Christian Family Guide

10/08/2023

We are in a time where every Tom, Dick and Harry will gather their kind in a building/space and call it a church.

Witches will gather and call it church of witches!
Satanists will gather and call it church of satan!
Ogbanjes will gather and call it church of ogbanjes!

Lol, VERY VERY ABSURD!

Their ignorance and lack of originality stinks more than a skunk.

For your information, the Church is much more than a building. In the Bible, “church” doesn't refer to a building. It refers to a people—the people who have accepted and follow Jesus Christ as their Lord. Jesus Christ is The Head of The Church and The Church is the Body of Jesus Christ— that is, all of us who believe in Him and have accepted His gift of salvation, accepted and follow His teachings.

1 Corinthians 12: 27 says referring to us The Church/Christians
"All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it."

As the Body of Christ, we are called to be continually shaped to be more and more like Christ. This happens by consciously allowing the Word of God to guide and rule every facet of our lives, adhering to the teachings of Christ and by worshiping God, the Father of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Becoming a member of the church means that you belong to Jesus Christ and that you belong to the people of God. The church is also called “the bride of Christ,” this signifies that the church is joined with Jesus Christ in a deep and intimate relationship and is bound to him by a covenant similar to the covenant of marriage.

Now let me ask all these "gatherings" calling themselves church of this and church of that some questions:

In that your whatever gathering, are you gathered onto the Lord Jesus Christ?
If no, you are not part of The Church.

In that your gathering, are you preaching salvation in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and the Lord Jesus Christ alone?
If no, you are not part of The Church.

Do you and your cohorts of darkness believe in the Trinity (that's if you even know what the Trinity is)?
If no, you are not part of The Church.

Do you and your cohorts of darkness believe in the person of the Holy Spirit?
If no, you are not part of The Church.

Christ is the life of The Church. It is in and through The Church that Christ encounters, calls, transforms, equips, and sends his people into the world. God uses The Church to introduce salvation to those who don’t know him, and to nurture the faith of believers. The Church is God’s instrument for reaching the unreached and saving the unsaved.

The good news is that anyone can be saved and truly become a part of The Church and one with Christ; all you need do is believe and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. After which, you join yourself to fellow believers in a "worship center" and worship God in spirit and in truth.

In conclusion, it's either you are a part of The Church with the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and Head or you are whatever else, you cannot be both because there's no middle ground. You can simply comment "I need Jesus" if you want to become a part of Him and His Church... Other than that, please let's stop abusing the word "Church".

God bless you.

Keno Ekeanyanwu
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07/07/2023

20/09/2022

Dear Parents/Guardians,

8 DANGERS OF PO*******HY on our Children and Teenagers

1. Po*******hy distorts and harms a child’s view of s*x and s*xuality.

2. Po*******hy causes boys to see girls as objects/tools for their s*xual satisfaction and not as intelligent beings created in the image and likeness of God.

3. Po*******hy causes boys and girls to be prone to s*xual harm and aggressive behavior towards each other.

4. Po*******hy brings about low self esteem in girls - causing them to think they exist to satisfy the s*xual needs of the opposite s*x and making them accept abusive and abnormal behavior; for instance seeing r**e as normal and acceptable.

5. Po*******hy negatively impacts a child’s or teenager's quality of life and academic performance. This is because the supernormal stimulus, gotten from po*******hy will keep them glued to it and miss out on academic work and sleep. This can also lead to anxiety and mental health issues.

6. Po*******hy leads children to harm other children. Children are prone to copy what they see, so, when a child sees po*******hy, they practice po*******hy on other children and this puts them in harms way.

7. Po*******hy is harmful to the brain. It changes neural pathways in the brain, giving rise to supernormal stimulus in users.

8. And perhaps most importantly, po*******hy seeks to stop these children from becoming what they ought to be in Christ; constantly filling them with guilt, shame, pain and sadness and satan uses this opportunity to lie them that they are unworthy of God's love, thus making them want to hide from God.

Look out for HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BREAK FREE FROM THE BO***GE OF PO*******HY on this same space.

See you later.

God bless you!
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20/09/2022

Ama and her brother were only 6 years and 4 years respectively when their mother and father separated.

For reasons she didn't understand, their mother left them behind with their father.

Thinking back she could still remember her mother packing a box the night before.

She had asked her:
"Mum are you traveling?"

"No, I'm not", her mother responded.

"So why are you putting your stuff in that box?" She pressed.

Her mother didn't respond immediately; she had her back towards Ama, like she was doing all she could to make sure Ama doesn't see her face.

After what seemed like eternity, she cleared her throat, turned around and fixed her full gaze on Ama.

"Ama darling, I'm just arranging my stuff, I'm likely to have a long day tomorrow, so I thought to get it done with tonight"

Ama remembered thinking that there was something more than what her mum was saying; especially when her father chose that exact time to send them to their room with some biscuits and soft drinks.

Something, he never allows!

