HE•AL - ASK For Therapy

HE•AL - ASK For Therapy HE.AL offers offline and online Person Centered Therapy and Cognitive Behavior Therapy based counselling. Rate is counted per session.

HE.AL also hosts workshops for a series of awareness training. Duration of each session is about 60-70 mins. Total number of session needed varies individually and is usually advised upon initial consultation. Welcome upfront payment settlement upon advance booking. Welcome to contact via Whatsapp / email / Private Messenger (Facebook) to ensure confidentiality

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Season’s Greetings Here’s to wish everyone a cool, calm and collected Christmas with peace and health from ...
24/12/2025

Season’s Greetings

Here’s to wish everyone a cool, calm and collected Christmas with peace and health from

Help Me Help You火場已冷，灰燼裏還飄著焦灼的氣味。那些日夜奔走的背影——消防員、醫護、義工——用疲憊的雙臂托起生與死的重量。他們沉默地清理災場，擁抱痛哭的家屬，卻不知悲慟如塵，早已悄然滲入靈魂的縫隙。這是一種隱形的創傷。當救...
29/11/2025

Help Me Help You

火場已冷，灰燼裏還飄著焦灼的氣味。那些日夜奔走的背影——消防員、醫護、義工——用疲憊的雙臂托起生與死的重量。他們沉默地清理災場，擁抱痛哭的家屬，卻不知悲慟如塵，早已悄然滲入靈魂的縫隙。

這是一種隱形的創傷。當救援者凝視深淵過久，深淵也回以凝視。夜半驚醒的惡夢、耳邊迴盪的哭聲、無法控制的顫抖，都是心靈在無聲呐喊。我們總記得撫慰受難者，卻忘了那些捧著碎心的人，自己的心也在寸寸龜裂。

請允許自己脆弱。真正的勇氣，是承認傷口的存在。在救度他人之前，先為自己的靈魂築一道防波堤。休息不是懈怠，流淚不是軟弱。唯有當照顧者也被溫柔接住，這座城才能真正從灰燼中重生。

The fire site now cold, the scent of char still lingering in the air. Those figures labouring day and night—firefighters, medics, volunteers—bore the weight of life and death upon their weary shoulders. In silence, they cleared the debris, held grieving families, unaware that sorrow, like fine dust, had seeped into the cracks of their souls.

This is an invisible wound. When rescuers stare too long into the abyss, the abyss gazes back. The nightmares that jolt them awake at midnight, the echoes of weeping they can’t escape, the trembling they cannot control—all are silent screams of the psyche. We always remember to comfort the victims, yet forget that those holding broken hearts are seeing their own splinter, bit by bit.

Please, allow yourselves to be vulnerable. True courage lies in acknowledging the existence of these wounds. Before saving others, first build a breakwater for your own soul. Rest is not negligence; tears are not weakness. Only when the caregivers are also gently held can this city truly rise from the ashes.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Facing Impermanence Sudden death shatters our assumptive world, leaving individuals in a state of psychological shock an...
27/11/2025

Facing Impermanence

Sudden death shatters our assumptive world, leaving individuals in a state of psychological shock and acute grief. Counselling perspectives emphasise several key strategies for management and coping.

Initially, the focus is on stabilisation and safety. This involves helping the bereaved manage the initial shock through grounding techniques—focusing on the present moment to avoid being overwhelmed. Normalising intense, chaotic emotions like disbelief, anger, and despair is crucial, validating that there is no “right” way to feel.

As the initial shock subsides, the work shifts to processing the loss. This includes encouraging the expression of grief through talking, writing, or creative outlets. A critical task is reconstructing the narrative of the death, helping the individual make some sense of the senseless. They are gently guided to begin integrating the memory of the deceased into their life, finding ways to maintain a bond while moving forward.

