Marilyn Q. Ashcroft

09/05/2021

How is your inner dialogue when faced with challenges? "I am bad" or "I did something bad?" Your inner dialogue influence you significantly and indirectly projecting this talk on your expectations on others too. When someone disappoint you or not live up to your expectation, do you say "you are a mistake" or "you made a mistake?"⁠⁠
Shame or guilt self talk are very much instill into our subconsciousness through childhood. How our parents talk to us, how we experience things, how the world around us receives us. When you shouted in the mall, maybe they say "you are bad kid", instead of "you have a bad behavior". We then proceed to personalise our behaviour, forming unhealthy identity and self blame. Believing that deep down, it wasn't the situation, but it was 'me'. Worse of all, leave unaware, we bring this to our work, our relationships or our children.⁠⁠
If you feel this way or you recognise your tendency of shame self talk, you are not alone. Today, just spend a few minutes to simply be aware. No judgement, no fixing. Just be aware, do you do that to yourself? Do you do that to others?

21/03/2020

As much as I prefer human touch over Artificial Intelligence, there is really no 'one better than another'. As long as it helps, even if it's one person. Because it's not just that one person that is impacted, but the family, friends that all also affected. Very great initiative and creation (Y)

20/02/2020

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07/02/2020

Footage of two normal human being trying to run errands yet trying to dodge the possibility of catching the coronavirus around.
I watch news everyday, but I do also am very conscious not to let it consume me too much. In this overwhelming digital era, we are so exposed to any big and small news. Stories and opinion. Real or fake.
In the midst of this disaster, you might see fake news, businesses that use this as an opportunity. Wiping the mask in the market and resell them at ridiculous prize. Use hand sanitizer as gift to promote sales.
You might think that this is survivor mode, and those above are human nature. But let's not discount the fact that there are also people that risk their life volunteer during this dark period. Those that give even when stakes are high. My heart goes out to those who are stuck, those who are worry about their jobs, those who are grieving, those that are on the front line, those that are struggling with health anxiety.
If you find these period overwhelming, take a step back. Limit your news time, and restrict them to reliable source. Do your part responsibly, and know that there is much that is out of your control.

29/01/2020

I don't see the benefits of these when I was a kid. Double tap if these are your adult goals too 😂

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28/01/2020

Acceptance is acknowledging you are human with feelings. In which means, you, like everyone else will have sadness, dissapointment, failures, scars and pain. Studies have shown that dismissing/suppressing someone's negative emotions (your own or others) , causes more stress than acknowledge and embrace it.
You are feeling not okay, and that is okay. You are angry and that is okay. You are crying and that is okay.
Instead of saying "hey, be positive!" try saying "hey, it's okay to feel this way"
Instead of saying "hey be strong"
Try saying "take your time". Instead of giving your thoughts, try listening to their thoughts. Instead of trying to fix, give them space.
Don't make people feel bad for what they felt. Acknowledge, listen, and walk through with em.

26/01/2020

農曆新年分享快樂關懷之餘，留意自己的問題，小小的正念思考可以顧及到別人的心理健康喔。Practice mindfulness this Chinese New year. Communication and language is important. Share love, not pressure! Be mindful and care for other's mental health this season x

26/01/2020

Practice mindfulness this Chinese New year. Communication and language is important. Share love, not pressure! Be mindful and care for other's mental health this season x

25/01/2020

[MINDFUL GREETINGS] 新年快樂 HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR! It's the time of the year when everyone return home, gather with their love ones and celebrate new year. During gatherings and house visiting, it can also be stressful too! Here I am sharing some tips on how to practise mindfulness questioning and greetings during this CNY! Share love, not spread pressure!
Swipe for chinese version x 中文也有喔。 @ Johor Bahru

23/01/2020

沒有人可以跟你說什麼是應該的。什麼是需要的。長大以後最掙扎的，是對自己心靈，家庭，各方面的決定負責。因為太多的害怕而不敢做的事情，不敢說的話，等到太遲後，你會甘心嗎？

20/01/2020

It's heartening to see Member of Parliament Althea Ong raising concerns about healthcare budget on Mental health. There is truly no health without mental health.

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20/01/2020

I have no time, I have no money. No time to do meditation, no money to buy insurance. No time to speak to someone, no money to see a therapist. No time to read a book, no money to buy medication.
When I was a nurse I always say this to my patient. Those that have high blood pressure and tell me they have no time to do exercise, no time to read up, no time to do a body check up. What now when you are sick? You then have to stop everything and make time on the hospital bed.
"I am busy" is the most convenient excuse to brush your health off your hands. We all have 24 hours, now try switching I have no time, to it is not my priority.
If caring for yourself was not your priority, why should people prioritise their life to care for you? And if you prioritise your family, you got to prioritise your mental and physical health. That is your commitment, and best gift for your love ones. Anything spend inwards are not spending, it's investing.