The next morning Ama and her brother woke up to their mum's absence; an absence that has lasted until this day.
..and that's when the journey of their father playing the role of mother and father begun.

One evening, a couple of months to her 8 years birthday, something happened to Ama; she noticed there was blood on her underpants. She went to her father and told him what she had observed. Her father looked at her in amazement, barely able to conceal his worry.

He asked her if anyone had touched her private parts, to which she answered no.

That was when it occurred to him that it may be a case of menstruation but he wondered why so early.

He called a doctor friend of his, who confirmed to him that although not common, there have been cases where girls see their menarche (first menstruation) that early.

Ama's dad was alarmed!

Pacing the floor with a feeling of inadequacy, he wondered why of all the people in the world, it would be his own daughter whose mother was absent from her life that should have an early manache.

He was still pacing around when he suddenly remembered that Ama was watching him and waiting for him to attend to her. His mind had drifted so far in just the few minutes of receiving the information from her.

He took a deep breath, sat Ama down and explained to her the meaning and implications of what just happened to her. After which he went out, got some sanitary pads and some new underpants.

When he got back, he bathed Ama, fixed a sanitary pad on a pant and gave it to her to put on. Before bedtime, he arranged another one for her and took the soiled one away. He did that again in the middle of the night.

The next day was a school day; Ama's dad arranged 6 sets of underpants with sanitary pads for her. He put them together in a clean nylon bag and asked her to put them he her school bag. He also gave her 6 nylon bags into which he asked her to put her soiled pads along with the pants every 4 hours.

His calculation was that, she would have more than enough change of pads by the time he would be back home.

That day, Ama went to school and did exactly as her dad had instructed her. She kept the soiled pads in the nylons her dad provided for that.

When her father got back, he disposed the used pads and washed the pants and of course made fresh ones available to her.

Ama's dad did this for her anytime she was on her period for over a year, after which she began to do it for herself.

As of today, Ama and her brother are in their early 20s; very well behaved young adults, who were single handedly raised by their father.

This is one reason why I will never understand fathers who live the raising of the children to the mother alone or worse still to the House Help because they have erroneously concluded that raising kids is a woman's job.

The more fathers are involved in the raising of the children, the better the children will turn out and of course, the better our society will be for it.

Thank you for reading.

God bless you!

31/08/2022

Anytime satan tries to make you feel unqualified because of your past, remember there was someone called Rahab and another called Paul.

29/08/2022

Walking in the flesh will only give you pleasure.

Walking in the spirit will give you POWER and CONSISTENT VICTORIES.

12/05/2022

A father came to me sometime ago weighed down with concerns about his 13 years old son, with whom he had observed some unpleasant and worrisome habits.

I began to put him through on some of the steps we will need to take to correct the situation.

I however noticed that all the time the man spoke he couldn't look me in the face. He kept looking above my head, below my head, everywhere else but at me. I sincerely do not know how to carry on a serious conversation without looking at the person with whom I’m conversing.

I had to ask him,
“What’s the matter, or aren’t you interested in taking care of this issue?”

Of course, he said he was interested just that he wasn’t used to discussing matters of that nature.

I looked at him and I felt sorry for him because I could sincerely see his discomfort with the conversation and the despair he felt about his son's matter.

We live in a world where everywhere you turn, some self-acclaimed influencer or celebrity is talking about s*x, some se per&vert is teaching about se , some gen-der.less personality is telling people about gen-der while the very group of people who have a direct relationship and fellowship with the originator and creator of s*x and s*xuality are quiet.

…and the worse of all is that the children, family, friends and brethren of this quiet group of people are hearing all of this misinformation from these wrong but loud voices.

As it is said, repetition is the law of deep and lasting impression.
The more they hear it, the more it sinks into them; in a short while those who let down their guard will begin to act and become that which they have consistently heard from the people of the world.

I have heard from and met a good number of teenagers of late, who are fighting a battle with one s*xual perversion/addiction or the other. I’m talking about teenagers who have been raised in church and are still committed in church, a number of them kids of people who are up there in their various ministries.

Do they know what they are doing is wrong?
“Yes, they do.”

Do they want to come out of it?
“Yes, they do.”

Bu these children feel all alone in fighting this battle as they don’t even know how to start the discussion with their parents because (in my opinion) the parents have not truly taken their place as they should.

I mean why should a father not be able to physically, exemplarily and prayerfully guide his son in all s*x and se related matters in these perilous times.

They have actually knowingly or unknowingly abdicated their role to the media, celibrities, influencers and the likes.

Nature abhors vacuum, so if you don't play your role in your child's life, someone/something else will definitely play the role.

It is your responsibility to teach your children that s*x was created by God Himself and every form of s*xual perversion originated from satan, the father of everything evil. This is why I am strongly of the opinion that the Christian community has to normalize discussing s*x and everything related to it.

Our children have to know God’s stand on these matters before they encounter them or get the wrong information.

