma 👋
Helping families build resilience 💬 I offer therapy for children (7+), teens & adults, plus 1:1 parent coaching. Based in Cheshire & Manchester. In person, online & walk-and-talk.
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Shame rarely starts in adulthood.It usually begins when reactions were bigger than mistakes.When emotions were criticise...
21/02/2026

Shame rarely starts in adulthood.
It usually begins when reactions were bigger than mistakes.
When emotions were criticised instead of guided.
When getting something wrong felt like losing connection.

So now, when you make a small mistake,
your body reacts like it’s large.

Heart rate rises.
Muscles tense.
Thoughts race.

Then the second wave hits.

Self-criticism.
“I’m too much.”
“I always mess up.”
“I should have known better.”

That second layer is learned.

Scripts interrupt it.
Not because they magically fix the past.
But because they slow the nervous system down long enough to update it.

You are not dramatic.
You are patterned.
You are not broken.
You are responding.

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Support Hub resources: Visualising Boundaries Worksheet and What My Body Is Trying to Tell Me.

Related blog: Understanding Attachment Styles in Adulthood.








When you’re activated, logic doesn’t help first.Your nervous system needs regulation before reflection.These strategies ...
20/02/2026

When you’re activated, logic doesn’t help first.
Your nervous system needs regulation before reflection.

These strategies work because they target the body, not just the thoughts.

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ADHD in teenagers is often misread.What adults see: Lack of effort.Avoidance.Attitude.Excuses.What’s actually happening:...
19/02/2026

ADHD in teenagers is often misread.
What adults see: Lack of effort.
Avoidance.
Attitude.
Excuses.

What’s actually happening: Cognitive overload.
Task initiation paralysis.
Emotional flooding.
Rejection sensitivity building quietly underneath.

Many teens with ADHD don’t lack understanding.
They lack the neurological ease of starting, sequencing, filtering, and sustaining attention under pressure.
And when that difficulty is repeatedly labelled as laziness, something else forms.

Shame.

Shame builds faster than executive function.
Over time, the teen doesn’t just struggle with homework.
They start to believe they are the problem.
That belief follows them.
Into exams.
Into relationships.
Into adulthood.

Understanding ADHD through a regulation lens changes the response.
Curiosity works better than criticism.
Pause works better than pressure.

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Support Hub resource: What My Body Is Trying to Tell Me.
Related blog: Living with ADHD: It’s a Rollercoaster, Not a Race.








Attachment-based anxiety isn’t about weakness.It’s about predictability.When care felt inconsistent, your system learned...
18/02/2026

Attachment-based anxiety isn’t about weakness.
It’s about predictability.

When care felt inconsistent, your system learned to monitor connection.
That vigilance can stay long after childhood ends.

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Some people don’t avoid conflict because they’re passive.They avoid it because their nervous system associates disagreem...
17/02/2026

Some people don’t avoid conflict because they’re passive.

They avoid it because their nervous system associates disagreement with danger.

Raised voices.
Withdrawal.
Cold silence.
Unpredictable reactions.

Your body learned to anticipate the shift.

So now even healthy disagreement can feel threatening.

That’s not weakness.
That’s memory.

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Support Hub resources: What My Body Is Trying to Tell Me and the Visualising Boundaries Worksheet.
Related blog: Understanding Attachment Styles in Adulthood.






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Not all anxiety begins with a single traumatic event.Sometimes it begins with unspoken rules.Rules about staying small.R...
16/02/2026

Not all anxiety begins with a single traumatic event.
Sometimes it begins with unspoken rules.
Rules about staying small.
Rules about keeping secrets.
Rules about not reacting.
Rules about earning approval.

Children internalise what keeps connection intact.
They don’t question the system.
They adapt to it.

And those adaptations can follow them into adulthood as:
– overthinking
– people-pleasing
– conflict avoidance
– hyper-awareness of other people’s moods

This isn’t weakness.
It’s learned survival inside a family system.

Save this if it put words to something you’ve lived.
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Support Hub resources: What My Body Is Trying to Tell Me and the Visualising Boundaries Worksheet.
Related blog: Understanding Attachment Styles in Adulthood. Link in bio










15/02/2026

Being single isn’t always about absence.
Sometimes it’s about space.
Time without performing.

Distance from patterns that kept repeating.
For some people, relationships weren’t safe places to learn who they were.
So being alone becomes the first place they can.
That doesn’t mean you’ve given up.
It can mean you’re recalibrating.

Save this if it reframed something.
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Support Hub resources: What My Body Is Trying to Tell Me.
Related blog: Understanding Attachment Styles in Adulthood.

For many adults, guilt shows upany time they rest, say no, or prioritise themselves.Not because they’re selfish.But beca...
14/02/2026

For many adults, guilt shows up
any time they rest, say no, or prioritise themselves.
Not because they’re selfish.
But because care once came with conditions.

This script isn’t about forcing confidence.
It’s about reminding your nervous system
that boundaries don’t equal abandonment.

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Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot.Love.Longing.Comparison.Old wounds.If being kind to yourself still feels uncomfortabl...
13/02/2026

Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot.

Love.
Longing.
Comparison.
Old wounds.

If being kind to yourself still feels uncomfortable… this workbook was made for you.

Self-Love When It’s Hard is a therapist-designed, gentle guide for the days you doubt yourself.

It explores self-worth, attachment patterns, inner criticism, boundaries, and how to build a more compassionate relationship with yourself.

Not fluffy.
Not performative.
Just honest, grounded support.

💌 Newsletter subscribers receive 75% off for a limited time.

If you’re on my list, check your inbox.
If you’re not, you can sign up via my website and receive the discount code.

Because real self-love isn’t about roses.
It’s about repair.

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13/02/2026

Self-love is often framed as something you add.
But for many people, it’s something you take apart.
The rules you learned.
The adaptations you made.
The version of you that kept connection safe.
Nothing about that was weak.
But it may no longer be needed.

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Silence isn’t always about being shy.Sometimes it’s about protecting connectionwhen honesty once felt risky.Awareness ch...
12/02/2026

Silence isn’t always about being shy.
Sometimes it’s about protecting connection
when honesty once felt risky.
Awareness changes how we respond to ourselves
and to others.

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Some children don’t act out.They adapt.They learn how to keep things steadyby staying quiet, careful, and low-need.That ...
11/02/2026

Some children don’t act out.
They adapt.
They learn how to keep things steady
by staying quiet, careful, and low-need.
That can look like maturity.
But it often costs them later.

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