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29/11/2025

Whether in a relationship or already married, you will find this book useful in guiding you on how to relate with your partners in a healthy manner. Invest in your relationships now so as to make them more successful. Order your copy now. In addition to the book shops listed above, it. can also be delivered anywhere in the country.

28/11/2025

THE IMPORTANCE OF INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO BUILD IT
Intimacy is the emotional, physical, and relational closeness that helps couples feel deeply connected, understood, and valued. It goes far beyond s*x—it is the foundation of trust, communication, and meaningful companionship. Intimacy allows partners to be their true selves and receive the comfort, care, and affirmation they need. Without it, relationships often feel distant, strained, or unfulfilling.
The Different Forms of Intimacy
Healthy relationships thrive through several types of intimacy:
• Physical intimacy includes affectionate touch—like hugging, cuddling, holding hands, and s*x—which strengthens comfort and closeness.
• Emotional intimacy develops through openness, vulnerability, and honest conversations, helping partners feel safe and deeply supported.
• Intellectual intimacy happens when couples exchange ideas, challenge each other’s thoughts, and enjoy meaningful discussions.
• Experiential intimacy grows through shared activities, hobbies, trips, and memorable experiences that create a sense of partnership.
• Spiritual intimacy involves connecting through shared values, beliefs, and moments of meaning or inspiration, whether religious or not.
Barriers That Can Block Intimacy
Intimacy can weaken due to common challenges such as frequent conflict, stress from work or family life, poor communication habits, or fear of closeness caused by past hurts. These obstacles can make partners withdraw or feel unsafe opening up. If couples don’t intentionally nurture intimacy, it can gradually fade.
Why Intimacy Matters
Strong intimacy positively affects every area of a relationship. It increases s*xual desire, boosts relationship satisfaction, and even improves physical health—similar to the impact of good diet and exercise. Intimate relationships also enhance mental well-being, reduce loneliness, and help partners better handle stress.
How to Build and Strengthen Intimacy
Intimacy can be intentionally developed at any stage of a relationship. Couples can:
• Enhance physical intimacy through open communication about desires and through affectionate touch—even simple cuddling.
• Increase emotional intimacy by sharing feelings honestly, listening without distractions, and consistently connecting daily.
• Deepen experiential intimacy by creating shared memories through dates, activities, hobbies, or travel.
• Boost intellectual intimacy with stimulating conversations, shared interests, or discussing articles and ideas.
• Build spiritual intimacy by exploring values, beliefs, and meaningful practices together.
At Giving Hope Counselling Services, we specialise in helping couples reconnect on a deeper, more meaningful level. Our experienced Counselling Psychologists and Marriage & Family Therapists guide you through understanding the different forms of intimacy—emotional, physical, intellectual, experiential, and spiritual—and teach you how to strengthen them in practical, lasting ways. Whether you're struggling to communicate, feeling disconnected, or simply want to deepen your bond, we are here to help you rebuild trust, closeness, and joy in your relationship. Your relationship can thrive again. Let’s walk that journey together.
📞 Book your session today by calling/WhatsApp us at +254721240462 or +254733932470. Also read the complete article on this topic on the blog on our website www.givinghope.co.ke.
Peter Mugi Kuruga
Counselling Psychologist | Marriage and Family Therapist

28/11/2025

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Celebrating the retirement of Reverend Robert Kangethe presided over by the Bishop of the ACK Thika Diocese, the Right ReV. Julius Wanyoike.

27/11/2025

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25/11/2025

🌟 ARE YOU TIRED OF ATTRACTING TOXIC PARTNERS? LET’S BREAK THE CYCLE TOGETHER. 🌟
If you keep finding yourself in the same painful relationships—overlooking red flags, settling for less, or repeating patterns from your past—you don’t have to face it alone. At Giving Hope Counselling Services, our skilled Counselling Psychologists and Marriage & Family Therapists will help you understand why you’ve been drawn to toxic partners and guide you toward building healthier, more secure, and deeply fulfilling relationships.
✨ Rebuild your self-worth
✨ Understand your attachment style
✨ Heal past wounds
✨ Learn to trust your intuition
✨ Choose partners who respect, value, and support you
Your story doesn’t have to repeat itself. Let us help you create a new, healthier chapter in your love life. 💛 Book your session today.
Always seek our services by calling/WhatsApp at +*254721240462*/*254733932470* or email us at info@givinghope.co.ke. Also check for more informative articles on our blog on our website www.givinghope.co.ke.
*Peter Mugi Kuruga*
*Counselling Psychologist* | *Marriage and Family Therapist*
*Diploma in Counselling (MFT), B. Com., MA in Sociology (Counselling), PhD (MFT) – On going*

25/11/2025

> *_5 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN WIFE MATERIAL & GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL_*

*1) GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL IS A SPENDER*

When you're dating a girlfriend, your expenses will triple. You'll be spending as if you're paying tax to federal government on the relationship.

Take a girlfriend to a fast food restaurant, she places her orders without caring about the price and your salary, and she NEVER tries to split the bill at any time.

