12/02/2023
conversations after 30 years are different 🙃🥰 the art of not settling, communication with someone outside your family that you chose and cultivated for decades…is the most delicate, mindful kind of communication there is. and it is what gives me the clearest perspective of my relationship with God. there is no striving. and there is always peace and love. the dance of communication is the most careful movement. care to not over try. and to not insult. to appreciate. to not be one sided. To expect the most perfect, calm kind of love. And to give it.
it’s different. there’s an expectation because there’s an education of the kind of love that resides. it’s the most beautiful kind of love I’ve ever known. I’m not lucky. I’ve poured myself into creating it. it’s available to everyone. just like a relationship with God is. but you have to be the one who goes for it and decides it will be this good and this restful.
To understand how it feels to be resting in God…know what it feels like to rest in decades of committed, safe, kind, steady, calm, strong, never wandering, never hurting love. that’s how it feels.
there is no pain in love itself. In death, yes. But not in love itself between 2 committed people.
Don’t believe the hype and dogma about God from a person who is not a calm lover in a healthy long marriage. because that experience shows if a person is postured as trying…feeling personal shame or void of self confidence. or need to be seen as achieving. because that’s not how life works. love does not need performance. Love honors the other. prefers one another. Love is kind and patient. It does not boast or judge or embarrass. it is like a swing in the wind. Or morning coffee. It is simple and steady. Constant and careful. always available. but so simple with nothing to prove at all. Your love happens because you’re so in love. there is no striving. just giving and receiving. 🥰
i help women cultivate this kind of love. the life you were made to experience. start a conversation with me 😘