Finally, rebuilding a sense of agency is vital. This involves supporting the re-establishment of simple routines, which provides structure, and encouraging self-compassion. The goal is not to “get over” the loss, but to navigate the pain, gradually finding a way to live a meaningful life alongside the grief. Professional support is often essential in this non-linear process.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Solving and Evolving 融會催眠輔導在情緒治療上，相較其他另類療法，其獨特優勢在於直接連結潛意識，能繞過表意識的批判與防衛，精準探觸情緒的根源。這不僅能有效緩解表面症狀，更能深入處理過往創傷或限制性信念，帶來根本性的轉變。...
15/11/2025

Solving and Evolving

融會催眠輔導在情緒治療上，相較其他另類療法，其獨特優勢在於直接連結潛意識，能繞過表意識的批判與防衛，精準探觸情緒的根源。這不僅能有效緩解表面症狀，更能深入處理過往創傷或限制性信念，帶來根本性的轉變。

處理根源問題的益處在於治本而非治標。當核心傷痛被看見、釋放與重整，相關的情緒模式便自然消解，避免反覆發作，實現長遠的心靈康復。

正因如此，情緒療癒「欲速則不達」。強求速效往往只壓制症狀，卻將真正問題壓入潛意識，導致日後更複雜的困擾。真正的療癒需要時間與耐心，讓當事人在安全環境中逐步整合內在經驗，這份從容，正是深度改變的關鍵。

Integrated hypnotherapy offers distinct advantages in emotional treatment compared to other alternative therapies. Its unique strength lies in directly accessing the subconscious mind, bypassing the critical and defensive nature of our conscious awareness to accurately address the root causes of emotional distress. This approach not only effectively alleviates surface symptoms but also delves into underlying traumas or limiting beliefs, facilitating fundamental change.

Addressing root causes provides the benefit of curing the condition rather than merely treating symptoms. When core wounds are witnessed, released, and reorganised, associated emotional patterns naturally dissolve, preventing recurrence and enabling long-term psychological recovery.

This is precisely why emotional healing cannot be rushed. Seeking quick fixes often only suppresses symptoms while pushing the real issues deeper into the subconscious, potentially leading to more complex difficulties later. Genuine healing requires time and patience, allowing individuals to gradually integrate inner experiences within a safe environment. This measured approach is essential for profound transformation.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Know Our Nerves交感神經與副交感神經是自律神經系統中相互拮抗的兩大分支，在情緒反應中扮演截然不同的角色。當面臨壓力、恐懼或危險時，交感神經會主導「戰鬥或逃跑」反應，立即動員身體資源以應對威脅。它會加速心跳、升高血壓、擴張瞳孔，...
14/11/2025

Know Our Nerves

交感神經與副交感神經是自律神經系統中相互拮抗的兩大分支，在情緒反應中扮演截然不同的角色。

當面臨壓力、恐懼或危險時，交感神經會主導「戰鬥或逃跑」反應，立即動員身體資源以應對威脅。它會加速心跳、升高血壓、擴張瞳孔，並抑制消化活動，讓身體處於高度警覺與準備行動的狀態。

相反地，副交感神經則負責「休息與消化」反應，在危機解除或情緒平復後開始作用。它會減緩心跳、降低血壓、促進腸胃蠕動，幫助身體恢復平靜、放鬆並儲存能量。

簡言之，交感神經是情緒中的「加速器」，啟動應激反應；而副交感神經則是「煞車器」，負責讓身體回歸穩定與平衡。

The sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves are the two opposing branches of the autonomic nervous system and play completely different roles in emotional responses.

When facing stress, fear, or danger, the sympathetic nerve dominates the ‘fight-or-flight’ response, immediately mobilising the body’s resources to cope with the threat. It accelerates the heart rate, raises blood pressure, dilates the pupils, and inhibits digestive activity, putting the body in a state of high alert and readiness for action.

Conversely, the parasympathetic nerve is responsible for the ‘rest-and-digest’ response, which kicks in once the danger has passed or emotions have stabilised. It slows the heart rate, lowers blood pressure, and promotes digestion, helping the body to recover, relax, and conserve energy.

