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01/12/2025

I'm not a last minute Christmas shopper, but I CAN be a last minute lesson planner.

If that's you too, I've got a few ideas for your December lessons that will get the ball rolling. Read more below, and check out the link in my bio for more information and resources!

💜 Kindness: Many December holidays involve gifts, which can lead kids to being consumed by the Amazon catalog and what they are going to receive. Help students focus their attention outwards by teaching about kindness and empathy this month!

🌏 Cultural Diversity: December is full of so many different traditions and holidays. Explore our diverse world by talking about the importance of diversity and learning about the ways that the world celebrates.

😀 Coping Skills: Winter break means different things to our students. For some, it is a time of excitement and fun, while for others it is a time of uncertainty and struggle. Regardless, it's a change, and a break from the ordinary, which can bring about a wide variety of emotions. Reminding students of ways to cope with these emotions before they head home for a few weeks can be a powerful way to wrap up the year!

What are you teaching about in December? Let me know below! 👇

01/12/2025

In our culture and many families, anger and rage are seen as bad or inappropriate emotions. We're taught to stay quiet, be "good," and avoid conflict. Over time, we suppress these natural responses to avoid punishment and to fit into society's expectations.

When anger and rage are suppressed for too long, we start living in a state of dysregulation. This is because self-regulation is the somatic capacity to respond appropriately to what's going on internally within us & externally in the world around us.

When harm, boundary violations & injustices happen, anger & rage are crucial for self-regulation as they become the fuel that drives our instinct to fight and protect.

27/11/2025

31/10/2025

https://www.counsellingjourneywithjk.com/post/importance-of-mental-health-in-school

Mental health is a fundamental determinant of educational participation, intellectual development, and long-term well-being in Malaysia. In this context, schools are an essential setting for promotion, prevention, early identification, and intervention, given their universal reach and the role teach...

31/10/2025

Before a child can manage their emotions, they first need to notice them.
That begins with interoception — the hidden sense that helps the brain read the body’s signals.

A racing heart, a heavy chest, butterflies, a tight tummy — these are the body’s early messages.
When a child can’t interpret them, emotions can appear “sudden” or “out of nowhere.”
They’re not ignoring how they feel — their brain simply isn’t getting a clear signal yet.

Understanding interoception helps us respond with patience, not punishment — and teach children how to recognise what their body is trying to say.

Explore Managing Big Feelings: The Toolkit for Parents & Educators — practical guidance to help children build awareness, understanding, and self-regulation. Link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

31/10/2025

When we meet our imperfections with kindness instead of judgment, we create the space to grow, learn, and heal. Self-compassion reminds us that we don’t need to be flawless to be worthy of love.

How do you practice being gentle with yourself when you make mistakes?

31/10/2025

Little loving reminders for you.
Take what you need. 💙

17/07/2025

KENYATAAN RASMI

Lembaga Kaunselor Malaysia (LKM) ingin memaklumkan bahawa hasil semakan dan siasatan yang telah dijalankan mendapati individu bernama Diyana binti Tahir, pengasas eHati, bukan seorang kaunselor berdaftar dan tidak berdaftar dengan LKM.

Sebagai makluman, perkhidmatan kaunseling hanya boleh dijalankan oleh kaunselor yang berdaftar sebagaimana yang diperuntukkan di bawah Akta Kaunselor 1998 (Akta 580). Sebarang pelanggaran terhadap peruntukan ini merupakan satu kesalahan dan boleh dikenakan tindakan undang-undang.

LKM memandang serius terhadap sebarang bentuk penyalahgunaan gelaran atau pengendalian perkhidmatan kaunseling tanpa kelayakan dan pendaftaran yang sah. Orang ramai disarankan untuk sentiasa menyemak status pendaftaran kaunselor melalui saluran rasmi LKM bagi memastikan mereka menerima perkhidmatan yang sah dan diiktiraf.

Lembaga Kaunselor Malaysia
Berkhidmat Demi Kesejahteraan Psikososial Masyarakat

17/07/2025

https://www.counsellingjourneywithjk.com/post/why-mental-health-is-so-important-in-malaysia

Mental health is an increasingly pressing issue in Malaysia, reflecting broader global trends and specific national factors. The increasing prevalence of mental health disorders in Malaysia, where nearly 30% to 40% of adults have reported experiencing some form of mental health issue, highlights the...

17/07/2025

Children can't learn when they are afraid. ❤️‍🩹

"When a child feels threatened—whether by a stern tone, a looming punishment, or a physical consequence—the brain activates its survival mode. The amygdala, the part of the brain that processes fear, takes over. This is useful if the child is in danger, but if they’re supposed to be learning, this state actually prevents access to the prefrontal cortex, where reasoning, decision-making, and memory happen.

In other words, a child who is afraid is not processing logic. They’re focused solely on surviving the moment.

So when adults think they’re teaching a child not to lie, hit, or disobey through punishment or intimidation, they may actually be teaching something else entirely: to be afraid of making mistakes. To hide their struggles. To shut down rather than reflect."

https://thehealingnest.co.uk/blog/using-fear-to-change-behaviour-doesnt-work-because-children-cannot-learn-when-they-are-afraid/

17/07/2025

Love calls us to treat the ones we love with honor, yes, but that does not mean self-abandonment.

When someone demands self-abandonment from us, it calls into question their love.

Respect can exist without love…but love can’t exist without respect.

An example:

When a loved one communicates a problem area with us, we want to learn how to receive that information in an honoring way.

This doesn’t mean obedience or subservience to whatever they say.

It just means *respecting* them.

And that includes setting ego aside, being willing to listen, care, and have whatever conversations are needed to see if there can be a solution that is doable for both of you.

But it does not include giving in to their demands at the cost of your own soul.

Because love means you respect yourself, too.

When someone demands that you disrespect yourself in order to show them love?

That’s not love.

Because both people matter. That’s why healthy loving relationships are characterized by *mutual* respect.

That’s a boundary.

❤️
Molly

PS. If you are a compassionate person ready to uplevel your boundaries in a way that is heart-centered, intuitive, and inside-out, my Boundaries Breakthrough Mini-Course is a beautiful place to begin.

Learn more here:
Https://boundaried.com/breakthrough ✨

17/07/2025

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