dr.deb-let's talk

01/12/2025

If you have Stage 4 friends…keep them for life. Hold them close💛

23/11/2025

Who's in your corner?
Because even the strongest people need a corner.

20/10/2025

“One of the beautiful things about being Malaysian is how we celebrate one another’s festivals — not just as observers, but as family❤️

Different faiths, one heart.
Different traditions, one love.
That’s the beauty of Malaysia🪔🇲🇾

Wishing all who celebrate a joyful and meaningful Deepavali — may this season bring light, love, and unity to every home✨

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01/10/2025

Such a joy to walk with this couple through their premarital counselling journey and then celebrate their beautiful wedding day together. Truly honored to be part of their story and to share a message on such a meaningful occasion. Here’s to a lifetime of love, laughter, and God’s blessings. 💍❤️✨

16/09/2025

✨ Behind Every Picture… ✨

I know the comments will roll in: “Beautiful couple.” “Inspiring.” “Lovely together.” And while we’d like to believe all that is true 😉… here’s the raw part:

We’ve also had seasons of conflict. We’ve said mean things. We’ve hit rock bottom. There were days we wondered if it was even worth it. Days of frustration, irritation, and being flat-out annoyed at each other.

The truth is—what you often see on social media is the highlight reel. The smiling pictures. The sweet captions. And sometimes, we look at those and quietly wonder: Why can’t my life be like that? Where did I/we go wrong?

But here’s what I want you to hear today: behind every “perfect” picture are a thousand mistakes, countless tears, and more hard conversations than you can imagine. Getting to this picture took years of learning, forgiving, and choosing—choosing to dig our heels in, choosing not to give up, choosing to love again (even when we didn’t feel like it).

We went for marriage counselling. Some may think marriage counselling means the couple isn't strong enough or smart enough to work through their issues. Some also think it's a sign of weakness or worse still failure. But counselling not only gave us clarity to rebuild, but also a sense of accountability and courage to stand by each other. In fact, we wanna go again. Not because our marriage is in trouble, but we want to check in and strengthen our relationship. Did you know that marriage counselling isn't just for a time of crisis?😉

💡Because here’s the thing:
Good marriages don’t just happen. They are built—intentionally, patiently, sometimes clumsily—by two very imperfect people. A strong marriage isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence.

For us, it wasn’t just counselling. What made it possible was God as our anchor—the One who kept us grounded and committed. He taught us that unconditional love and relentless forgiveness is possible. And that’s what carried us through the storms. What's your anchor?

So if you’re struggling, you’re not alone. Don’t buy into the “perfect couple” myth. Every couple you admire has a behind-the-scenes story.

👉🏾 And let me also say this: staying and working things out is powerful—but never in an abusive relationship. No one should ever stay where they are unsafe.

❤️ A marriage worth having isn’t flawless—it’s fearless in choosing love and respect again and again.

29/08/2025

29/08/2025

✨ Throwback to Youth Camp: Game Changer Ipoh ✨

Over the past 7 months, I had the privilege of coming together with an incredible team to walk alongside some truly inspiring youths from TMC Ipoh — discovering what it means to be a real GAME CHANGER:

C – Character 💡 Living with integrity
H – Heart ❤️ Motivated by love
A – Attitude 🌱 Choosing Christ-like responses
N – New Mindset 🧠 Seeing through God’s truth
G – Growth 🌿 Taking bold steps forward
E – Empowerment ⚡ Using gifts to make a difference
R – Relationship 🤝 Reflecting God’s love

We wrapped up these months of learning with an unforgettable camp finale 🙌 — a weekend filled with reflection, breakthrough, and bold steps forward.

I’m so thankful for the opportunity to serve with this team and proud of every youth who leaned in, took ownership, and committed to living as true Game Changers for God’s Kingdom! 🔥

The journey doesn’t stop here — it continues in every choice, every step, and every relationship shaped by God’s love. 💛

26/08/2025

Something worth sharing time and time again!

"Connection isn't a single thing you say or do. It's the feeling our kids get when they know they don't have to be perfect to be loved."

Connection is built in the small, consistent ways.

Not in the birthday parties or the “teachable moments.”
Not in the Pinterest lunches or the family vacations.
Those are nice. But they’re not the foundation.

Connection is built when your child slams the door and you still come back.
When they scream “Go away!” and you stay near.
When they melt down over the green cup and you don’t try to logic them out of it.

It’s built when you breathe through your own frustration.
When you choose presence over punishment.
When you say, “I’m here,” instead of, “You’re being ridiculous.”

It’s built in those hard, messy, ordinary Tuesday afternoons
when everything in you wants to yell
but instead, you sit on the floor beside them.

One of my clients told me her son was having meltdown after meltdown after school.
Everything was a fight. Shoes. Homework. Dinnertime.

But instead of snapping, she tried something new.
She said, “You’re safe to have big feelings here. I’m not going anywhere.”
And then she just… stayed.

No lectures. No time-outs. No “teaching.”
Just a steady, calm presence. Over and over again.

And after weeks of just being there, her son finally opened up.
Tears in his eyes, he told her what had really been going on at school.

That moment? That conversation?
It didn’t come because she fixed everything.
It came because he felt safe enough to share it.

Connection isn’t a single thing you say or do.
It’s the feeling our kids get when they know they don’t have to be perfect to be loved.

21/08/2025

🤔 Most students feel lost when choosing a course — but you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Aaron, a first-year uni student, shares what helped him decide, the challenges he faced, and his encouragement for students and parents alike.

👉 Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QKqdowH0my4?si=kpQoYfzd_dk9sdjK

15/08/2025

🤔 Still not sure what career truly fits you? Your personality might know.

Whether you’re starting out, exploring a new path, shifting mid-career, or rethinking your direction after years in the field — knowing how you work best can open new doors.

Tools like the MBTI® (and others) are a great starting point, revealing the kind of roles and environments where your strengths will shine.
Together, we’ll turn those insights into a clear, practical plan that aligns with your values, skills, and goals — whatever stage you’re in.

📩 Message me today and let’s explore your options so you can take your next step with clarity and confidence.

05/08/2025

Career crossroads can feel overwhelming — especially when your confidence takes a hit.
When you’re doubting your skills or stuck in a job loop, it helps to talk to someone who gets it — and helps you move forward. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

If you're navigating a job change, feeling lost in your role, or second-guessing your next step — support is here.
➡️ Send me a message today to find out how career counselling can help you gain clarity, confidence, and direction in your next step.

30/07/2025

🔥 Boys are wired differently — not wrongly.

In Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk book called, 'Bringing Up Boys,' he shares 2 insights and 2 practical tips that helped me better understand how boys grow, behave, and connect.

If you’re raising, teaching, or mentoring boys, don’t miss this.
Hope this encourages you in your journey of raising boys. 💛