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24/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 83: You Can Start Again Without Shame

Scripture:
"His mercies are new every morning." - Lamentations 3:23

Reflection:
Starting again can feel heavy when it is layered with shame. You may wonder why you are back here, revisiting old patterns or beginning something you thought you had already mastered. Shame whispers that you should be further along by now, that needing another beginning means you failed. But growth does not follow a straight line.

God does not relate to your restarts with disappointment. He meets each beginning with fresh mercy, not judgement. Starting again does not erase progress; it often reflects deeper awareness. You return not as the same person, but with more insight, humility, and compassion. God honours your willingness to begin again more than your ability to avoid needing to.

Releasing shame around starting over creates freedom. It allows you to engage the present moment honestly instead of dragging the past with you. God's mercies are not rationed based on how many times you’ve tried before. Each new day carries its own grace. You are allowed to start again, cleanly, gently, and without self-condemnation.

Prayer:
God, help me release shame around starting again. Thank You for meeting me with fresh mercy and inviting me into new beginnings without judgement. Amen.

Affirmation:
I can start again without shame. God’s mercy meets me every day.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

23/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 82: You Are Allowed to Pause

Scripture:
"Be still, and know that I am God." - Psalm 46:10

Reflection:
Pausing can feel uncomfortable in a world that rewards constant motion. Many people equate stillness with stagnation and pausing with falling behind. If your worth has been tied to productivity or usefulness, slowing down may trigger guilt or anxiety. You may feel the urge to explain your pause or justify why you are not doing more.

But a pause is not avoidance; it is discernment. It creates space to breathe, to listen, and to reconnect with what truly matters. God does not rush you past moments of rest or reflection. He often invites stillness precisely because something within you needs attention, care, or recalibration. Pausing allows wisdom to surface and clarity to form.

When you allow yourself to pause, you acknowledge your humanity. You stop forcing movement and begin honouring rhythm. God is present in the pause, not waiting impatiently for you to resume, but meeting you where you are. Stillness does not derail your becoming; it supports it. You are allowed to pause without fear of being left behind.

Prayer:
God, help me embrace moments of pause without guilt or fear. Teach me to trust that stillness can be sacred and that You meet me there with care. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am allowed to pause. God is present with me in stillness.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

22/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 81: God Is With You in the Quiet Seasons

Scripture:
"He leads me beside quiet waters, He restores my soul." - Psalm 23:2-3

Reflection:
Quiet seasons can feel confusing, especially if you are used to movement, clarity, or visible progress. When life slows down and there are fewer signs to measure growth by, it is easy to wonder if anything is happening at all. Silence can be mistaken for stagnation, and stillness can feel like being left behind.

But quiet does not mean absent. God often restores in stillness, not noise. Quiet seasons are where integration happens, where lessons settle, emotions soften, and the nervous system learns safety again. These moments are not pauses in your becoming; they are part of it. God uses quiet to tend to parts of you that could not be reached in busier seasons.

In the quiet, you begin to hear yourself more clearly. You notice what you truly need, what has healed, and what still requires care. God walks gently with you here, restoring your soul without urgency. You are not wasting time. You are being strengthened in ways that will sustain you long after the noise returns.

Prayer:
God, help me trust You in quiet seasons. When life feels still, remind me that You are restoring me in ways I cannot yet see. Amen.

Affirmation:
God is with me in quiet seasons. Restoration is happening within me.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

21/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 80: Growth Can Feel Lonely

Scripture:
"I am with you always, to the very end of the age." - Matthew 28:20

Reflection:
Growth often changes how you see the world, and how the world responds to you. As you become more self-aware, set healthier boundaries, and choose alignment over approval, you may notice fewer people walking closely beside you. This shift can feel isolating, even when it is necessary. Growth sometimes creates distance before it creates new connection.

Loneliness in growth does not mean you are doing something wrong. It often means you are no longer participating in patterns that once bonded you to others. Shared habits, shared wounds, or shared coping mechanisms may no longer sustain connection. This can be painful, especially when the people you are outgrowing once felt like home.

