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08/03/2026

Our brains are generally wired for familiar but that doesn’t always mean better. It feels safer and even if something isn’t right for you, or the best for you… if it feels familiar it will always sit better. It’s the old ‘better the devil you know’ scenario (and since this phrase came up Kylie took over the song choice.. sorry.)

So the moment you try something different…speak up, set a boundary, change direction, take a risk, even just think about your life in a new way… your brain can hit the alarm button.

Danger, abort, retreat to the sofa and carry on with the same old patterns.

Whatever thing it is that you are trying differently, it’s unlikely that it actually is dangerous. It’s far more likely that it’s just that it is new. New can feel uncomfortable before it ever feels good.

The strange thing is, the choices that make our brain the most twitchy in the moment are often the ones our future self is incredibly grateful for.
Safe has its place but try not to let it be the lead in every decision.
Happy Sunday 🩵🩵🩵

05/03/2026

Since it’s World Book Day I was mulling over my fave books. I read (buy more than I read 🙄) a lot of mental health related books. And I love a good psychological thriller or true crime.
But, one of my forever favourites is a children’s book, The Paper Dolls by Julia Donaldson is simple, a bit magical and also relatable (am I describing myself..?!) It was read on repeat with my three kids and I’ll be keeping my copy forever, hence the pic.

A mum and her little girl make a chain of paper dolls. Each has a name, and as the girl plays they go on all sorts of adventures together, escaping dinosaurs, crocodiles and every imagined danger, singing that they’re ‘holding hands and we won’t let go.’

Then a little boy arrives with scissors.

The dolls are cut up. But they’re not gone forever, they drift into the girl’s memory alongside all the other small, ordinary, but treasured moments that make up childhood. And years later, when she has a little girl of her own, she makes paper dolls again and the story lives on…

It’s beautiful and quietly enchanting, and a lovely reminder that precious things (living and not) stay with us. We keep them alive by passing them on and telling their stories.✨✨✨✨✨

04/03/2026

Some days it doesn’t take much. A bit of blue sky and suddenly things feel a little more possible. No big life revelations, just a quiet lift.
Cheers to the mother-fo’ing blue sky. 🩵🩵🩵

02/03/2026

“I’ll be happy when…”

When I leave school. When I get the job. When I meet the one. When I buy the house. When I’ve fixed myself.

It sounds sensible, but often it’s just postponing things until you feel ready. So you hold back. You stay where it feels safer. You assume other people are somehow more capable or more entitled to go after what they want, and you tell yourself you’ll move properly once you feel more certain.

The problem is that ready rarely turns up first. It usually catches up after you’ve acted. If you keep waiting for the feeling before you make the move, you can end up living cautiously for years without meaning to.

That’s how a half life happens. Not through failure, but through hesitation. Through quietly deciding you’re not quite there yet.

You chase the next milestone hoping it will finally settle something inside you, and when it doesn’t, you assume the problem is you.

And the years will pass anyway.
You don’t have to earn the right to live fully.

The timeline ends for all of us. The question is whether we really lived it or just endured it.
🤍🤍🤍

01/03/2026

There are endless ideas about what a “good” life should look like.

Ambitious, visible, successful, busy. Or stripped back, minimal, off-grid, intentional.

But a life doesn’t have to be impressive to be meaningful, and it doesn’t have to be simple to be wise. It doesn’t have to fit a trend to be right.

For some people it’s adventure and risk and building something big. For others it’s routine, family, steady work and quiet contentment.

The real question isn’t whether it looks exciting, it’s whether it feels honest.

Fulfilment isn’t measured by how it appears from the outside. It’s measured by whether you recognise yourself in it, whether your choices reflect who you actually are, and whether you’ve shaped your life around your values rather than other people’s expectations.

Because this is your life. Not a performance. Not a response to someone else’s approval. Yours. 🩵

24/02/2026

If your relationship has been feeling strained lately, whether that is more tension, less connection, or conversations that go round in circles, it can start to wear you down.

I provide couples counselling in Wilmslow for partners who want a steady, supportive space to talk openly, understand what is happening between them, and find a clearer way forward together.

