12/11/2025
🌸𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕒𝕔𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝔸𝕣𝕥 𝕆𝕗 𝕃𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘🌸
So many people ask me almost every day, and as recently as last evening at choir practice-
“Do you miss working with children? Do you miss the preschool?”
And my answer is always honest
I miss the children.
I miss the connection.
I miss the contact, the laughter, the creativity — all the small, luminous moments that filled every day.
But I don’t miss the work that came with it, the endless paperwork, the managing, the organising, the constant demands that left little space for stillness.
And now, here I am in a new work, and I always add,
“But I love my new work.”
It’s different, yes, but in some ways, it carries the same heartbeat, the same desire to be present, to witness growth, to hold space for unfolding.
The people I work with now aren’t children, but adult souls, each with their own story, their own questions, their own longings.
And the work?
It’s nothing like managing a preschool it’s quieter, slower, more spacious, and profoundly intimate.
People often ask, “What exactly is it that you do?”
So I tell them: I offer spiritual guidance or direction.
And what is spiritual guidance?
It’s not advice, or teaching, or fixing or therapy. It is, at its heart, a practice of sacred listening
a place where someone can come just as they are and speak their truth, their story out loud.
It’s about accompanying a person as they explore the stories of their life,noticing patterns, fears, hopes, desires and insights as they arise.
It’s a space of deep presence, where nothing needs to be solved, only held and heard.
We live in a world that’s always ready to respond but rarely ready to listen. Most of us don’t really hear each other; we wait for our turn to speak, to fix, to defend, to prove we’re right.
But what if understanding isn’t about being right at all?
What if it’s about being present enough to let someone else’s truth breathe for a while, without rushing to reshape it?
Listening without the hunger to correct is harder than it sounds.
It asks for humility, a lot of patience, and a kind of quiet courage.
It means stepping back from your own need to be the expert or the saviour or the knower of all. It means letting silence do some of the talking.
There’s something deeply ethical about that kind of listening.
It honours the other person’s experience as real and valid, even if it’s different from your own.
Simone Weil tells us that attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. She wasn’t talking about listening specifically, but her words I think fit perfectly here.
Real listening is a form of attention that gives rather than takes. It’s not about gathering information or waiting for your cue to respond. It’s about offering your presence as a space where another person can unfold safely and allow themselves to be vulnerable.
When we listen this way, we create connection instead of argument. We stop trying to win and start trying to understand.
And in that quiet space, something shifts; both of us grow a little.Understanding doesn’t mean agreeing, and listening doesn’t mean losing yourself. It just means being open enough to see that truth can wear more than one face.
Maybe that’s what the ethics of understanding really is: not a set of rules, but a way of being with others that values presence over persuasion. It’s an art we keep learning, one conversation at a time.
I’ve been gifted in my own life with an extraordinary spiritual guide, a wise and gentle companion who has walked beside me with profound respect and reverence.
Under her guidance, I was trained and formed to the highest standard,not just in skill but in soul and spirit learning that the essence of this work is not in what we say, but in how we listen.
Spiritual guidance asks for this kind of listening.It is a practice of paying attention with humility, patience, and courage. It is the courage to sit in silence, to trust that the Spirit is already present and active in the other person’s life, and that my role is simply to make space for that presence to be noticed.
In many ways, it is like watching a child develop, learn and grow.
In this same profession, I find myself witnessing the same creativity, the same wonder and awe and the same profound connection I loved so much in the preschool only now it is expressed in a deeper spiritual form.
The soul and spirit of the child was always sacred, always valued, always nurtured just as the soul and spirit of the adult is now. Only the way we nurture it differs, the reverence remains the same.
When someone comes to spiritual guidance, they are not coming to be instructed fixed or repaired.
They are coming to be met deeply, honestly, and without judgment.
And in that meeting, something shifts.They begin to hear their own inner wisdom more clearly.
They begin to sense how the Spirit might be moving in the ordinary rhythm of their days.
This is my new work.
This is what I now love.
The sacred art of deep listening where presence itself becomes a form of grace.
I am currently open to accompanying new spiritual guidees. If at this time you feel drawn to be met with a deep, compassionate, listening presence, I would be honoured to walk alongside you on your journey.
You can reach me at At The Lodge to explore spiritual guidance and make a connection.
Have a beautiful day today
𝐿𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝒥𝑒𝓃𝓃𝓎 🌸
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