God understands this loneliness. He does not leave you to navigate growth alone. His presence remains steady, even when human companionship thins out. This season of loneliness is not permanent; it is transitional. God uses it to deepen your self-trust, clarify your values, and prepare you for relationships that align with who you are becoming. You are not abandoned, you are being repositioned.

Prayer:
God, meet me in the loneliness that sometimes accompanies growth. Help me trust that You are present with me and that new and aligned connections will come in time. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am not alone in my growth. God walks with me through every season.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

20/03/2026

𝘼 𝙎𝙚𝙭𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙈𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙏𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚

A s*xless marriage can feel like silent torture. Not because s*x is everything, but because intimacy is something.

In marriage, s*x is more than a physical act. It is connection. It is reassurance. It is bonding. It is a language of love for many people.

So when it consistently disappears, something deeper is often missing too.

What makes it painful is not just the absence of s*x, it is the rejection, the loneliness, the confusion, the feeling of being unwanted by the one person who is meant to choose you daily.

And over time, that silence can turn into resentment.

This is not about entitlement to someone's body. This is about the health of a marital relationship.

Because a thriving marriage requires:

💥 Emotional intimacy

💥 Physical connection

💥 Open communication

When one consistently breaks down, the others begin to suffer.

But instead of shame and silence, we need honest conversations.

A s*xless marriage can be a symptom of:

💥 Unresolved conflict

💥 Emotional disconnection

💥 Stress and exhaustion

💥 Hormonal or medical issues

💥 Trauma or past wounds

💥 Mismatched expectations

Ignoring it doesn’t fix it.
Spiritualizing it without addressing it doesn’t heal it.
Enduring it without communication only deepens the wound.

Healing starts with:

💥 Honest and safe conversations

💥 Removing blame and defensiveness

💥 Seeking professional help when needed

💥 Rebuilding emotional safety

Because the goal is not just s*x, the goal is connection.

Marriage is not meant to be endured in silent deprivation. It is meant to be experienced in wholeness.

If this is your reality, don’t normalize suffering.
Don’t weaponize silence.
Don’t give up without understanding what is really broken.

There is help. There is healing. There is a way back to intimacy.

You know I love you 🌹

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

20/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 79: You Are Allowed to Outgrow People and Places

Scripture:
"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past." - Isaiah 43:18

Reflection:
Outgrowing people and places can bring unexpected grief. Even when growth is necessary, leaving behind what once felt familiar can stir guilt, sadness, or fear. You may question whether you are being ungrateful or disloyal for wanting more space, change, or alignment. But growth naturally involves movement.

Outgrowing does not mean rejecting your past or the people who were part of it. It means recognising that who you are becoming may require different environments, boundaries, or rhythms. God does not keep you bound to what no longer nurtures you. He invites you forward, not to dishonour where you’ve been, but to honour where you are going.

Allowing yourself to outgrow something requires courage and compassion, for yourself and others. It means trusting that change does not erase love or appreciation. Some seasons are meant to prepare you, not contain you forever. God makes room for new things by gently loosening your grip on what no longer fits. Outgrowing is not betrayal; it is becoming.

Prayer:
God, help me release guilt around outgrowing people, places, or seasons. Give me wisdom to honour the past while stepping faithfully into what You are leading me towards. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am allowed to outgrow what no longer aligns with my becoming.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author|Therapist

19/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 78: You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind

Scripture:
"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps." — Proverbs 16:9

Reflection:
Changing your mind can feel unsettling, especially if you were taught that consistency means never revising a decision. You may worry about being seen as unreliable, confused, or weak. But growth often involves new information, deeper awareness, and evolving values. Holding yourself to outdated decisions can become a form of self-betrayal.