In short, the sympathetic nerve is the ‘accelerator’ in an emotional situation, triggering the stress response, whilst the parasympathetic nerve is the ‘brake’, responsible for returning the body to a state of stability and balance.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

【Anger Issues】In counselling, anger is frequently a secondary emotion, acting as a protective shield for more vulnerable...
20/10/2025

【Anger Issues】

In counselling, anger is frequently a secondary emotion, acting as a protective shield for more vulnerable core feelings like sadness, grief, or helplessness. Individuals often resort to anger because it feels more powerful and safe than exposing underlying pain.

Identifying this dynamic involves observing a client’s language—such as phrases about unfairness or not being heard—and noting behavioural cues like explosive reactions that seem disproportionate to the event. These often signal deeper, unaddressed emotions.

Treatment begins with validating the anger without judgement, building trust and emotional safety. The counsellor then helps the client explore what lies beneath the anger—using questions like, “What does this situation really mean to you?” or “What would you feel if the anger wasn’t there?”

Once underlying sadness or helplessness is uncovered, the focus shifts to processing those primary emotions. This includes grieving losses, challenging feelings of powerlessness, and developing healthier coping strategies. The goal is to help the client see anger as a signal—not the problem itself—but a clue to unmet needs or unresolved hurt, enabling them to respond to vulnerability without relying on anger as a defence.

在輔導過程中，憤怒常常是一種保護性的次要情緒，用來掩蓋更脆弱的主要感受，如悲傷、悲痛和無助。要識別這種動態，需要仔細觀察案主的語言（例如表達不公正或不被傾聽）和行為線索（例如與觸發事件不成比例的憤怒爆發）。這些跡象通常指向案主難以直接表達的潛在無力感或傷害，憤怒則成為一種更具力量感（儘管具有破壞性）的防禦機制。

治療的初始階段側重於建立一個安全的治療環境，將案主的憤怒正常化而非病理化。這為更深入的探索建立了必要的信任和融洽關係。隨後，輔導員透過富有洞察力的提問（例如探觸發情境對案主的真正意義，或者如果沒有憤怒他們會感受到什麼），溫和地引導案主發掘憤怒背後的主要情緒。

一旦潛在的悲傷和無助被識別出來，核心治療工作便隨之展開。這包括幫助案主哀悼失去、處理悲傷，並挑戰關於無助的認知扭曲。最終目標是幫助來訪者重新將他們的理解憤怒解讀為「需求未得到滿足」或「未解決痛苦」的信號，並建立更健康的應對策略，直接處理核心的脆弱感受，從而減少對憤怒這種防禦盾牌的依賴。

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

From Fear To Connection在人際的舞台上，我們都戴着名為「理想自我」的面具，翩翩起舞。你看見的堅強、友善、批判、成就與幽默，或許都只是一場精心策劃的演出，為的是隱藏那個我們不願承認的「壓抑自我」——那個會受傷、怕拒絕、懷...
06/10/2025

From Fear To Connection

在人際的舞台上，我們都戴着名為「理想自我」的面具，翩翩起舞。你看見的堅強、友善、批判、成就與幽默，或許都只是一場精心策劃的演出，為的是隱藏那個我們不願承認的「壓抑自我」——那個會受傷、怕拒絕、懷愧疚、渴求愛、懼怕真實連結的，脆弱的自己。

那外表兇悍的硬漢，盔甲下藏着怕受傷害的靈魂；那永遠討好的善人，笑容裡浸潤着被拒絕的恐懼；那嚴詞批判的智者，鏡片中反射出對自身過失的惶惶不安；那不停奔忙的工作狂，成就背後是害怕失去價值與愛的空洞；那逗趣搞怪的小丑，歡笑聲掩蓋了對情感連結的深深畏懼。

當我們學會凝視面具後的陰影，理解每種防禦姿態背後，都住着一個顫抖的靈魂，人際的棋局便從此不同。我們不再輕易被激怒，不再落入操縱的陷阱，因為我們看見了行為背後，那共通的、人性的恐懼。

真正的相遇，始於我們有勇氣承認彼此的脆弱，並在那些陰影之中，找到靈魂與靈魂之間，最深刻的共鳴與連結。

On the stage of human connection, we all don masks of our "ideal selves," performing an intricate dance. The strength, the amiability, the criticism, the achievements, and the humour you perceive may all be part of an elaborately choreographed performance, intended to conceal our "repressed self"—that vulnerable part of us which feels pain, fears rejection, harbours guilt, yearns for love, and dreads genuine connection.

