Relationship Observer

18/11/2025

If your lady isn't accepting your money, Masta, save it and use it to pay her bride price in the future.

I pray she's not accepting it for a good reason and mindset.

But if she's not accepting it because she doesn't want a situation where tomorrow she'll be told that you took care of her in school and after she completed, she's ignored you, then there's a problem.

And it's not only in the form of money that you can support your girlfriend; there are many other ways.

Akpe.

17/11/2025

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Falling in love is beautiful, but staying in love and maintaining mutual respect throughout marriage is a lifelong journey.
Every couple begins with dreams of joy and companionship, but life with its pressures of work, family, and finances soon tests the strength of that love.

A healthy marriage doesn’t happen by chance. It grows through understanding, patience, and continuous effort.
Like a farmer tending his crops, a husband and wife must water their love daily with care, attention, and forgiveness. ~ McNana-Osei Kofi Mfum Jacob (Counselor)

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12/11/2025

Marriage is one of life’s most sacred and beautiful unions. It brings two people from different backgrounds, beliefs, and upbringings together to share one life, one home, and one destiny.
It is not just a romantic relationship it is a partnership built on love, respect, and shared responsibility.

Every successful marriage thrives when both husband and wife understand their duties, accept their differences, and work hand-in-hand to create a peaceful, loving, and purposeful home.

Excerpt from The Book (The Institution Called Marriage) by McNana-Osei Kofi Mfum Jacob

12/11/2025

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06/11/2025

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03/11/2025

03/11/2025

Making a constructive criticism in your marriage and relationship is called sharing of opinion but to criticize to condemn your partner is never opinion sharing is rather immature way of communicating to your partner ~ McNana-Osei Kofi Mfum Jacob 2025

30/10/2025

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30/10/2025

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▌BUILDING STRONG MARRIAGES: ESSENTIAL PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES: NURTURING HOME AND CHILDREN

Part Two (2)

Lesson From Relationship Observer Platforms

Yesterday, we began discussing the responsibilities we are obligated to perform as couples, focusing on the first point: taking care of yourself and your partner. Today, we will continue with the second crucial point: taking care of your home and your children.

▌CHILDREN: A DIVINE GIFT AND OUR ACCOUNTABILITY

Listen attentively: Children are a gift from God. Any person—whether a parent or guardian—who neglects to fulfill their God-given duty to provide for a child’s needs will be questioned on the Day of Judgment.

A child’s character, whether good or bad, originates from the home in which they are raised. It is the profound responsibility of every parent, whether biological or adoptive, to ensure:

1. They provide sound training for their children.
2. They cater to their children’s needs and wants.
3. They offer them a proper education.
4. They provide them with spiritual support.
And many more vital aspects that contribute to their well-being.

▌THE FOUNDATION OF GOOD TRAINING

One of the most significant responsibilities you must never neglect as a parent is providing your children with good training. This includes teaching them:

1. Respect: How to respect everyone, irrespective of age, gender, beliefs, tribe, culture, or financial status.
2. Humility and Forgiveness: How to apologize when they offend someone, and how to respond gracefully even when they are the offended party.
3. Gratitude: How to say “thank you” and “God bless you,” and how to show appreciation for acts of kindness.
4. Empathy: How to demonstrate kindness and sympathy to others.
5. Prudent Communication: How to speak in public to anyone with caution and respect.
6. Basic Etiquette: Proper ways to eat, dress, and even walk.

▌SPIRITUAL UPLIFTING AND PARENTAL PRAYERS

Another major responsibility parents have for their children, which endures throughout their lives, is providing spiritual support, uplifting, and upbringing. This means:

1. Teaching them how to integrate their beliefs into their daily lives.
2. Teaching them how to pray and read their holy books.
3. Teaching them to respect spirituality and to fear God alone.

The prayers and words parents speak over their children hold immense power. If, as a parent, you neglect to pray for your children’s success, do not expect them to care for you when they grow up. If you consistently curse your children while they are young, do not expect them to become virtuous individuals who will look after you in the future; it takes extraordinary grace for such an outcome. If you are accustomed to cursing your children, stop immediately, as the consequences will eventually rebound upon you.

▌BALANCED PROVISION AND PRIORITIZING EDUCATION

1. When parents provide for their children’s needs and reasonable wants, those children are less likely to become thieves or overly greedy. Parents who consistently fail to meet their children’s basic needs often inadvertently push them toward undesirable behaviors. However, providing too much without restraint can also spoil them, making them ill-equipped to cope when they no longer receive constant gratification. Therefore, moderation is crucial.

2. Education First: Provide your children with proper education. Parents should prioritize investing in their children’s education over purchasing expensive clothes or other luxuries. It is a concerning reality when some individuals spend exorbitant amounts on attire for funerals and weddings, yet their children are burdened with unpaid school fees, printing costs, and a lack of essential school supplies like common exercise books.

▌ENVIRONMENTAL AND ROLE MODELING

The environment in which we raise our children also significantly influences their character. Whether they grow up in a bustling urban area, a shared compound, an estate, or a wider community, they will inevitably absorb characteristics from that place.

If you wish to shield them from negative traits prevalent in certain environments, you must diligently and intentionally train them well.

Furthermore, the friends they choose, the school they attend, and the teachers they interact with can all profoundly shape your child’s character. Parents must remain vigilant in monitoring these influences. This includes regularly checking the phones and digital content they consume. Most importantly, parents must consistently demonstrate good character before their children. If you do not want them to engage in inappropriate conversations or wear unsuitable clothing, then you must model the virtuous behavior you expect from them.

However, excessive provision can also spoil children, making them ill-prepared for when they no longer receive constant gratification. Therefore, moderation is key.

