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04/12/2025

When Parents Only See Impulsivity — And Miss Everything Their Child Has Achieved

A perspective for families raising a child with ADHD

One of the most common situations in ADHD is this:
Parents want the impulsive behavior to stop immediately.
The jumping, shouting, interrupting, touching things, running off, or acting without thinking — it becomes the centre of attention.

But ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition. And impulsivity is one part of it, not the whole picture.

What often gets lost is that the child may be improving in 10 other areas, but the parent’s eyes are fixed on the one behaviour that troubles them the most.

This article explains how this narrow focus becomes a barrier to true understanding — and how small shifts in perspective can open the door to better progress.

1. Impulsivity is the last to mature in ADHD

Neurologically, impulsive control develops late in ADHD because it involves:

Executive functioning

Emotional regulation

Sensory modulation

Working memory

Self-monitoring

These pathways take time, practice, and the right support.
So while parents expect quick change, the brain is still wiring.

When parents don’t understand this, they assume the child is:

careless

stubborn

not listening

intentionally difficult

This misinterpretation replaces observation.

2. Parents start missing real signs of improvement

While they focus only on impulsivity, they often overlook:

better emotional connection

longer attention during preferred tasks

better sleep patterns

reduced meltdowns

improved sensory tolerance

better communication

better transitions

more eye contact

improved handwriting

better peer interaction

willingness to try new tasks

These are huge gains in ADHD.
But impulsivity hides everything behind it.

3. The child feels judged only for the “worst part” of their condition

When parents repeatedly say:

“Stop doing that!”

“Don’t touch!”

“Control yourself!”

“Why can’t you sit still?”

“You’re eight years old now!”

…the child learns that no matter what they improve, they are still “wrong” in the parent’s eyes.

This slowly affects:

self-esteem

confidence

emotional safety

willingness to try

the parent–child relationship

When a child feels judged, progress slows.

4. Parents confuse hyperactivity with misbehavior

Most impulsive actions in ADHD are neurological overflow, not intentional misbehavior.

Examples:

Running because the body is overloaded

Interrupting because working memory can’t hold the thought

Touching objects because tactile input helps self-regulation

Talking loudly because volume control is weak

Acting without thinking because inhibitory control is low

But when parents see the behavior and not the cause, they react instead of understanding.
5. Emotional pressure blinds observation

When parents desperately want impulsivity to disappear:

they forget how far the child has come

they compare the child with typical peers

they lose patience for the 100 positive moments

they highlight the 1 impulsive moment

This creates a distorted picture of the child.

6. The child’s brain improves in layers — not all together

In ADHD:

Sensory regulation improves first
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Then attention for enjoyable tasks stabilizes
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Then emotional regulation gets better
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Then frustration tolerance grows
↓
Then social understanding improves
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Impulsive control matures last

Parents who expect the last step first feel disappointed and assume nothing is changing — even when everything is changing underneath.

7. Over-focusing on impulsivity leads to wrong decisions

Because parents are frustrated, they take decisions like:

switching therapies too often

adding unnecessary classes

starting school changes

increasing pressure

blaming the child

using punishment

over-correcting every small action

These decisions come from emotion, not observation.

8. When parents shift the lens, the child feels understood

When parents say:

“I see you’re trying.”

“I noticed you sat for 10 minutes today.”

“You handled the noise better.”

“You were kinder to your friend.”

“You waited for your turn longer today.”

…the child feels seen beyond their impulsivity.

And this emotional safety actually reduces impulsive behavior over time.

9. Impulsivity reduces when the brain feels regulated

The goal is not to stop impulsivity.
The goal is to support the brain so impulsivity settles.

This happens through:

sensory integration

emotional attunement

structured routines

therapeutic play

movement breaks

co-regulation

modeling language

predictable expectations

Not through pressure, punishment, or panic.

A message to parents raising a child with ADHD

Your child is not only impulsive.
Your child is growing, learning, maturing, trying — step by step.

Progress in ADHD is often silent, steady, and spread across many areas.
When you look only at impulsivity, you miss the larger picture of development.

When you shift your focus to:

connection

regulation

observation

patience

…you not only support your child’s progress —
you strengthen your relationship with them.

NOTHING IN NATURE IS HURRIED !!!

20/11/2025

I recently finished The Anxious Generation, and it put into words what I’ve been observing for years as an Occupational Therapist.

The book explains how childhood quietly shifted after 2010—less outdoor play, more screen time, more supervision, less independence. And in my clinic, I see the impact of this shift every day.

Why are autism-like features, ADHD behaviours, anxiety, sensory issues, and emotional outbursts rising in so many children?
Why are parents feeling more stressed, guilty, and overwhelmed?

Because the foundations of childhood have changed:

1. Play has reduced drastically.
Free outdoor play is not entertainment—it’s sensory and neurological development. When it drops, attention, regulation, and behavior get affected.