We need to know and understand the struggles our teenagers are faced with in these areas and work with them to come out of it. We have to get them to understand that the fact that the world is always talking about s*x, doesn’t mean they know the truth about s*x and therefore will only give them distortions and outright lies.

We are at war, the devil is very evil and he is determined to use any medium to derail the elect at this time.

Remember, one of his major targets is the “godly seed” and we cannot afford to let him have his way with them.

We shouldn't be too busy to put in the needed effort (in every required way) into parenting our children.

God bless you!

30/04/2022

Dear Sir/Ma,

YOU ARE JOKING, IN FACT YOU ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE!

A normal day in my house is like a cinema.

From morning till bedtime (apart from siesta time), these kids are busy and one activity that is constant in their self imposed busy schedule is ACTING.

So what exactly do they act, you may ask?

They act out any cartoon, program or event they watched or attended.

Once they watch anything, each of them picks up a character; they begin to act, action for action, word for word.

I mean, they don't miss out any detail.

But guess what?

I'm intentional in my parenting.
I parent with the wisdom of God.

In my home we don't do random cartoons, random shows or cartoon networks. I actually download cartoons and go through them to be sure they align or do not interfere with our family's parenting goals and values before I release it to them.

So if as a parent, you think your kids just watch those strong content with you and it's over; YOU ARE JOKING!

IN FACT YOU ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE because they will either act out what they have seen with their siblings, friends, neighbors, school mates or even church classmates.

Even if they do not replicate it now or in your presence, they will replicate it later or/and in your absence.

Solution:
W**d your laptop!
W**d your phone!
W**d all your devices!
W**d your associations!
W**d your home!

W**d out everything and everyone that has the ability to point your kids in the wrong direction and plant wholesome information in place of the weeds.

Like I told you some days back, PARENTING IS SACRIFICE!
..and you have to make and continue to make the sacrifice.

Have yourself a great day.

God bless you!

29/04/2022

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29/04/2022

WHAT IS A HOME?

There is a reason God created the man and the woman to come together as husband and wife, have their own HOME, have kids, nurture and raise the kids in their HOME.

(Please take note that the emphasis here, is on the word HOME not on husband and wife because there are homes with single parents)

Permit me to give you my personal definition of the word "home".

The home in my opinion is a "cocoon" where a child is nurtured and raised to be that which s/he ought to be before s/he is let fully into the society.

As a child grows up, there may be occasions that would warrant the child stepping out of the cocoon briefly; such as going to school, running errands, going to church, etc but the child would always return to his/her cocoon.

This simply shows that, children spend most of their time at home.

If therefore, children spend most of their time at home, the major task or responsibility of raising them rests with whoever manages the home, which will be the parents or parent in the case of a single parent.

Why am I saying all of this?

There is never going to be a time that the society will be devoid of bad eggs.

There will always be societal misfits, bad eggs and the promoters of evil.
There certainly will always be parents who are too busy to be involved in raising their kids and even the ones who don't care how their kids turn out.
The media will not suddenly change their content because you gave birth to a child.

It is you who will intentionally make your home a place to raise a proper child who would one day become a proper adult.

In God's plan the home is for the child a place of:
Care
Nurturing
Security
Tutoring
Direction
Counsel
Instruction
Spiritual guidance
Development
W**ding
Sieving
Cleansing
Forming
It is the very first and most important school a child attends and it is managed by the PARENT(S).

If the foundation of this very first school (the home) is faulty, this isn't much that the school outside the home can do.

QUESTION
Are you running your home in such a way that it provides all of the above for your child?

You alone can answer that but do yourself the good of answering truthfully and making amends if need be.

God bless you!

Keno Ekeanyanwu

08/04/2022

Dear Parents,

THERE IS A TIME TO LOSE THE WHIP

Just recently, one of my mentee's mother called me on phone and we spoke for over 2 hours.

What was the issue?

Her teenage daughter sat her down and told her how she's still hurt about an encounter she had with her father over a year ago and how she's still not able to forgive him.

What happened was that, her father whipped her with the cane over a report he got from the housekeeper.

Now these are some of the girl's grievances:

1. He didn't even tell her the content of the report he was given.
2. He believed whatever he was told without even bothering to hear from her.
3. He whipped her mercilessly.
Etc.

Now this young lady is grieved and not able to get that day out of her mind.

This is how a lot of parents turn their once loving, obedient children into rebels over minor occurrences that should be resolved through dialogue.

There is a time to lose the whip (that's if you use it, I know there are parents who don't use it at all).

Any parent who uses a whip on his or her teenage child, is a parent who wants to have an angry rebel for a child. Teenagers are young adults, who are capable of coherent reasoning, when discipline is needed there are several other ways to discipline them other than a whip.

When you whip him/her, you end up creating a gulf between you two; a gulf that may remain for all time.

I know a lot of parents still refer to their own parents style of parenting as the standard but the times are different. You need to evolve. As it is now, you either lose the whip at a certain time, or you lose the child.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

God bless you!

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