Limited availability at present. Please direct message to enquire or email emma@emstherapyspace.co.uk

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24/02/2026

It is Eating Disorders Awareness Week.

Most eating disorders don’t begin with wanting to be thin. They begin with wanting relief. Relief from anxiety, relief from shame, relief from feeling out of control, relief from not feeling enough. Food just becomes the tool.

Restriction can feel like control. Bingeing can feel like comfort. ‘Clean eating’ can feel like safety. Over-exercising can feel like penance.

From the outside, it can almost look impressive or disciplined, committed, ‘healthy’ even.

On the inside, it can be relentless.

You can be intelligent, capable, funny, holding a career, raising kids, showing up for everyone else… and still be in a constant mental negotiation with food or your body.

Eating disorders aren’t about vanity.
They’re coping strategies that became rigid and unforgiving.

And you can’t shame someone into recovery.

If you’re supporting someone, try to get curious about what’s underneath.
Lead with connection, not correction.

If this is your brain right now, I’m sorry because it’s a heavy thing to carry.
You deserve a life that isn’t run by rules, numbers, or fear. 🖤

20/02/2026

Just sharing what I’m thinking here…
When my kids go on holiday with their dad for the week, the house changes in a way I’m never quite prepared for. You’d think I’d be used to it by now, nine years in, but it still catches me off guard.

It’s definitely tidier and so much quieter. Most of the time I’m juggling everyone’s plans, moods and general chaos, so I tell myself this week is my time. Time to rest a bit, get stuck into work and not be on call quite so much.

But then I so miss the noise.

If you share your kids, you’ll know the mix of feelings. You’re happy they’re off making memories, but everything feels so different without them.

A whole week feels longer when the heartbeat of your house is somewhere else.🩵

18/02/2026

I think sometimes we can assume that growth and progress should be a steady, upward trajectory - all confident and linear.

In reality this is rarely the case. Most of the growth I see, in teenagers and adults alike, comes after some sort of dip. Maybe after an exam where their mind went blank, a presentation they froze in, a conversation they wish they handled differently, a decision that didn’t go as planned.

That middle bit can feel really exposing. You can question yourself. You may want to retreat back to what’s comfortable because at least it feels predictable and safer.

However, it’s during this low point where the lesson often is. Not in a ‘everything happens for a reason’ way, just in a very human way. Your brain recalibrates and your perspective shifts. You start to see what didn’t work and why. You think about what you might do differently next time. You tolerate the discomfort instead of running from it and then you try again.

That process, the learning, the honest reflection, the decision to keep going even when it feels really hard is where the growth actually lives.

Comfort keeps things steady. Growth asks you to stay in the discomfort long enough to learn. 🩵

14/02/2026

🩷❤️💖Valentine’s reminder that love is not a cryptic crossword and you should not need investigative skills or emotional forensics just to work out where you stand.🩷❤️💖

🩷❤️💖If you’re analysing response times, replaying conversations in your head, decoding tone shifts, or trying to translate ’I’m fine’ for the hundredth time, that’s not romance, it’s just draining.🩷❤️💖

🩷❤️💖Second guessing yourself because someone can’t say what they mean isn’t passion, it’s confusion dressed up as chemistry.🩷❤️💖

🩷❤️💖Healthy relationships are built on clarity, consistency, and people saying what they actually mean without making you guess.

Confusion isn’t chemistry, intensity isn’t intimacy, mixed signals aren’t mysterious they’re mind-messing.🩷❤️💖

🩷❤️💖Stop calling it passion. It’s bu****it. And life is too short to keep tolerating it.🩷❤️💖

10/02/2026

By the time it topples, it’s usually been wobbling for quite a while.
Falling isn’t the first sign.

Pressure is literally everywhere and daily life is full to the brim with it.
Which is why time without pressure matters so much.

Young people need to know that pausing isn’t optional, it’s a necessity.
So is fun, laughing, actually being a kid. And resting too.

As adults, maybe we need to model this a bit more.
It would be a win-win all round. 🩵🩵

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