23/10/2025
I used to drink to forget who I was.
Now I coach people to remember who they are.
Why I Do What I Do
People often ask, “Why do you coach?”
The truth? Because I survived what nearly broke me.
I didn’t become a coach because life was neat.
I became a coach because I had to rebuild mine from the ground up.
I’ve lived through child abuse.
I used alcohol to block it out, to silence the noise that wouldn’t stop in my head.
I destroyed my marriage.
I carried 19 stone on a body I hated and a mind I couldn’t control.
I’d wake up foggy, angry, ashamed, telling myself I’d “sort it soon.”
I hid behind jokes, work, and busyness.
From the outside, I looked fine to a level.
Inside, I was breaking.
For years I tried to fix it with willpower, quick wins, and new plans.
But nothing stuck, because I was fighting the wrong battle.
It wasn’t lack of knowledge. It was lack of connection.
I was trying to change without healing.
I knew what to do. I just wasn’t living it.
The truth?
I didn’t need another plan.
I needed to finally face myself.
In 2020, I hit rock bottom.
I asked for help, and I got it.
For the first time in my life, I stopped pretending and started rebuilding.
Not overnight.
Not with motivation.
But with small actions.
Simple structure.
Clarity. Consistency.
One breath. One walk. One honest conversation at a time.
And slowly, everything started to shift.
My body. My relationships. My peace. My sense of self.
From chaos to calm.
From performance to presence.
I learned to regulate my nervous system, to calm the noise, to rebuild trust with myself.
Now, I’m over four years sober.
I’ve lost the weight and kept it off.
I’ve rebuilt my relationships and they’re stronger than ever.
I’ve built two businesses I love. They’re not easy, but they’re real, fulfilling, and mine.
I’ve built communities, spoken to thousands, and watched numerous people’s lives change.
But most importantly, I got myself back.
I didn’t just rebuild my life, I rebuilt the way I lead.
Because real leadership doesn’t start in a meeting room.
It starts in the mirror.
When you’re honest enough to face yourself, everything else changes, how you think, how you show up, how you lead others.
Why I Coach
Because I know what it costs to live disconnected from yourself and I know the way back.
Not theory. Not hype.
Lived truth.
Steady habits.
Simple structure.
Honest alignment
I’ll sit with you in the challenges.
I’ll help you build something that holds, until your life fits you from the inside out
I’m happier, freer, and more fulfilled than I’ve ever been.
Not because life is perfect, but because I stopped hiding and kept promises to myself.
If you’re done pretending
If you’re tired of chasing quick fixes that don’t stick.
If you want to build a life you don’t need to escape from.
Then you’re my kind of person.
I’m not here to motivate you,
I’m here to help you rebuild.
Motivation fades. We’ll build something that doesn’t.
From chaos to clarity.
From self-doubt to self-trust.
From fine to finally alive.
Coaching wasn’t a career move.
It was a lifeline that became a calling.
Because once you’ve rebuilt yourself from the inside out, you can’t not want to help others do the same.
I’m proof it’s possible.
And I’ll walk with you while you prove it to yourself.
We’re all capable of more than we realise
Sometimes we just need someone who’s walked the path to remind us how.
The real work isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about coming home to yourself.
I have lived it, not just learned it.
Were all still walking each other home
