18/04/2019
Parenting can be very demanding and exhausting! We often communicate our unhappiness in the form of anger. Yelling or shouting at children can leave them startled and confused. As a result, most children react to that “angry behaviour” of an adult, instead of understanding what could have triggered it. What’s worse is that, we as parents, land up displaying behaviour that we don’t want our children to learn!
Instead, if we learn to compose our emotions and develop better ways of expressing our displeasure, then perhaps our kids will pay more attention to what is being said; understand why we are unhappy; and learn better ways to regulate their behaviour when angered.
Here are a few quick ways to bring about that little change which will create “magic” for your kids and you:
- Ask a family member for help with the child until you calm down.
- Stop yelling everyday messages like “dinner is ready”, “ do your homework” , “get ready fast”, etc.
- Walk away till your anger subsides and you are ready for a dialogue
- Everytime you are about to shout, stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself
- Do the exact opposite (give a hug to your child)
The choice is yours!
If you still find it difficult to regulate your anger or find your spouse struggling with it, please meet your counsellor.
Help your child learn effective ways of expression! Happy Parenting👍
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