2. Prioritizing Education: Provide your children with proper education. Parents should prioritize investing in their children’s education over purchasing expensive clothes. It is disheartening when some individuals spend exorbitant amounts on attire for funerals and weddings, while their own children struggle with unpaid school fees, printing costs, and lack of essential books.

Furthermore, the friends, school, and teachers with whom your children associate can profoundly shape their character. Parents must remain vigilant in monitoring these relationships and influences. This includes regularly checking their phones and online activities. Most importantly, parents must lead by example. If you don’t want your children to discuss inappropriate topics or dress immodestly, then you must model the behavior you expect from them.

AUTHOR OF THE LESSON: McNana-Osei Kofi Mfum Jacob (Counselor and Police Officer)

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29/10/2025

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▌BUILDING STRONG MARRIAGES: ESSENTIAL RESPONSIBILITIES AND PERSPECTIVES

Part One (1)

Lesson From Relationship Observer Platforms

This message is for both those who are married and those contemplating marriage. Please read these insights carefully and take note of their importance.

From the moment you exchange vows, whether before an altar or in court you embark on a journey filled with responsibilities. These duties extend to yourself, your partner, your marriage, and your children.

Some of these fundamental responsibilities include:

1. Nurturing Self and Partner: Actively caring for your own well-being and that of your spouse.
2. Home and Family Upkeep: Managing your household and raising your children.
3. Marital Intimacy: Fulfilling your spouse’s sexual needs.
4. Procreation: Contributing to the continuation of your family.
5. Child Rearing: Guiding your children to become responsible individuals who contribute positively to both your family and society.

I will focus on these five crucial points, as their neglect often undermines the strength and longevity of relationships today.

▌THE DYNAMICS OF HEADSHIP IN MARRIAGE

Ladies, in particular, please take special note of this: While you are an equal partner in marriage, the husband is traditionally recognized as the head of the family, a role often rooted in divine design.

Any attempt to undermine or belittle his headship within the marriage can cause its very foundation to shake. Regardless of whether you are wealthier, hold a higher educational degree, or earn a greater salary, he still retains the position of head of the family.

Understand this deeply: A vital prayer for every wife should be that her husband always provides for and takes care of her, fulfills his responsibilities, and returns home safely when he goes out. His activities outside the home, to some extent, should not be your primary preoccupation. Embrace your feminine role and resist the urge to assume masculine duties. You are not a single mother; you are married.

Regardless of your husband’s personal conduct, your unwavering prayer should be that he performs his core responsibilities. If you choose to retaliate in kind against perceived wrongs, you will likely find yourself regretting that decision in the end.

▌1. NURTURING SELF AND PARTNER

As a married man or woman, it is your shared responsibility to care for your partner. This is not a task for one person alone. Caring for them encompasses:

1. Spiritual Support: Engaging in spiritual growth together and encouraging each other’s faith journey.
2. Physical Needs: Ensuring their physical well-being and comfort.
3. Emotional Support and Protection: Providing a safe space for their emotions and protecting their emotional state.

A word of caution regarding prayer: Do not pray against your husband, wife, or even the parent of your child. Listen to this advice carefully. If you choose to pray against them because they have hurt you, ensure that you are entirely blameless, having hurt no one in any way yourself.

Be the moral and spiritual backbone for your partner. This is especially true for those married to spiritual leaders. While your husband or wife is fasting and praying for their ministry, you should not be indulging in excessive eating at home, behaving as if unaware of the spiritual discipline required. Instead, pray for them and pray with them.

Furthermore, your marriage should be a catalyst for spiritual growth, not decline. If your spiritual discipline, your prayer life, for instance deteriorates after marriage compared to how it was before, it’s a sign that your marriage might not be serving your spiritual well-being. As I always say, your marriage should build you up, not tear you down.

Be the one who actively protects your partner’s emotions. Avoid consistently tearing them down with your words or discouraging their efforts. Respect their opinions, and always uphold their dignity, especially in front of friends, colleagues, and relatives.

Beyond the practical, actively show appreciation. Give gifts, and make time to take your partner out on dates.

Ladies, it’s a common misconception that only men should initiate such outings. To think this way is to be both shortsighted and perhaps a bit unfair. Reciprocity strengthens the bond.

It’s distressing to see in some instances today a mindset where one believes that intimacy or marriage automatically grants full claim to a partner’s property. Some even harbor dark thoughts, praying for or contemplating extreme measures like poisoning or hiring someone to harm their spouse, solely to gain control of assets. This twisted perspective fundamentally betrays the sanctity of marriage.

Remember, marriage is not merely an avenue for personal enrichment or property disputes.

▌The True Meaning of “Two Shall Be One”

The biblical teaching that “the two shall become one” extends far beyond shared possessions and sexual intimacy. It speaks to a holistic union, encompassing mutual support to:

Build their spirituality.
Protect their emotions.
Provide them with shelter and security.
▌EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION

Let’s now turn to another critical element that frequently contributes to marital breakdown: the lack of effective communication and the inability to discuss issues and resolve conflicts together.

When you cease to openly discuss matters with your partner, or when you show an unwillingness to work through disagreements, your marriage stands on the brink of collapse. Similarly, consistently seeking advice or discussing marital issues with outsiders instead of your spouse is a clear indicator that your marriage is in peril.

Furthermore, if you begin to feel that your partner is not wise enough to understand your goals and plans, the trust in your marriage will erode rapidly, much like a depreciating currency. This is a dangerous sign that your marriage is heading towards its demise.

AUTHOR OF THE LESSON: McNana-Osei Kofi Mfum Jacob (Counselor and Police Officer)

CONTACTS VIA CALL AND WHATSAPP +233544188321, +233240231848, +233200955359

Website: https://relationshipobserver.wordpress.com

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