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21/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 111: You Are Allowed to Feel Settled

Scripture:
"Return to your rest, my soul, for the Lord has been good to you." - Psalm 116:7

Reflection:
For many people, being settled feels unfamiliar. When life has been shaped by instability, vigilance, or repeated disruption, calm can feel temporary - something you enjoy cautiously while waiting for it to disappear. You may find yourself bracing even in peaceful moments, unsure whether you are allowed to relax fully.

But settling does not mean stagnating. It means your nervous system is learning that it no longer needs to stay on guard. It means you are beginning to trust the ground beneath you. God does not design peace as a brief pause before chaos; He invites you into a rhythm of rest that sustains life and growth. Settledness is not something you steal, it is something you receive.

Allowing yourself to feel settled can stir unexpected emotions. You may feel relief, but also grief for how long you lived without safety. Both can exist together. God gently reassures your soul that rest is permitted here. You are not required to keep searching, striving, or scanning for danger. You are allowed to exhale. Being settled is not complacency; it is evidence of healing.

Prayer:
God, help my soul return to rest without fear. Teach me to trust peace and to receive settledness as a gift from You. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am allowed to feel settled. God’s goodness supports my rest.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

20/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 110: Belonging Is Not Performance-Based

Scripture:
"You are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with God's people and also members of His household." - Ephesians 2:19

Reflection:
For many people, belonging has felt conditional. You may have learned, directly or subtly, that acceptance depended on how well you behaved, how useful you were, or how much you fit in. Over time, belonging became something to earn rather than something to experience. This belief can quietly shape relationships, making you hyper-aware of how you are perceived.

Belonging that requires performance is exhausting. It keeps you constantly adjusting, monitoring, and proving. God's invitation is different. In Him, belonging comes before contribution. You are not welcomed because you perform well; you perform because you are already welcomed. This shift changes how you relate, to God, to others, and to yourself.

Learning that belonging is not performance-based allows you to relax into authenticity. You stop trying to secure your place and start inhabiting it. God's household is not built on perfection, but on grace. You are not an outsider trying to earn entry. You already belong. Letting this truth settle can free you from striving and open you to deeper connection.

Prayer:
God, help me internalise that I belong without performance. Heal the places where I have tried to earn acceptance, and teach me to rest in Your welcome. Amen.

Affirmation:
I belong without performance. God welcomes me as I am.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo,
Author | Therapist

19/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 109: You Don't Have to Prove Your Worth

Scripture:
"You are God’s treasured possession." - Deuteronomy 7:6

Reflection:
Many people learned to measure their worth through effort; how much they give, achieve, endure, or fix. Approval became something to earn, not something to receive. Over time, this creates an inner pressure to constantly perform, improve, or justify your place in people's lives. Rest feels uneasy because worth has been tied to usefulness.

But your worth is not a moving target. It is not increased by success or diminished by struggle. God does not relate to you as a project to be evaluated; He relates to you as someone already valued. You do not need to prove your goodness, your loyalty, or your significance to be loved. You belong before you achieve.

Releasing the need to prove yourself is deeply freeing. It allows you to show up authentically instead of strategically. You begin to choose from alignment rather than fear of rejection. God's voice does not push you to earn love; it reminds you that you already have it. When worth is settled internally, striving loses its grip.

Prayer:
God, help me release the need to prove my worth. Teach me to rest in the truth that I am already valued, loved, and chosen by You. Amen.

Affirmation:
My worth is secure. I do not need to prove myself to be loved.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

18/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 108: You Are Learning to Live From Rest, Not Rush

Scripture:
"In returning and rest you shall be saved; in quietness and trust shall be your strength." - Isaiah 30:15

Reflection:
Many people have lived for so long in urgency that rest feels unnatural. Rush therefore becomes the default; thinking faster, responding quicker, doing more, because slowing down once felt unsafe. When life demanded constant alertness, speed became a form of protection. Over time, the body forgets what it feels like to move without pressure.

Living from rest does not mean doing nothing. It means allowing your actions to come from groundedness rather than fear. When you live from rest, you are no longer driven by panic, comparison, or the need to prove yourself. Your choices become more intentional. Your "yes" and "no" carry clarity instead of exhaustion. God never intended for your strength to come from constant striving.

Learning to live from rest is a reorientation of the soul. It takes time for the nervous system to trust that slowing down will not lead to collapse. God gently teaches you that rest is not a reward for survival, it is the foundation for healthy living. You are not falling behind when you move from rest. You are finally moving from a place of strength.

Prayer:
God, help me learn how to live from rest instead of rush. Calm the parts of me that fear slowing down, and teach me to trust Your strength within me. Amen.

