04/10/2025
The Silent Scream of a Vocal Woman
She speaks loudly. She leads meetings. She makes decisions.
To the world, she is vocal, bold, and unstoppable.
But when the curtain falls and the noise fades, there’s another story unfolding inside her a story few ever see.
In the quiet of her inner world, her voice trembles.
Words she longs to say get stuck in her throat.
Her truth censored. Her needs swallowed.
Her inner mouth is tied shut, sealed by invisible threads of fear, guilt, or shame.
In public: She’s articulate, confident, always ready with an answer.
In private: She overthinks every word, replays conversations, and punishes herself for “saying too much” or “not saying enough.”
This duality is more common than you think and as a psychologist and anxiety coach, I see it every single day.
The psychology behind it:
Many women learn early on that being “too much” too opinionated, too emotional, too honest leads to rejection, criticism, or even punishment. Over time, their nervous system associates speaking their truth with danger.
So even when they’ve built an outward persona of strength, the inner child still whispers: “Be careful. Stay small. Don’t upset anyone.”
This chronic self-silencing is a hidden form of anxiety.
It shows up as people-pleasing, emotional exhaustion, resentment, and a haunting sense of “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”
But here’s the truth: your real voice is still there.
It’s not lost only locked beneath years of conditioning. And when you learn how to regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your authentic self, and feel safe expressing who you are… that inner voice rises again.
If this speaks to you, it’s time to break free from the silent cage.
Join me for The Calm Code a one-day mind-body reboot workshop designed to help you release anxiety, regulate your emotions, and finally feel safe to be fully you.
🗓️ 22nd November | 10 AM – 5 PM
📍 The Resort, Malad
Your voice is waiting to be heard not just by the world, but by you.
Dr Evelet Sequeira