2. Early and excessive screens rewired routines.
Children get fast stimulation but very little real-world feedback, leading to shorter attention spans, sensory overload, and low frustration tolerance.

3. Overprotection + digital overexposure.
We stopped letting kids climb, explore, and take small risks… but gave them unrestricted access to the digital world. This imbalance fuels anxiety.

4. Less human connection.
Face-to-face interaction wires the social brain. Screens dilute emotional bonding and co-regulation.

5. Parents are carrying more alone.
Less community support, more pressure, more comparison—parental stress directly affects a child’s nervous system.

So yes, the rise is real.
And no, it’s not because “kids today are weaker.”
It’s because their environment changed faster than their brains could adapt.

The good news?
This can be reversed with simple, consistent steps—more outdoor play, sensory-rich experiences, routines, tech boundaries, and genuine connection.

As an Occupational Therapist, I see children improve every day when we bring childhood back into balance.

And that’s the reminder this book gives all of us.

30/07/2025

🧠✨ Where Therapy Feels Like Play — Only at Sujay CDC!

Occupational Therapy That Kids Love & Parents Trust
📍 Thane (Charai) | Since 2011

Just look at this moment — a balloon, a balance board, and pure joy!

At Sujay Child Development Center, therapy isn’t about sitting quietly at a desk. It’s about movement, laughter, connection, and meaningful progress.

In this playful activity: 🎈 The child is balancing, reaching, and coordinating — all while smiling.
🧠 Behind the fun is powerful OT that improves core strength, sensory integration, focus, and social interaction.

👩‍⚕️ Guided by Dr. Chirag Gandhi (OT) & Dr. Bhagyashri Gandhi (OT), each session is designed to help children with:
✔ Autism Spectrum Disorder
✔ ADHD & Hyperactivity
✔ Sensory Processing Difficulties
✔ Developmental Delays
✔ Social & Behavioral Challenges

🌟 What Makes Sujay CDC Different?

✅ Individualized Therapy Plans
✅ Sensory-Integrated OT Approach
✅ Floortime + Behavioral Techniques
✅ Fun-Filled, Child-Centered Sessions
✅ 15+ Years of Ethical Clinical Practice

📞 Book a session: +91 91368 01368 / +91 99307 85101
🌐 Visit: www.sujaycdc.com
📍 102, Bhangshree Tower, Opp. Pawar Industrial Estate, Daji Ramchandra Rd, Charai, Thane West

👨‍👩‍👧 Parents often tell us — “My child doesn't want to leave the session!”
That's because here, therapy feels like a game…
But the results are real.

Like. Follow. Visit. And Watch Your Child Thrive.

17/07/2025

15/06/2025

🧔‍♂️ Today’s Father – Quietly Changing Everything
(A tribute to modern dads – not loud, but deeply present)

He’s not just “helping” at home.
He’s co-parenting.
He’s not just earning.
He’s emotionally investing.

Today’s father may not have all the answers,
but he’s learning, trying, showing up — every single day.

👕 He folds laundry.
🥣 He cooks breakfast.
📚 He helps with homework.
💬 He listens to emotions.

He’s not perfect.
But he’s present — not just in body, but in heart and mind.

💡 He’s breaking old patterns.
🧠 He values mental health, not just grades.
🤝 He sees his partner as an equal.
❤️ He hugs. He says “I love you.”

He doesn’t want applause.
Just to be understood. Respected. Trusted.
Because this generation of fathers is quietly building a better world — one bedtime story, one school drop-off, one shared responsibility at a time.

👉 Tag a father who’s redefining what it means to be ‘Dad.’
👇 Drop a ❤️ if you see your dad — or yourself — in these words.

27/05/2025

Love, Boundaries & the 6-Year-Old Brain: Why Parenting Today Feels So Hard ( for parents age 28 year to 45 year )

If you’re parenting a 6-year-old and feel constantly torn between being kind and being firm — you’re not alone.

Today’s parents (especially those between 28–45) are facing one of the toughest tasks: raising emotionally healthy kids while balancing work, tech, school, and constant pressure to “get it right.”

So how do we give our child the love they need while still setting limits that matter?

What’s Happening in a 6-Year-Old’s Brain?

At this age, the brain is busy building the foundation for emotional regulation, impulse control, and moral understanding. But it’s not fully there yet.
The prefrontal cortex (which controls behavior and planning) is still under construction.
Kids feel strong emotions but don’t always know what to do with them.

They start testing limits to understand safety, fairness, and independence.

Their brains are wired to copy adults — not just words, but tone and actions.

That’s why a 6-year-old might hug you one second, scream the next, and forget every instruction five minutes later.

Why It’s Harder to Parent Today ?