God’s guidance is not rigid. He understands that as you heal and grow, clarity increases. What once made sense may no longer align with who you are becoming. Changing your mind is not failure; it is responsiveness. It reflects the courage to adjust when truth becomes clearer. God does not shame you for growth, He leads you through it.

Allowing yourself to change your mind creates flexibility and self-trust. It signals that you are paying attention to your inner wisdom and God’s prompting. Growth requires humility, not stubbornness. You are allowed to revise your choices as your understanding deepens. God establishes your steps, even when the path changes.

Prayer:
God, help me release the fear of changing my mind. Give me clarity to recognise when growth is inviting me to choose differently and courage to follow Your leading. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am allowed to change my mind. God guides my steps with wisdom.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

18/03/2026

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18/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 77: Choose Yourself Without Guilt

Scripture:
"Love your neighbour as yourself." - Mark 12:31

Reflection:
Choosing yourself has often been framed as selfish, especially for those who were taught to prioritise others' needs above their own. Over time, self-neglect becomes normalised, and choosing yourself can trigger guilt, anxiety, or fear of being judged. Yet loving others was never meant to come at the expense of loving yourself.

Choosing yourself does not mean disregarding others or acting without empathy. It means acknowledging that your needs, limits, and wellbeing matter too. God's command to love includes the self, not as an afterthought, but as an integral part of healthy relationship. When you consistently choose others at your own expense, love becomes unsustainable and resentment quietly builds.

Learning to choose yourself without guilt is an act of healing. It requires unlearning beliefs that equate self-care with selfishness and replacing them with truth rooted in balance and wisdom. God does not ask you to disappear to prove love. He invites you to live whole, grounded, and present. When you choose yourself wisely, you show up for others with more authenticity and peace.

Prayer:
God, help me release guilt around choosing myself. Teach me to honour my needs and limits with wisdom, knowing that You value my wellbeing. Amen.

Affirmation:
I can choose myself without guilt. My wellbeing matters to God.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

17/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 76: You Can Disappoint Someone and Still Be Loving

Scripture:
"Am I now trying to please people, or God?" - Galatians 1:10

Reflection:
For many people, disappointment feels dangerous. It carries the fear of rejection, withdrawal, or being misunderstood. If you learned early that love was conditional, given when you pleased others and threatened when you did not, you may have become skilled at avoiding disappointment at all costs. Over time, this can lead to chronic self-betrayal.

Disappointing someone does not automatically mean you have done something wrong. It often simply means you made a choice that honoured your limits, values, or needs. Love that requires constant agreement or sacrifice of self is not sustainable. God does not measure love by how little you disappoint others, but by how truthfully and wisely you live.

Learning to tolerate disappointment, yours and others', is a sign of emotional maturity. It allows relationships to be built on honesty rather than fear. You can be kind, respectful, and loving while still choosing differently from what someone else wants. God supports love that is rooted in integrity, not people-pleasing. You are allowed to choose truth even when it disappoints.

Prayer:
God, help me release the fear of disappointing others. Teach me to live with integrity, trusting that love can remain even when expectations are unmet. Amen.

Affirmation:
I can disappoint someone and still be loving. I choose integrity and truth.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

16/03/2026

𝙃𝙊𝙒 𝙐𝙉𝘿𝙀𝙍𝙎𝙏𝘼𝙉𝘿𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝘾𝙃𝙍𝙄𝙎𝙏’𝙎 𝙇𝙊𝙑𝙀 𝘾𝙃𝘼𝙉𝙂𝙀𝙎 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙒𝘼𝙔 𝙒𝙀 𝘾𝙃𝙊𝙊𝙎𝙀 𝙍𝙀𝙇𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉𝙎𝙃𝙄𝙋𝙎

One of the hidden reasons many people enter unhealthy relationships or marriages is not simply bad luck or poor judgement. Often, it is a lack of understanding of the depth of Christ's love.

When a person does not truly understand how deeply they are loved by God, it affects how they see themselves, and ultimately, how they choose others.

