18/11/2025
40 Ways Autistic People Mask Without Even Realising It — and why it’s so exhausting.
So many autistic children grow into autistic adults who have spent their entire lives adapting, copying, blending in, or shrinking themselves to survive socially.
Masking isn’t “being shy” or “trying harder.”
Masking is a survival strategy—something people learn when the world tells them:
🔹 “You’re too much.”
🔹 “You’re too sensitive.”
🔹 “Don’t do that.”
🔹 “Act normal.”
🔹 “Why can’t you be like the others?”
And over time, autistic people begin to hide their needs, stims, sensory pain, confusion, intensity, emotions, differences, and natural way of being, just to avoid rejection.
This carousel breaks down 40 incredibly common masking behaviours—the tiny adjustments, habits, and survival patterns that autistic people perform automatically, often without knowing why.
👉 Saying sorry constantly
👉 Changing your voice
👉 Practising conversations
👉 Suppressing stims
👉 Copying facial expressions
👉 Going to events you don’t want to attend
👉 Mirroring others to avoid standing out
👉 Hiding overload until you’re in private
Masking helps you survive…
but it also slowly drains your identity, energy, mental health, and nervous system.
For many autistic adults—especially late-diagnosed women—this is why burnout hits so hard:
🌱 masking fatigue
🌱 sensory exhaustion
🌱 emotional overwhelm
🌱 anxiety & self-doubt
🌱 feeling disconnected from your real self
Understanding masking is not the end—
but it is the beginning of self-compassion, unlearning, and healing.
Because you were never “too much.”
You were simply too unsupported, too misunderstood, and too busy surviving.
Caroline Goldsmith — Psychologist in Dublin, Ireland
Caroline works extensively with autistic women, late-diagnosed adults, and individuals who have spent years masking without understanding why. Her approach focuses on identity, nervous system safety, and self-compassion, helping people reconnect with their authentic selves—without fear.