01/09/2025
I had the privilege of counseling a young lady recently on *keeping the spark alive during courtship*. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard this concern—because, truth is, expressing excitement doesn’t come naturally for everyone.
But here’s the thing: if you want to get married, stay married, and enjoy it for a lifetime, you’ll need that spark.
Marriage is an adult institution. And by now, we know adulthood comes with so much—responsibilities, work, children, extended family, and endless demands. All of this can quietly steal the wonder and excitement we once had for our spouse.
But that won’t be you. Like our walk with God, marriage is both **duty and delight**. There’s discipline in commitment, and joy in choosing love daily. You can have both—it just takes intentionality.
As I turned 40, one of my resolutions is to love my husband, Orgem, *louder*. I’ll praise him, affirm him, help him, travel to Jerusalem with him (as often as he wants 😅- well, and I want😉), and keep growing personally—because my growth reflects in our marriage.
May we never lose our wonder. Marriage was designed to be both purposeful and enjoyable. Here’s to the discipline of duty and the joy of delight!
