03/12/2025
The real problem today is not that men are “bad” and women are “difficult.”
It’s that both genders are living outside their emotional design because of unhealed wounds.
As men, we have become so emotionally overwhelmed and under-developed that we sometimes struggle to lead. Sometimes life is unfair to us, and we feel stuck 🥲
We respond with defensiveness instead of direction,
ego instead of accountability, emotion instead of logic.
A truly masculine man doesn’t operate from ego.
He operates from protection, responsibility, stability, leadership, clarity, and calm strength.
But many men including me, were never taught emotional management, never guided by healthy fathers, never shown what leadership looks like in action — so we lead from fear instead of confidence.
On the other hand…
Women have become too hard.
Survival, independence, and years of “doing everything alone” have shifted many wives into masculine energy, instead of being feminine 🙂↕️
She becomes loud, logical, dominant, guarded, and overly responsible.
Not because she wants to lead…
but because she thinks she has to .
This dynamic creates a war zone in relationships:
two people trying to lead,
two nervous systems in defence mode,
two wounded parts fighting for safety, not intimacy.
The truth is: both men and women need healing.
❤️🩹 Men need to heal so they can lead with strength, not ego.
❤️🩹 Women need to heal so they can soften without fear and rest in their femininity again.
And here is the biggest lesson:
If you are in this dynamic, do not rush to “fix” your partner. Heal yourself first. You are in control of your own healing.
When a woman heals, she becomes soft again without losing her power.She can be a boss at work and still be gentle at home.
When a man heals, he leads with integrity, not insecurity.
Healthy masculine + healthy feminine = balance, not competition.
Heal yourself… and watch the whole relationship shift.