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12/08/2025

‘Some losses don’t come with a funeral or even a goodbye’

Have you ever experienced an ‘Ambiguous Loss’?

💔 Some losses don’t come with a funeral or even a goodbye.

Just messages that stop. People who drift. Silence that becomes the new normal.

And still, it hurts.

This is ambiguous loss and it deserves space too.

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07/08/2025

Missing someone is sadness wrapped in the blessing of having known them.

Grief is often described as love with nowhere to go — a reminder of the deep connections that have shaped us. Missing someone can bring a heavy ache, but it can also reflect the beauty and significance of the bond you shared.

It’s okay to feel both sadness and gratitude at the same time. These emotions can sit side by side — not cancelling each other out, but gently reminding us of the depth of our love and loss.

💕 If you’re missing someone today, be gentle with yourself. There’s no “right” way to carry the love they left behind.

05/08/2025

Grief is a whirlwind of emotions

Grief doesn’t move in straight lines. One moment you might feel numb, the next flooded with sadness, anger, confusion — or even brief pockets of calm.

It can be overwhelming, unpredictable, and exhausting.
You’re not “doing it wrong” if your emotions feel all over the place. That’s grief doing what grief does.

Be kind to yourself. Let the storm pass through in its own time. You’re not alone in it.

24/07/2025

‘There are no shortcuts or instant solutions when it comes to healing from loss’

(David Kessler)

Grief is a profound and complex journey that cannot be rushed or bypassed. Despite our desire for a quick fix to alleviate the pain, the process of grieving requires time and patience. There are no shortcuts or instant solutions when it comes to healing from loss. Allowing yourself the necessary time to experience and process your emotions is crucial for healing. Embrace the journey, knowing that each step, though difficult, is a part of moving through your grief and towards a place of acceptance and peace. Has anyone tried to rush you? Have you tried to rush yourself? Very normal to wanna be out of the pain.

22/07/2025

Losing a Parent as an Adult

Grieving the death of a parent in adulthood can bring a complex mix of emotions. Even when the loss is expected, it can feel deeply destabilising — like the ground beneath you has shifted.

For some, it marks the loss of a lifelong anchor: someone who offered guidance, history, or simply a sense of home. For others, the relationship may have been strained, complicated, or unresolved — and the grief can be equally intense, though harder to name.

The death of a parent may also stir a sense of your own mortality, or leave you feeling suddenly “next in line.” You may find yourself revisiting childhood memories, questioning your identity, or grappling with a deeper loneliness.

Whatever your relationship was — close, distant, loving, painful, or all of the above — your grief is valid.

Be gentle with yourself. This kind of loss can take time to process, and it’s okay if it brings up feelings you didn’t expect.

17/07/2025

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15/07/2025

Thank you Cruse Bereavement Support for this thoughtful post. It encourages us to consider why people sometimes say the wrong thing to those who are grieving.

We certainly hear stories in our counselling sessions about the seemingly thoughtless, clumsy & upsetting things people say, but as this post points out, this usually stems from a position of discomfort or misunderstanding,

Still, it can be very difficult to be on the receiving end of some comments.

Have you experienced any difficult conversations?

When it comes to grief, people can sometimes say the wrong thing.

While it can be upsetting, it usually comes from a place of misunderstanding rather than ill intent.

Remember, it’s okay to protect your space and gently guide others on what feels supportive and what doesn’t when you’re grieving.

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