06/12/2025
Part of solution focused work involves helping our clients identify the signs that things are going better. Often these are tiny, imperceptible things. Yesterday something happened when I visited my dad that I wanted to share - because it really warmed my heart. This was a huge sign that things are going better.
After losing my mum, my dad said he’d never put the xmas tree up again. Now if you’d have seen how many xmas decs my mum would put up you’d understand how sad this was. Christmas, the memories, the nostalgia, only amplifies feelings of loss doesn’t it?
Then yesterday, my dad said he felt ready to put the Christmas tree up. So you can imagine my joy when he asked me to help him decorate it.
This is eight years on.
Navigating grief of that significant person in your life is the most painful thing we’ll encounter. But us humans are gifted with the resource of adaptability. It’s the biggest skill we have - without it we’d never survive.
Acceptance and that adaptability can take a long, long time but we all have it.
Never give up on hope. Hope is always present. We just need a bit of time for the eyes to adjust to see the light.