The tough exterior of the brash individual armour a spirit afraid of being wounded. The perpetual agreeableness of the people-pleaser is steeped in a terror of rejection. The stern judgments of the critic reflect an underlying anxiety about their own failings. The incessant busyness of the workaholic masks a void, a fear of losing worth and love. The antics of the jester smother a profound apprehension of true emotional intimacy.

When we learn to look upon the shadows behind these masks, to understand that behind every defensive posture resides a trembling soul, the dynamics of relationships shift. We are no longer so easily provoked, no longer fall into the traps of manipulation, for we have seen the shared, human fear behind the behaviour.

True encounter begins when we find the courage to acknowledge our mutual vulnerabilities, and within those shadows, discover the most profound resonance and connection between one soul and another.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

How to Evaluate Your Readiness for CounsellingDeciding to seek counselling is a significant step, and evaluating your re...
15/09/2025

How to Evaluate Your Readiness for Counselling

Deciding to seek counselling is a significant step, and evaluating your readiness is a personal process. Firstly, consider your emotional state. If you find yourself consistently overwhelmed, stuck in persistent negative thoughts, or experiencing emotions that disrupt your daily life—such as work, relationships, or self-care—it may be a sign that professional support could be beneficial.

Reflect on your motivation and openness. Readiness often involves a willingness to explore difficult feelings and a genuine desire for change, even if you feel uncertain or apprehensive. You needn’t have all the answers—counselling is a collaborative process—but an openness to engage is key.

Consider practical aspects, too. Are you able to commit time and emotional energy to sessions? Reflecting on your support network can also help; while counselling offers specialised guidance, having some personal support can complement the process.

Lastly, trust your intuition. If you’re questioning whether it’s time to seek help, that itself can be an indicator. Many people wait until they feel “ready enough,” but it’s okay to begin even with doubts. A skilled counsellor will meet you where you are and help you build confidence in the process.

You need not face everything alone—reaching out is a strength.

如何評估自己是否準備好接受心理輔導

決定尋求心理輔導是一個重要的步驟，評估自身的準備程度是一個個人化的過程。首先，請審視您的情緒狀態。如果您發現自己持續感到不堪重負、陷入持久的消極思維，或者經歷着影響日常生活的情緒波動（例如對工作、人際關係或自我照顧造成干擾），這可能是一個信號，表明專業支持會有所幫助。

請反思您的動機和開放程度。準備好通常意味着願意探索困難的情緒，並且真正渴望改變——即使您感到不確定或憂慮。您不需要擁有所有答案，因為輔導是一個協作過程，但保持參與的開放性至關重要。

實際因素也值得考慮。您是否能夠為輔導過程投入時間和情感能量？審視您的支持網絡同樣重要：雖然輔導能提供專業指導，但擁有個人支持網絡可以與之形成補充。

最後，請相信您的直覺。如果您正在猶豫是否該尋求幫助，這本身就是一個信號。許多人會等到自己感覺「足夠準備好」，但即使心存疑慮也可以開始嘗試。專業的輔導會接納您當前的狀態，並幫助您在此過程中建立信心。

您不必獨自面對一切——尋求幫助本身就是一種力量。

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Failing Brain While ageing and even a terminal illness are profound challenges, the most “brutal” and grindingly torturo...
02/09/2025

Failing Brain

While ageing and even a terminal illness are profound challenges, the most “brutal” and grindingly torturous condition for all involved is dementia. This is because the patient’s mind deteriorates unconsciously, often leaving a physically healthy person capable of unintentionally inflicting significant emotional pain on their caregivers through personality changes, sharp words, and a failing memory.

