FIOS Hypnotherapy

28/01/2026

Great question. We think that our nervous system should be wired for wellbeing. However it’s actually wired for survival.

What does that mean? If slowing down once meant you felt vulnerable, judged or the feeling that you were falling behind, your system learned that rest isn’t safe.

So when you do dare to stop, it doesn’t relax. It springs into action.

Busyness feels safer and being still feels threatening. That’s why rest brings guilt or feeling a bit jangly instead of relief.

This is your nervous system protecting you using old rules.

This can be resolved by teaching your system that pausing no longer means danger.

Rest isn’t a mindset. It’s a nervous system update.

13/12/2025

The mind dislikes loose threads. And open loops.
It keeps counting them in the dark.

A sentence that ended too soon.
A choice paused mid-step.
A feeling felt, but never spoken aloud.

Regret! Fret!

They don’t shout.
They whisper.
They pull at you from beneath your thinking,
asking to be finished or forgiven.

Anxiety isn’t chaos. Worry isn’t being broken.
It’s over vigilance.

Your mind is standing guard over doors that never fully closed.

And peace doesn’t arrive by force. It only comes when something is completed, named, or finally released.

03/12/2025

When someone comes with a problem like insomnia, it’s never insomnia that’s the actual problem. It’s always something else that’s at the root of it.

I recently treated a man that presented with chronic sleep issues. During our consultation I was able to discern the source of his insomnia and that’s what I concentrated most on during our one-to-one session. I got this message from him this morning.

Hi Caroline,
Just to let you know how things are going with me. I feel much more at peace with myself and less angst in situations where usually I would be uncomfortable. So great. Sleepwise, I’m still waking up to go to the loo but the good news is I’ve been getting back to sleep quite quickly because I’m not stressing.

So, win win I think, thanks to you.

28/10/2025

Once, there was a woman who lived behind a locked door. She felt sure that behind the door was everything she said she wanted. The relationships, the book she’d write, the call she’d make, the life she promised herself. She told herself she’d begin “soon.”

Every morning, she’d touch the handle, then step back. “Maybe not today,” she’d whisper. “I just need to be more ready.”

And as she turned away, she’d tidy the hallway, answer some emails and tell herself she was preparing.

But the longer she waited, the heavier the air around that door became until she started to fear she might never get to open it.

One night, she dreamed the door whispered to her. It said, “I am not the problem.” And when she asked what was, the door became a mirror. In its reflection, she saw her fear. It was soft-eyed, familiar and not a monster at all. As she looked closer seeking to understand that fear, she suddenly realised that it was her guardian trying to keep her safe from the unknown.

And when she woke, she understood something she hadn’t seen before. Procrastination was never laziness. It was fear’s way of saying, “You matter too much to risk this.”

So the next morning, she didn’t force the door open. She simply placed her hand on the handle and said, “It’s okay. We can be afraid and move anyway.”

And for the first time, the door clicked open all on its own. It didn’t need to be pushed. All it needed was for her to stop running from what was behind it.

24/10/2025

The Healing Power of Ho’oponopono

There’s a simple Hawaiian mantra that carries a profound gift for self-healing.
It’s called Ho’oponopono, and it’s made up of four healing phrases:

💫 I’m sorry
💫 Please forgive me
💫 Thank you
💫 I love you

These words gently calm the nervous system and help release the emotional charge behind physical tension or pain.
When practiced regularly, Ho’oponopono can help you manage your own pain symptoms, not by fighting them, but by soothing the energy underneath them.

I’ve created a free guided audio to walk you through this powerful process so you can experience the relief, peace, and release for yourself.

If you’d like me to send it to you, simply comment with the word “HEAL” below, and I’ll send you your free 20 minute Ho’oponopono audio. 💖

22/10/2025

Growing up, every child needs two things:

Love and the freedom to be themselves.

But often, being real threatens being loved.
So we hide our feelings to stay safe but then we lose touch with who we are.

Not being connected with our authentic self causes anxiety.

But as adults, we can choose differently.

Ask yourself: Where, what and when do I still hide to keep others comfortable?

04/10/2025

02/10/2025

Ever notice yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself?

Thoughts like ….I’m not able to do that or I always mess this up or even worse?

What if I told you that you’re practicing self-hypnosis. But it’s the negative kind.
Every time you speak or think these words, your mind takes them as instructions and quietly works to prove them true.

Language isn’t just communication, it’s programming. Your words are the scripts your subconscious follows.

The good news? You can rewrite the script. With the right guidance, these limiting beliefs that you’ve been programming into your mind and body can be shifted. That shift will turn to empowering beliefs that allow you to start living the story you actually want.

Reach out for a chat if this sounds like something you’d like to experience.

11/09/2025

3-Minute Nervous System Reset

When stress hits, your body’s fight-or-flight system switches on but we often forget we can actively switch it back off. Here’s a simple 3-step routine to bring your body back to calm:

1️⃣ Ground Your Senses
Look around and name 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, 1 you can taste. This interrupts racing thoughts and tells your brain: “I’m safe.”

2️⃣ Slow the Exhale
Breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds, hold for 2, exhale slowly through your mouth for 6. Longer exhales signal your vagus nerve to calm your heart and mind.

3️⃣ Relax Your Body in Sections
Starting at your shoulders, gently tense then release each muscle group down to your toes. You’ll feel a wave of relief as tension drains away.

Why it works: These steps engage your parasympathetic nervous system (the “rest and digest” mode) which lowers cortisol, slows your heart rate, and clears mental fog.

Try it right now and you’ll be surprised how different you feel in just three minutes. 💛

05/09/2025

We often think fear or obstacles are what hold us back. But that’s not the truth.
It’s never the obstacle itself. It’s never the fear itself.

It’s the belief we attach to them.

Fear doesn’t stop people. Every day, people climb stages, run marathons, or have difficult conversations while terrified. What matters is what they believe that fear means, “this fear means I’m not ready” vs. “this fear means I care.”

Obstacles don’t stop people either. Think of two entrepreneurs facing the same funding rejection. One believes, “This is proof I’ll never succeed.” The other believes, “This is feedback to refine my pitch.” Same obstacle, two totally different outcomes.

The truth is: you don’t get stuck because of what happens. You get stuck because of the story you tell yourself about what happens. That’s the power of a belief!

When you change that story, you change your next step. And the next step is all you ever need.

04/09/2025

Goals are great for direction, but they rarely get you to the finish line. Systems do.

A goal says: “I want to run a marathon.”
A system says: “I run three times a week, no matter what.”

Goal: “I want to lose 10 pounds.”
System: “I prep balanced meals on Sundays and walk 30 minutes daily.”

Goal: “I want to write a book.”
System: “I write 500 words every morning before checking emails.”

Goal: “I want to feel less stressed.”
System: “I practice 10 minutes of breathing or journaling every evening.”

The goal is the outcome. The system is the process that makes the outcome inevitable.

When you rely on goals alone, you’re in constant chase mode, always “not there yet.” But with systems, success becomes a by-product of what you consistently do.

Want lasting change? Stop asking, “What’s my goal?” and start asking, “What’s my system?”

03/09/2025

A friend cancels, a job ends, a loss arrives. The facts are neutral. The story we tell about them isn’t.

Assigning meaning is a choice. We can feed resentment, fear, and unworthiness. Or we can choose interpretations that bring calm, strength, and perspective.

Notice the story you’re telling yourself. If it makes life heavier, rewrite it. If it makes you lighter, keep it.