*WIFE MATERIAL IS CONSERVATIVE*

When you're dating a wife material, take her to a fast food restaurant, she'll ask how much for an item before she orders it, and she'll even refuse to pick an item with an exorbitant price, unless you insist.

She tries to save you Money.

She considers your pocket.

*2) GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL BELONGS TO EVERYBODY*

Girlfriend is always receiving calls 24/7 (even in your presence) as if she's a customer care agent.

Girlfriend is always coming down from different cars,

She's always flirting, collecting gifts and cash from different suitors without shame. She even demands it from them if they don't give her. She'll make trouble if you confront her.

Check her phone at your peril, she'll tell you "there's nothing going on" but her chats/friendship with other guys is too close for comfort.

*WIFE MATERIAL BELONGS TO ONE MAN*

A Wife is not available for every Man.

She's a One Man's Lady, she rebuffs suitors and their gifts.

*3) GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL ONLY COLLECTS*

A Girlfriend is like a Tax Collector.

On HER birthday, you'll take her out.
On YOUR birthday you'll still take her out.
Christmas that is JESUS'S birthday, she'll still collect gift from you.

Valentine, Easter, New Year, every season is an opportunity to collect gift/money from you, but she doesn't reciprocate.

*WIFE MATERIAL COLLECTS AND GIVES*

A Wife material will plan a surprise birthday for you on your birthday, no matter how small.

She doesn't just receive, she gives.

*4) GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL IS REBELLIOUS*

A girlfriend gives Headache

She uses equal rights and feminism spirit to deal with you, before you say one, she's said twenty.

She seeks to control her Man without submitting to him.
Her word is Final in the Relationship.

*WIFE MATERIAL IS SUBMISSIVE*

A Wife is a Team Player
She's not scared of submitting, and gives you your place as Head as you give her her place as your Partner.

Girlfriend is Beauty only.
Wife Material is Beauty and Character.

*5) GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL DOESN'T LOVE YOU*

Girlfriend is with you because of your Money, not because of You. Who you epp?
Stop meeting her needs and she's dumped you

A girlfriend loves your Money

*WIFE MATERIAL LOVES YOU*

A Wife material can stand by a Man when he's nothing and build with him.

A Wife stands by you even when you yourself see nothing worthy of such devotion to you.

A Wife Loves you.
A Wife Adores you.

_lf you marry a girlfriend material instead of a wife because of shape, waist or s*x, your body will tell you.. I hope that this advice helps you in searching for your best partner in Life. God bless us all._

25/11/2025

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Paul Aluoch, Mathetsa Rets'epile

22/11/2025

💔The One Night That Cost Me Everything

Dear Women in Marriage,

I want to share my story as a warning, a lesson, and a testimony for every woman walking the sacred journey called marriage.

My name is Sofia. I’m 39 years old, a mother of three, and a divorcee after 13 years of marriage. I got married at 23-young, naive, and unaware of what marriage truly demands. My husband was kind, responsible, and loving. Yet, I mistook my desire for freedom as strength, not realizing that marriage requires patience, understanding, and maturity.

By the age of 31, I had three children. Life became a routine: caring for my husband, raising my children, and managing our home. Two of my kids were in school, the youngest with our nanny, and I finally felt a little freedom - to go shopping, move about, and breathe.

Then, one ordinary evening while shopping, my life changed forever.

A man touched my shoulder. He smiled warmly, greeted me politely, and our conversation flowed effortlessly. By the end of the shopping trip, he had paid for my items and walked me to my car. I felt seen, admired, alive.

That night, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. Two days later, he texted me for coffee. We talked for hours. He was attentive, charming, and said all the things a lonely woman longs to hear. That evening, we went somewhere private… and everything changed.

The intimacy we shared awakened feelings I thought had disappeared. But I didn’t realize that one night would cost me everything I had built over 13 years.

When I returned home, I began comparing him to my husband. My husband suddenly felt boring, weak, unfulfilling. I avoided him, withheld intimacy, and let myself believe that this new man was what I truly needed.

Our affair continued until he asked me to leave my husband and start a new life together. Blinded by lust and emotion, I walked away from my marriage, thinking I was stepping into happiness.

Three years have passed since I left. And I can tell you… there is nothing to celebrate.

The man I left my husband for was not who I thought he was. Within months, he started coming home late, avoiding me, and entertaining other women. He reminded me I had children with another man. The one who once made me feel alive now made me feel worthless.

I lost my home, my husband, my children’s respect, and my peace of mind… all for a fleeting moment of pleasure that was never worth it.

Dear women, value your marriage. Do not be deceived by attention, flattery, or momentary excitement. The man who can make you a wife is far better than the one who can only make you a girlfriend.

If you’re lonely, talk about it. If there are challenges, work on them. But never destroy your home chasing what fades quickly.

I don’t know if my husband will forgive me, but I’ve made peace with God and myself. I’m sharing my story not for sympathy, but to warn and guide.

Learn from me. Protect your marriage. Value your husband. Guard your heart.

With love and truth,
Sofia

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21/11/2025

20/11/2025

HABITS THAT MAKE RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES WORK