31/07/2020
THE MYTH OF A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Often times than not, we are greeted with the idea, thought and desire of having a perfect relationship, which isn't bad in itself, because "if wishes(desires) were horses(Lamborghinis) everyone would ride one."
The idea and desire for a perfect relationship is a noble one, and it's one to be pursued, but let's first of all take off that cloak of fantasy we must have unconsciously picked up somewhere and can't even remember or tell.
If you were into romance novels, you sure would have read a lot of fairy tales, happy endings, together forever etc stories that always left you craving for the very same, but what you didn't clearly see behind the stories in those novels was that they sold to your mind a fiction and an imagination of something to be desired but not so relatable with, when brought into the real world.
Or were you one who was rather stuck with your romance movies of the early 2000s, either the Nigerian or Foreign where everything was presented as perfect? I shouldn't have to remind you of how the drama usually played out and made you long for something similar;
This also sold lovely ideas and desires to your mind, and if some were true life stories, then you sure know they didn't put into the script all that transpired.
For different people, a perfect relationship would mean many different things because we all have different desires and estimations of what we call perfect. So one persons idea of a perfect relationship might not be same with another's. Meaning we can't have a universal marking scheme for what a perfect relationship should look like.
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So having a "PERFECT RELATIONSHIP" (If there's anything like that) doesn't mean we wouldn't make mistakes, and would be walking on egg shells in our relationship or that we would always be scared to never do the wrong thing so as to not offend our partner. "Perfect" in relationship doesn't mean flawless, spotless, blameless etc, I guess you get my drift?
Although we have models of an ideal and perfect relationship that we see and desire that ours would be same, but what we never care to know is that, what we see in these models is something they had to build together; and it took deliberate commitment and a lot of patience, and FORGIVENESS to make it into what you have come to see and desire.
So a perfect relationship is that one you are READY TO BUILD with your partner according to the model and design you both desire to have.
It sure won't be something you both would call a perfect relationship if you would be sincere, because you both would know what you had to adjust, deal with, give up, forgive and let go, and as well overcome for it to look the way it would look. But the world around you would only see what THEY CAN ONLY SEE on the surface as they don't live with you.
Today, many relationships pose on social media as a perfect one, but friend, its all a myth or something only you can create for yourselves.
All I'm saying is RELATIONSHIP IS A LOT OF WORK, and I mean HARD WORK, but not impossible to do, and it takes being deliberate to make any head way.
Although there is still more to be said.
I hope I didn't burst your bubbles on a "Fantasy Perfect Relationship"?
To be continued.
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