16/02/2026
Many years ago, I had a conversation with someone about another person, we both talked about the unfair things that person has done to us...I'm someone who will NEVER EVER spill a venting conversation I had with someone to the person they vented about.
The conversation ended with me and I moved past it.
Imagine my shock when months later, that same person we talked about was now telling me everything I said in the conversation (and they were accurate) I was stupefied 😂 absolutely dumbfounded!!
It happened that this lady just relayed everything I said and left out the things that she said😂🤣 I was very pissed....I now narrated to the same person everything that person said because of course, it was a conversation and 2 people contributed wildly.
It later broke out issues and when we were asked to defend ourselves, I defended myself so well and I also talked about the terrible things she told me, I left the meeting with my shoulders very high because I'm not someone you can ever win an argument against, I'm very outspoken and very detailed in whatever I am saying and I work with facts...when I talk about what someone did to me, I speak my truth and I will never say what someone didn't do.
If you like, summon me to the president's office, I will still reach there and disgrace you.... eventually, the people who went and reported me started crying but it's not even my business, I walked out and went home unbothered.
I'm one person who will "never ever" break the girls code but if you try me, I go lock my mind finish you.
If I notice you are using me to gain favour, I will relay your side of the story because it definitely takes 2 to tango and I will cut you off afterwards....I don't give second chances to betrayal.
I won't even be patient enough to start confirming from the person, NO I won't ... especially when I know we had that conversation, I won't even explain to you what you did, na revenge straight.
But after some years, I realised that the best thing was just to cut them off, forget about spilling their own too, just cut them off from your life, it's absolutely peaceful that way.
By simply cutting them off, you won't have to go back and forth with them and that way you will heal better and move on faster.
My husband has really done a good job with making me a much more calmer person, for the past 3 years, I have begun to understand all the teachings my husband has been trying to pass across.
It has not been easy for me oh considering the fact that I am a very stubborn person, sometimes I still show myself once once😂🤣😁 but trust me, I'm learning.
The best thing to do to someone who betrayed your trust is to cut them off, don't explain, don't take revenge, don't go back and forth, just cut them off....time exposes everyone eventually.
Peace and love 🥰❤️🫶