You’re stretched thin.

You second-guess your discipline.

You're surrounded by advice, but little practical support.

Screen time, overstimulation, and busy schedules add fuel to everyday challenges.

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What Your Child Needs: A Balance of Love and Limits

Here’s what neuroscience and real parenting experience tell us works best:

Children Need How You Can Support

Emotional security Daily cuddles, listening, saying “I love you” — even after a meltdown
Clear, consistent boundaries
Repeat simple rules calmly; avoid long lectures,
Safe ways to express emotions “It’s okay to be mad, but not to throw things. Let’s take deep breaths.”
Choices within limits “Do you want to wear blue or red socks?” — gives control within structure
Calm follow-through Avoid threats. Use predictable consequences instead (“No cartoons till toys are cleaned”)

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What Balanced Parenting Sounds Like

“I understand you're upset. I’m here, and I’m listening.”

“We don’t hit when we’re angry. Let’s find another way to show how we feel.”

“I love you, and the answer is still no.”

You’re not being “too soft” or “too strict” — you’re teaching safety, trust, and emotional maturity.

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And When It’s Not Just Typical Behavior…

For children with sensory processing issues, ADHD, or emotional regulation difficulties, these everyday parenting tasks become more complex. The child may:

Overreact to touch, sound, or change in routine

Struggle to calm down once upset

Have more frequent outbursts or impulsive actions

Seem unaware of their own behavior
What Can Parents Do in These Cases?

Understand the root: It’s not “bad behavior” — it’s often a nervous system that's overwhelmed.

Stay consistent, but flexible.

Use sensory breaks, movement activities, and calming routines.

Reach out for help.

How Occupational Therapists Can Help

At Sujay CDC, we work with families to decode the "why" behind the behavior.
Occupational Therapists help by:

Assessing sensory sensitivities and emotional triggers

Creating structured daily routines

Teaching self-regulation strategies (movement, breathing, fidget tools, etc.)

Supporting parents with personalized behavior plans

Parenting with both love and limits isn’t easy — but it’s powerful. And you don’t have to do it alone.

If you're noticing intense behaviors, sensory signs, or emotional ups and downs, support is available. We’re here to help.

– Dr. Chirag Gandhi & Team
Sujay Child Development Center, Thane

26/05/2025

Managing Hyperactivity in Children Aged 10 to 16: New Tips for Changing Times

In today's fast-paced digital world, hyperactivity in children aged 10 to 16 often takes new shapes—restlessness, constant screen shifting, impulsive comments, fidgeting, or unfinished tasks. Managing this needs more than just discipline. It requires empathy, structured strategies, and modern-day understanding. Here are updated tips for parents:

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1. Upgrade from “Stop It” to “Channel It”

Hyperactive teens don’t just need to be told to sit still—they need a purposeful outlet.

Tip: Give them a “burn-out plan” each day—cycling, jumping rope, martial arts, drumming, or dance.

What’s new?: Focus on high-intensity, short-burst activities they enjoy, not just what's therapeutic.
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2. Break the Screen–Impulse Loop

Excessive screen use increases impulsivity and poor attention.

Tip: Set "digital swap zones"—for every 30 mins of screen time, 20 mins of off-screen creative play (e.g., Lego, clay, music, or journaling).

Use tech wisely: Apps like Forest, Loóna, or Habitica can make focus fun.
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3. Sensory Regulation Before Study

Teens with hyperactivity often have underlying sensory processing needs.

Tip: Before homework or study, give them a “regulation break”—heavy work (pushing wall, carrying weighted backpack), swinging, or chewing crunchy snacks.

At Sujay CDC, we design personalized sensory breaks for this exact reason.
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4. Move from “Nagging” to “Coaching”

Teens resist authority more. Direct commands increase defiance.

Tip: Use “Coach Talk” –
“What’s your game plan to finish this before 6?”
“Want a 5-min break before continuing or should I sit with you for the tough part?”

Why it works: Respect + Autonomy = Better Compliance
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5. Body-Mind-Space Strategy

Hyperactivity is not just in the body—it’s in mind and surroundings too.

Body: Use movement breaks every 20 minutes

Mind: Practice short mindfulness or guided relaxation

Space: Keep workspace clutter-free, with visual organizers

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6. Sleep is Sacred

Hyperactivity worsens with poor sleep, especially after age 10.

Tip: Stick to a fixed sleep-wake routine, no screens 45 mins before sleep, and use calming rituals (lavender oil, dim lights, breathing apps).

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7. Build Self-Awareness

Children above 10 can begin to understand their own triggers.

Tip: Use “Zones of Regulation” charts or simple mood trackers. Let them rate their energy level daily and learn calming tools.
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8. No Overbooking

Too many classes, sports, and expectations lead to restlessness and emotional outbursts.