Affirmation:
I live from rest, not rush. God is my strength and my pace.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

17/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 107: Calm Is Not Complacency

Scripture:
"Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him." - Psalm 37:7

Reflection:
Many people confuse calm with giving up. If you grew up believing that vigilance, urgency, or constant effort kept things from falling apart, calm can feel irresponsible. You may worry that if you relax your grip, something will go wrong, that stillness means you are no longer trying hard enough or caring deeply enough.

But calm is not complacency. Calm is regulation. It is what happens when your nervous system is no longer driven by fear, panic, or pressure. You can be calm and still intentional. Calm and still discerning. Calm and still committed. God's invitation to stillness is not an instruction to disengage from life, but an invitation to engage from a grounded place.

When you operate from calm, your decisions become clearer and your responses more measured. You stop reacting from urgency and begin responding from wisdom. God does not rush you into action fueled by anxiety. He invites you to trust that steadiness can coexist with purpose. Calm does not mean you have stopped caring, it means you have learned how to care without self-destruction.

Prayer:
God, help me trust calm as a healthy state, not a threat. Teach me to live and decide from steadiness rather than urgency. Amen.

Affirmation:
Calm is safe for me. I can be grounded and purposeful at the same time.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

16/04/2026

I once had a conversation with a man who explained why he didn’t want to marry his fiancée. He described her as "lazy" and insisted he could never build a future with a lazy woman.

I asked what exactly made him think she was lazy, especially because I knew the lady in question and that description didn't quite align with what I knew of her.

He explained that whenever she visited him on weekends, she wouldn't wake up until past 8 a.m. to start cleaning the house.

I had to be sure I heard him correctly, so I asked again, was waking up after 8 a.m. really the basis for calling her lazy?

His response shocked me.

He said a hardworking woman should wake up much earlier to clean. Then he added that his mother wakes up by 5 a.m., and according to a relationship influencer he follows online, any woman who wakes up later than 6 a.m. is lazy.

At that point, I couldn't say much. I simply told him he might as well marry the influencer, or better still, get a nanny, and leave someone's daughter in peace.

Dear you,
If you build your life on comparison, opinions, and borrowed standards, you will almost certainly lose your way.

Not every woman is your mother.
Not every home runs on the same system.
Not every "rule" on social media is wisdom.

What works for one person can become emotional oppression for another.

Marriage is not a copy-and-paste arrangement. It is not a performance based on timelines, wake-up hours, or who starts chores first. It is a partnership built on understanding, compatibility, communication, and shared values.

If your expectation of a spouse is shaped more by what you've seen or what someone tweeted than by meaningful conversations with your partner, then you are not preparing for marriage, you are preparing for control and disappointment.

A person who wakes up at 8 a.m. is not automatically lazy; neither is a person who wakes up at 5 a.m. automatically hardworking.

Character is deeper than routines.

Before you label someone, ask:

What is their lifestyle like? For instance, the lady in question works Mondays to Fridays on the island and most likely considers Saturday a restful day, only for her to be labeled lazy just because an influencer said so.

What agreements have we both made?

Are my expectations realistic or inherited?

More importantly: Do you want a partner or a replica of someone else?

Know yourself enough to define what truly matters to you.
Communicate clearly.
Allow room for individuality.

And please, stop outsourcing your thinking to strangers on the internet.

Because at the end of the day, you will not marry a tweet. You will marry a human being, with rhythms, differences, and a life that deserves respect.

You know I love you❤

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

16/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 106: Peace Does Not Require Permission

Scripture:
"Great peace have those who love Your law, and nothing can make them stumble." - Psalm 119:165

Reflection:
Many people wait for permission to feel at peace. They tell themselves they will rest once things are resolved, once others are satisfied, once circumstances improve, or once they feel more deserving. Peace becomes postponed, conditional, and fragile, always just out of reach.

But peace was never meant to be negotiated. You do not need everyone to agree with you, understand you, or approve of your choices in order to be at peace. Waiting for external permission keeps your inner life hostage to factors you cannot control. God does not attach peace to perfection or consensus. He offers it as an inner anchor.

Learning that peace does not require permission is liberating. It allows you to stop overexplaining, overdefending, and overfunctioning. You begin to recognise that discomfort in others does not mean danger for you. God's peace is not dependent on harmony around you, it is rooted in alignment within you. You are allowed to be at peace even when things are unfinished.

Prayer:
God, help me stop waiting for permission to be at peace. Teach me to anchor my calm in You rather than in circumstances or approval. Amen.

Affirmation:
I do not need permission to be at peace. God’s peace is available to me now.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

15/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 105: You Are Allowed to Protect Your Peace

Scripture:
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." - Proverbs 4:23

Reflection:
Protecting your peace can feel uncomfortable when you are used to prioritising harmony, availability, or others' expectations over your own wellbeing. You may worry that choosing peace means avoiding responsibility, being selfish, or disappointing people. But peace is not avoidance, it is discernment. It is recognising what drains you unnecessarily and choosing differently.

