10/12/2025
There’s an uncomfortable truth about people who always blame their health on everything except their choices.
Many people are not sick because life is unfair… they are sick because they refuse to take responsibility. It is easier to outsource their symptoms to “village people,” “stress,” “family history,” “age,” or “enemies”… than to admit that their daily habits are the real enemy.
The heaviness of accountability is why so many baptize their lifestyle irresponsibility as “attack.”
It’s why they hide behind excuses like “I don’t have time,” “healthy food is expensive,” “this is how we’ve always eaten,” just to escape the discomfort of change.
There are people who rewrite every health story to favor their innocence, they remove their part, exaggerate external factors, delete anything that makes them responsible.
They desperately need to be right, and they desperately need something else to be wrong.
But here’s the truth:
Health is a harvest.
You cannot sow carelessness and reap wellness.
You cannot plant neglect and harvest strength.
Some people create the disasters they later cry about.
They skip water for days… then complain of headaches.
They overeat salty meals… then blame hypertension on “witchcraft.”
They drink soda like water… then act shocked at sudden weight gain.
They sleep poorly, eat anyhow, ignore their body, then call the consequences “bad luck.”
No, It is life delivering the bill written by their choices.
Anyone who complains about their health but refuses to change their habits is not looking for healing, they are looking for sympathy.
Victimhood needs an audience.
It feeds on people who will pity, not people who will correct.
That’s why many avoid wise voices, because wisdom will expose the truth they are running from.
So they surround themselves with people who normalize their habits, agree with their excuses, and help them stay comfortable in the very patterns destroying them.
Not every “I’m tired” is spiritual.
Sometimes it’s dehydration.
Not every “I feel weak” is an attack.
Sometimes it’s anemia from poor diet.
Not every “my body is failing me” is fate.
Sometimes it’s accumulated neglect demanding accountability.
A chronic victim of their own lifestyle does the same thing every year and expects a different result.
They make the same food choices…
Fall into the same binge eating cycle…
Repeat the same December overfeeding…
Cry the same January regrets…
Yet convince themselves that life is happening to them, never through them.
Nothing destroys a body faster than someone who expects health without effort.
They want strength without discipline.
They want weight loss without sacrifice.
They want healing without responsibility.
Tell them the truth, you become the enemy.
Suggest better choices, you become judgmental.
Encourage habit change, you become “too strict.”
Their suffering has become a script they repeat so well that healing feels like losing identity.
And here’s the hard part:
Many people reading this are exactly who I’m describing.
You don’t want a healthier life, you want a better story.
You want to sound like a victim, not act like a warrior.
Until you confront your habits,
your patterns,
your excuses,
your lack of discipline…
You will remain exactly where you’ve been, stuck, tired, frustrated, and confused.
It’s not a curse.
It’s not the devil.
It’s simply the consequence of committing to a story where you never evolve.
If you’re ready for change, your body is too.
©Dietitian Lydia Ayankoso, RDN
Registered Dietitian Nutritionist | Lecturer | Founder, Richlyd Diet Clinic
Passionate about helping individuals and families eat right, live light, and fulfill purpose through practical and evidence based nutrition.
