12/01/2026
A really special development has happend with our rescue Shetland in the last two weeks. It doesn't look like much, but he has only just this week allowed me to rub him.
We’ve had him for 5 months and up until now he has shown that he is not ok with a lot of forms of touch. Having his headcollar put on and being seen by the dentist (surprisingly), have been ok. But brushing, handling, or touching other parts of his body were very much a no. From what we know of the trauma he experienced before he was rescued, this is very understandable.
Since arriving with us, he's always been curious and appears friendly, often coming over to investigate, but this would usually flip quickly into biting or defensiveness.
Recently I have noticed how he has been initiating more connection with me. He has been following me around while I’m fixing fences (the same fences he took down!!!), standing quietly beside me when I’m doing the other horse’s feet or brushing them, simply being with me without needing anything from me.
What has led me to being able to rub him this week has come from months of not asking or expecting anything of him. The priority has been him adjusting to his new environment and herd mates. No forced brushing, no pushing past his boundaries, no “getting on with it.” He’s had time to settle, to understand that forage doesn’t run out, that he has freedom to move, a herd to belong to, and shelter to choose. His nervous system is slowly adjusting.
I couldn't demand trust from him, but I've shown it by listening, waiting, and being patient even when he has bitten or not known how to be around us.
Experiencing him now choosing connection, without having his defences up, is the most special feeling, but with no expectation that he will be like this everyday. It's enough just knowing he's starting to trust me.