Peace does not require you to engage every conflict, explain every boundary, or remain in spaces that unsettle your spirit. God calls you to guard your heart, not expose it to constant strain. Protecting your peace is an act of wisdom that honours your emotional capacity and spiritual health. It allows you to show up more fully where it truly matters.

As you grow, you may notice a lower tolerance for chaos, manipulation, or emotional overreach. This is not hardness; it is healing. You are learning that peace is something worth preserving. God supports boundaries that protect your inner life. You are allowed to step back, say no, and choose environments that support your becoming.

Prayer:
God, help me protect my peace with wisdom and courage. Teach me to honour my limits and to trust that guarding my heart allows me to live more fully and faithfully. Amen.

Affirmation:
My peace matters. I am allowed to protect it with wisdom and grace.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

14/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 104: You Are Learning to Choose Peace

Scripture:
"Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts." - Colossians 3:15

Reflection:
Peace is not only something you feel; it is something you learn to choose. Early on, peace may have depended on circumstances; things going right, people behaving well, or life being predictable. When those conditions were missing, peace felt impossible. Over time, this can teach you to live reactively, waiting for the outside world to settle before you allow yourself to.

Healing introduces a different kind of choice. You begin to notice that even when circumstances are imperfect, you can still respond with groundedness. Choosing peace does not mean avoiding hard conversations, suppressing emotions, or pretending everything is fine. It means refusing to live in constant inner conflict. It means pausing, regulating, and deciding not to let fear or urgency dominate your responses.

God invites peace to rule in your heart; not to visit occasionally, but to have authority. This kind of peace is not passive; it is intentional. You choose it when you set boundaries, slow down, tell the truth, or walk away from unnecessary chaos. Each time you choose peace, you reinforce safety within yourself. You are learning that peace is not weakness, it is wisdom in action.

Prayer:
God, help me choose peace even when life feels unsettled. Teach me to let Your peace guide my decisions, reactions, and relationships. Amen.

Affirmation:
I choose peace. God’s calm wisdom guides my heart.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

13/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 103: Peace Is a Sign of Healing

Scripture:
"Now may the Lord of peace Himself give you peace at all times and in every way. - 2 Thessalonians 3:16

Reflection:
Peace often arrives quietly. It does not announce itself with dramatic change or obvious milestones. Instead, it shows up as less inner conflict, fewer emotional extremes, and a growing sense of steadiness within. Because peace is subtle, it can easily be overlooked or undervalued—especially if you are used to measuring life by intensity rather than alignment.

For many people, peace was once associated with vulnerability or loss of control. Chaos felt familiar; calm felt suspicious. But peace is not absence of feeling; it is the presence of regulation. It means your nervous system is learning that it does not have to stay on high alert. God's peace is not fragile or passive; it is strong, anchoring, and protective.

As healing deepens, peace becomes less about circumstances and more about internal grounding. You may still face challenges, but they no longer completely destabilise you. This is not numbness; it is resilience. Peace is not something you force; it is something that grows as safety, truth, and self-trust increase. If peace is showing up more often, honour it. It is evidence of healing at work.

Prayer:
God, help me recognise peace as a gift and a sign of healing. Teach me to rest in the steadiness You are building within me. Amen.

Affirmation:
Peace is growing within me. God's healing is taking root in my life.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

12/04/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 102: Stability Is Not Boring

Scripture:
"God is not a God of disorder but of peace." - 1 Corinthians 14:33

Reflection:
For those who grew up around chaos, inconsistency, or emotional intensity, stability can feel unfamiliar, or even unsettling. When your nervous system is used to unpredictability, calm can be misread as emptiness, and peace can feel like something is missing. You may find yourself craving excitement or conflict without fully understanding why.

Stability does not mean lack of passion, growth, or depth. It means safety. It means your body is no longer on constant alert. God’s peace is not dull; it is grounding. It creates space for clarity, creativity, and genuine connection. When life becomes steadier, you are finally able to rest, reflect, and engage more fully.

Learning to appreciate stability takes time. It requires retraining your nervous system to recognise peace as a good thing. God invites you to lean into this steadiness; not to fear it. Stability is not a sign that life has lost meaning; it is a sign that your foundation is strengthening. You are allowed to enjoy calm without waiting for the next disruption.

Prayer:
God, help me embrace stability as a gift. When peace feels unfamiliar, remind me that calm can be life-giving and safe. Amen.

Affirmation:
Stability is healthy for me. God’s peace grounds and strengthens me.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

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