12/12/2025
The 2 women in my life. My wife & my mother. I got married 15 years ago. Before I drove off to the chapel for my wedding, my mother called me to my bedroom, said, "Son, you & I were buddies; but another woman is coming into your life. I'm stepping down to allow her to step in". I've never witnessed my mother & wife clash. My wife & I take good care of my mother, but as a leader of my home, I've had to allow my mother & wife to relate well. If my mother needs something, most times I delegate my wife to attend to that need. When my mother needs anything, she often contacts my wife. Yes she does contact me, but it's lesser. My wife is as a biological daughter to my mother. It's important that a man facilitate oneness between his wife & mother! As a man, should you die, the 2 women have to relate well! Lessons:
1. Excellent leaders BACK OFF, to allow followers to run with the vision. If every time your family needs something from you as a man, they go to you; that's a ticking time bomb.
2. Married parties need to learn to delegate each other. When wife has to send money home, it's good for her to delegate her husband. That causes her family to recognize & respect their son in law. Same with husband sending money home. I'm not saying "let's be rigid". Involving each other is key.
3. Mothers of husbands needs to be caring enough to back off a bit. Wanting to be at the forefront of everything can only cause conflict.
4. Parents have to be taken care of; but things have to be done the right way. Careful of financial infidelity; sending money to your family members, behind your partner's back.
5. Your mother & wife can never be in same position. Your wife by virtue of being your partner will be take first position. Your mother will follow. Doesn't mean anyone is less important. It's just priorities
Thank you ❤️👊🏾
