11/01/2026
Self-regulation begins with awareness.
Awareness begins with honest, gentle conversations.
As a child grows,
their body, thoughts, and boundaries grow too.
And this is exactly when guidance matters most.
Sir explains that teaching good touch and bad touch
is not about fear or strict warnings —
it’s about helping the child become self-aware.
When a child understands
“this is my body”
“this feels safe”
“this feels uncomfortable”
they start regulating themselves.
If we rush the lesson,
use harsh words,
or create anxiety —
the child shuts down.
But when we speak calmly,
use age-appropriate language,
and repeat with patience,
the child begins to recognise patterns on their own.
Good touch is explained as care and safety.
Bad touch is explained as discomfort and crossing limits.
No pressure.
No shame.
Only clarity.
Because self-regulation grows
when a child feels safe to say —
“This doesn’t feel right.”
And when children learn this early,
they don’t just follow rules —
they protect themselves.
Awareness before warning.
Safety before fear.
Connection before instruction.
That’s how self-regulation is built —
gently, clearly, and with trust.