The Bible says in Ephesians 3:18-19 that we should "comprehend the breadth, length, depth, and height of the love of Christ." This suggests that Christ’s love is not something we should assume we understand. It is something we must come to know deeply.

And when that understanding is missing, many things become distorted.

𝚆𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝙲𝚑𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚝'𝚜 𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝙸𝚜 𝙽𝚘𝚝 𝚄𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚘𝚍, 𝚂𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚆𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚑 𝙱𝚎𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚜 𝙵𝚛𝚊𝚐𝚒𝚕𝚎

If a person does not know they are deeply loved by God, they may unconsciously search for that validation in relationships.

They may tolerate disrespect because they are afraid of losing someone.

They may settle for less because they believe they cannot do better.

They may rush into relationships because they fear being alone.

But when someone truly understands Christ's love, their sense of worth changes. They know they are already accepted, valued, and loved.

This changes how they approach relationships.

ᴄʜʀɪꜱᴛ'ꜱ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴇᴀᴄʜᴇꜱ ᴜꜱ ʜᴏᴡ ᴛᴏ ᴠᴀʟᴜᴇ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ

Christ's love shows us that we matter.

Romans 5:8 reminds us that "while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." That means your value was established long before anyone chose you.

When you know this, you stop allowing people to treat you as though you are disposable.

You begin to ask better questions:

Does this relationship honour God?

Does this person respect me?

Does this connection bring peace or confusion?

Understanding Christ’s love gives you the confidence to walk away from what diminishes you.

𝙲𝚑𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚝'𝚜 𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝙱𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝙲𝚕𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚒𝚗 𝙲𝚑𝚘𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐

Many people choose partners from a place of emptiness. They hope the relationship will heal wounds or fill a void.

But relationships built on emotional hunger often lead to unhealthy attachment.

When you are secure in Christ's love, you no longer choose from desperation, you choose from discernment.

You are not looking for someone to complete you; you are looking for someone who can walk with you in wholeness.

𝚄𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝙲𝚑𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚝’𝚜 𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝙻𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚆𝚒𝚜𝚎𝚛 𝙳𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜

The more deeply you understand the love of Christ, the less likely you are to settle for relationships that contradict that love.

You begin to recognise that if Christ values you deeply, your choices should reflect that value.

You start choosing peace over pressure; character over charm and purpose over temporary excitement.

Before choosing the right partner, a person must first understand how deeply they are loved by Christ.

Because when you know your worth in Him, you stop accepting relationships that make you feel worthless.

Understanding Christ’s love does not just heal the heart, it guides the choices of the heart.

And sometimes, the difference between a wise relationship and a destructive one is simply this: 𝙆𝙣𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙙𝙚𝙚𝙥𝙡𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙙.

You know I love you 🌹

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo,
Your Sister

16/03/2026

The Becoming Season Daily Devotional

DAY 75: You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Emotions

Scripture:
"Each one should carry their own load." - Galatians 6:5

Reflection:
Many people have learned to monitor other people’s emotions closely, which leads them to adjusting their tone, choices, or boundaries to keep others comfortable. This often begins in environments where emotional stability was fragile or where peace depended on managing someone else’s reactions. Over time, you may have come to believe that others’ happiness, disappointment, or anger is somehow your responsibility.

Caring about others does not mean carrying their emotional weight. God does not assign you the role of emotional regulator in relationships. Each person is responsible for their own feelings, responses, and healing. When you take on what is not yours to carry, you often abandon your own needs in the process.

Letting go of emotional over-responsibility can feel uncomfortable at first. You may worry about being seen as selfish or unkind. But releasing this burden creates space for healthier and more honest connections. God invites you to love with compassion without control, to show up with care while trusting others to manage their own inner world. You are allowed to be kind without self-sacrifice.

Prayer:
God, help me release the burden of managing other people’s emotions. Teach me to love with compassion while trusting You to work in others’ hearts. Amen.

Affirmation:
I am not responsible for other people’s emotions. I can love without carrying what is not mine.

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Author | Therapist

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