Clive Cooke therapy & coaching

21/10/2022

Wise Words For Us All ….

“Today was a Difficult Day," said
Pooh.

There was a pause.

"Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet.

"No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do."

"That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.

"What are you doing?" asked Pooh.

"Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.

"But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh."

And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs...he thought that his best friend had never been more right."
A.A.

24/09/2022

DON’T WISH YOUR LIFE AWAY ….

I did not write this but WOW does it speak to my heart!

So worth the read.

"Barely the day started and
it's already six in the evening.
Barely arrived on Monday
and it's already Friday.. and the month is already over.. and the year is almost over.. and already 40, 50 or 60 years
of our lives have passed. . and we realize that we lost
our parents, friends.. and we realize it's too late
to go back.

So.. Let's try, despite
everything, to enjoy
the remaining time.
Let's keep looking for
activities that we like.
Let's put some color in
our grey.
Let's smile at the little
things in life that put
balm in our hearts.
And despite everything,
we must continue to enjoy
with serenity this time we
have left.

Let's try to eliminate the
afters..
I'm doing it after.
I'll say after.
I'll think about it after.
We leave everything for
later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.
Because what we don't
understand is that:
Afterwards, the coffee
gets cold.

afterwards, priorities change.
Afterwards, the charm is
broken.
Afterwards, health passes.
Afterwards, the kids grow up.
Afterwards parents get old.
Afterwards, promises are
forgotten.
Afterwards, the day becomes
the night.

Afterwards, life ends.
And then it's often too late.
So..Let's leave nothing for
later. Because still waiting to see
later, we can lose the
best moments, the best
experiences, best friends,
the best family.
The day is today. The
moment is now.

We are no longer at the
age where we can afford
to postpone what needs
to be done right away."

It looks Like an eternity, but it's a short trip, enjoy life and always be kind.

16/09/2022

DO YOU AGREE AND WHY?
The Way You Do Something Is The Way You Do Everything”

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02/07/2022

What drives us: autonomy, mastery, purpose

In Dan Pink’s book Drive, he looks at scientific studies showing that the all too common approach to motivating people involving rewards and punishments, or the carrot and stick approach, ultimately doesn’t help motivate people for the tasks and work we have to do today.
Instead, we do our best work when driven by intrinsic motivation — motivation from inside us, rather than imposed externally like rewards or punishments. And the 3 facets he highlights that help intrinsic motivation are:
Autonomy: being in control and able to guide both what we do and how we do it
Mastery: our desire to continually be improving and learning and bettering ourselves
Purpose: working towards something we think is worthwhile. Having a North star to aim for and a reason it’s worth doing what we’re doing.
I find it a useful framework to think through whenever I’m not feeling motivated, or when I want to help make sure the people I’m working with are motivated.