Tip: Balance structure with unstructured downtime. Allow boredom—it often leads to creativity and natural calming.
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9. Include Them in Solutions

Involve your child in planning routines and strategies.

Tip: Let them help design a “Focus Kit” with fidget tools, a timer, calming music, and task checklist.
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10. Professional Support That Evolves

If school complaints, sibling conflicts, or emotional overload continue, seek help.

Tip: Choose a therapist who integrates Occupational Therapy, Cognitive strategies, and Teen Coaching—not just behavior control.

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Conclusion:

Managing hyperactivity in 10–16-year-olds is not about "controlling energy" but redirecting it constructively. With changing times, our approach must evolve too—from commands to coaching, restriction to regulation, and frustration to collaboration.

If you're looking for a personalized plan or sensory profile for your child, visit us at Sujay CDC, Thane, or explore our upcoming “What Works” program for ADHD and sensory issues.

02/05/2025

Not every child needs a new toy. Most just need time to play — freely, wildly, and naturally.

Today’s childhood is changing — from gardens to malls, from free play to tight schedules filled with classes.

But ask any expert — and they’ll tell you:
Unstructured play, especially in nature, is essential for brain and body development.

When a child plays in a garden — they run, fall, spin, swing, balance, and feel textures.
These aren’t just games.
They are sensory-rich experiences that build:

Attention and focus

Body awareness

Balance and coordination

Calmness and emotional regulation

Now compare this to time spent indoors, in crowded malls, or jumping from one class to another.
Noisy, overstimulating, repetitive.
Over time, this can exhaust children — especially those with ADHD or sensory processing challenges.

Many children who "can't sit still" or "don't listen" aren't misbehaving.
They are seeking movement, pressure, or escape — things their body needs but cannot express.

This is where Occupational Therapy comes in.
It helps children:

Understand their sensory needs

Build routines to calm and focus

Develop better coordination, attention, and learning skills

So what can we do as parents?

Say yes to parks, swings, messy play, and boredom

Say no to constant classes and screen time overload

Watch for signs of sensory or attention struggles

And when needed, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support

Because every child deserves to grow — not just academically, but emotionally, physically, and joyfully.

Occupational Therapy supports that growth.
Play is the first step.

26/04/2025

Did you know?
ADHD, Autism, Sensory Processing Difficulties, and Learning Differences are often misunderstood.
At Sujay Child Development Center (Sujay CDC), we help families find real answers.

What we specialize in:

Occupational Therapy for Sensory and Behavior Needs

ADHD Management through Structured Therapy and Strategies

Autism Intervention combining Sensory Integration and Communication Development

Parent Training to Manage Daily Challenges at Home

Learning Support through Skill-Based Therapy

Key facts everyone should know:

ADHD is not just "hyperactivity" — it affects focus, emotional regulation, and daily life.

Autism is a spectrum — each child's needs and strengths are different.

Sensory processing challenges can cause meltdowns, anxiety, and withdrawal.

Early and appropriate intervention makes a major difference in long-term success.

At Sujay CDC, we combine experience, evidence-based methods, and compassionate care to help every child move forward.

If you're concerned about your child’s development — early help matters.
Reach out today to schedule a consultation or simply follow our page for expert tips and guidance.

Sujay Child Development Center
"Real Support, Real Progress, Skills for Life."

20/04/2025

17/04/2025

The Most Powerful Way to Help Your Child with Special Needs .

Raising a child with special needs comes with unique challenges—but one thing remains constant: your everyday actions make the biggest impact.

What Truly Works?

Consistency over intensity
It’s not about doing more, it’s about doing the right things every day. A few minutes of meaningful interaction, repeated consistently, can build real change.

Predictable routines
Children feel safer and more focused when they know what to expect. A calm, structured routine reduces anxiety and opens the door to learning.

Staying calm during chaos
When your child is dysregulated, your steady response helps bring them back. Your reactions teach them how to manage theirs.

Notice the small wins
A new word, better eye contact, sitting through an activity—every step forward matters. Tracking and reinforcing these builds momentum.

Don’t chase perfection
Progress is rarely linear. Good days and hard days will both come. What counts is showing up with clarity and purpose, day after day.

The Power of Early Intervention

When a child struggles with communication, focus, movement, or emotional control, early support can change their developmental path. This is where Occupational Therapy plays a powerful role—by addressing the underlying difficulties that impact daily life.

Early Occupational Therapy helps build the foundation for independence, learning, and self-regulation. It turns delays into progress by working on the core skills your child needs to grow.

You’re Still the Game-Changer

Therapies help—but the strongest influence will always be you. Your steady presence, your daily choices, and your belief in your child’s potential are what truly drive long-term improvement.

Change doesn’t come from pressure. It comes from patience, persistence, and practical support—one day at a time.











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