Crucially, the patient lacks insight into their condition, which leads to a prolonged and draining experience for family members, described as a form of endless mental torture. The caregiver’s role is therefore an immense test of love and patience, constantly challenging their mental health.

The key to managing this situation extends beyond medical treatment and memory exercises. The most critical strategy is emotional regulation: prioritising the patient’s immediate mood over factual correctness. Techniques like using humour, playing familiar music, or diverting attention can provide precious, albeit temporary, relief from distressing cycles of behaviour. Ultimately, the piece emphasises that supporting the caregiver’s own wellbeing is just as vital as caring for the patient in this relentless journey.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Some of my clients have been sharing their ChatGPT experiences for therapy. While validating their current experience I’...
03/07/2025

Some of my clients have been sharing their ChatGPT experiences for therapy. While validating their current experience I’d also highlight AI’s limitations to help further understand the value of face-to-face counselling:

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**Why Human Counselling Works Better Than AI**

While AI like ChatGPT can offer immediate responses, it lacks the depth and nuance of human connection—which is central to effective therapy. Here’s why face-to-face counselling is more impactful:

1. **Non-Verbal Cues Matter**
A therapist reads your tone, facial expressions, and body language, adapting their approach in real time. AI can’t sense your hesitation, tears, or shifts in energy—it only processes text.

2. **Personalised, Evolving Support**
Therapy isn’t just advice; it’s a relationship. A human therapist remembers your history, notices patterns, and challenges you with care. AI’s responses are generic and can’t “grow” with you.

3. **Emotional Safety**
Venting to AI might feel safe initially, but it can’t truly empathise or hold space for your pain. A therapist’s presence—their voice, silence, or shared moments—validates emotions in ways words alone cannot.

4. **Accountability & Progress**
Therapists help you set and track goals, intervening if you’re stuck or at risk. AI can’t recognise crises (e.g., self-harm signals) or prioritise your long-term wellbeing.

5. **The "Unspoken" Healing**
Much of therapy’s work happens beyond words—through trust, rupture and repair, and the subtle dynamics of human interaction. AI can’t replicate this.

It’s great you’re exploring support, but AI has limits. A counsellor can offer what technology can’t—a real person witnessing and walking alongside you. Would you be open to trying a session, just to compare the difference?"

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Feel In PeaceThe most valuable asset a person possesses, over both my work in counselling, and life experience, is a sen...
12/06/2025

Feel In Peace

The most valuable asset a person possesses, over both my work in counselling, and life experience, is a sense of calm and tranquility, rather than material possessions. This idea emphasizes the importance of mental well-being and contentment, with a state of mental clarity and tranquility, characterized by the absence of worry, anxiety, and stress. It is crucial for overall well-being, as a healthy mind allows individuals to cope with challenges and make informed decisions. Peace of mind, thus, allows individuals to better navigate challenges, make sound decisions, and appreciate life’s simple joys, which goes mostly unnoticed while indulging in the present moment, including looking at the doggy’s smile.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

Grief Relief Hypertension can be linked to grief as part of a complex mind-body response to emotional distress. While gr...
28/03/2025

Grief Relief

Hypertension can be linked to grief as part of a complex mind-body response to emotional distress. While grief is traditionally associated with psychological symptoms like sadness, anger, or guilt, it also has profound physiological effects that may contribute to hypertension in some individuals, as well as chronic stress, inflammation and vascular changes, fatigue. depression, sleep deprivation, “Broken Heart Syndrome”, anxiety and repressed grief etc.

While hypertension is multifactorial, grief can act as a significant stressor that contributes to its development or exacerbation. Recognizing grief as a potential risk factor allows for early intervention—both emotionally and physically—through mind-to-body therapies, grief counselling (to process emotions), lifestyle adjustments and medical monitoring to protect long-term health.

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AL, a counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist at HE-AL, a counselling framework where a healing journey is embarked on decluttering/managing “what is” rather than “what if” whenever clouded under emotions and issues. Appointment booking welcomed. CONFIDENTIALITY ensured.

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